Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] re: Adoption was Red heads - was Is It Normal?
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I can probably be a little more specific!
Being adopted is something I have always been. I have always had brown hair,
liked purple, eaten well, and been adopted.
Healthy knowledgeable adoptive parents (Which are who I will refer to in this
email as abusiveness comes from both types of parents and I'm not addressing
that) are not going to hide something like adoption, it's just a simple
factor in the family dynamics. Not a big deal or a bad thing.
I think that people who don't have experience with adoption think of it as
something "less than" or a second choice. Adoption is a good thing! It is a
blessing for many people, both adults and children alike.
I have always been told that I was extra special because I was adopted. One
woman loved me so much she put aside her own feelings to offer me a better
life, another woman loved me so much that she looked for me and found me,
giving me that better life.
My mother is my mother, the fact that her DNA is not the basis of my DNA is a
technicality.
Now, that said, I do wish that the laws were different in MD when I was born
as I have no knowledge of my biological family medical history which worries
me.
My husband was adopted too, we always make jokes about being brother and
sister.
Elissa
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Being adopted is something I have always been. I have always had brown hair,
liked purple, eaten well, and been adopted.
Healthy knowledgeable adoptive parents (Which are who I will refer to in this
email as abusiveness comes from both types of parents and I'm not addressing
that) are not going to hide something like adoption, it's just a simple
factor in the family dynamics. Not a big deal or a bad thing.
I think that people who don't have experience with adoption think of it as
something "less than" or a second choice. Adoption is a good thing! It is a
blessing for many people, both adults and children alike.
I have always been told that I was extra special because I was adopted. One
woman loved me so much she put aside her own feelings to offer me a better
life, another woman loved me so much that she looked for me and found me,
giving me that better life.
My mother is my mother, the fact that her DNA is not the basis of my DNA is a
technicality.
Now, that said, I do wish that the laws were different in MD when I was born
as I have no knowledge of my biological family medical history which worries
me.
My husband was adopted too, we always make jokes about being brother and
sister.
Elissa
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Betsy
**Healthy knowledgeable adoptive parents ... are not going to hide
something like adoption, it's just a simple factor in the family dynamics.**
Right. But biological children who are repeatedly told by strangers how
much they don't look like one or more parents may develop a suspicion
that they are adopted and that no one has been straight with them. That
was the situation that I thought called for reassurance.
Betsy
something like adoption, it's just a simple factor in the family dynamics.**
Right. But biological children who are repeatedly told by strangers how
much they don't look like one or more parents may develop a suspicion
that they are adopted and that no one has been straight with them. That
was the situation that I thought called for reassurance.
Betsy
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In a message dated 11/16/02 10:33:04 AM Eastern Standard Time,
ecsamhill@... writes:
comments, why not just respond with a polite "Does that bother you? [that
they don't look like me]
I also think that many children at some point wonder if they aren't adopted.
I think that many of us here on the list have thought at least once in our
lives, "These people are nuts, I must be adopted" LOL
As to it being a "reassurance" that they aren't adopted, there is an
implication that adoption is bad.
Elissa
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ecsamhill@... writes:
> Right. But biological children who are repeatedly told by strangers howTo me that is two different issues. to the strangers that are making rude
> much they don't look like one or more parents may develop a suspicion
> that they are adopted and that no one has been straight with them. That
> was the situation that I thought called for reassurance.
>
>
comments, why not just respond with a polite "Does that bother you? [that
they don't look like me]
I also think that many children at some point wonder if they aren't adopted.
I think that many of us here on the list have thought at least once in our
lives, "These people are nuts, I must be adopted" LOL
As to it being a "reassurance" that they aren't adopted, there is an
implication that adoption is bad.
Elissa
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Myranda
Gosh, so many happy adoption stories here, it's making me feel a lot better! Thanks!!
Myranda
From: Earthmomma67@...
I can probably be a little more specific!
Being adopted is something I have always been. I have always had brown hair,
liked purple, eaten well, and been adopted.
Healthy knowledgeable adoptive parents (Which are who I will refer to in this
email as abusiveness comes from both types of parents and I'm not addressing
that) are not going to hide something like adoption, it's just a simple
factor in the family dynamics. Not a big deal or a bad thing.
I think that people who don't have experience with adoption think of it as
something "less than" or a second choice. Adoption is a good thing! It is a
blessing for many people, both adults and children alike.
I have always been told that I was extra special because I was adopted. One
woman loved me so much she put aside her own feelings to offer me a better
life, another woman loved me so much that she looked for me and found me,
giving me that better life.
My mother is my mother, the fact that her DNA is not the basis of my DNA is a
technicality.
Now, that said, I do wish that the laws were different in MD when I was born
as I have no knowledge of my biological family medical history which worries
me.
My husband was adopted too, we always make jokes about being brother and
sister.
Elissa
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Myranda
From: Earthmomma67@...
I can probably be a little more specific!
Being adopted is something I have always been. I have always had brown hair,
liked purple, eaten well, and been adopted.
Healthy knowledgeable adoptive parents (Which are who I will refer to in this
email as abusiveness comes from both types of parents and I'm not addressing
that) are not going to hide something like adoption, it's just a simple
factor in the family dynamics. Not a big deal or a bad thing.
I think that people who don't have experience with adoption think of it as
something "less than" or a second choice. Adoption is a good thing! It is a
blessing for many people, both adults and children alike.
I have always been told that I was extra special because I was adopted. One
woman loved me so much she put aside her own feelings to offer me a better
life, another woman loved me so much that she looked for me and found me,
giving me that better life.
My mother is my mother, the fact that her DNA is not the basis of my DNA is a
technicality.
Now, that said, I do wish that the laws were different in MD when I was born
as I have no knowledge of my biological family medical history which worries
me.
My husband was adopted too, we always make jokes about being brother and
sister.
Elissa
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**Now, that said, I do wish that the laws were different in MD when I was
born
as I have no knowledge of my biological family medical history which worries
me.**
Static medical history from the time you were born wouldn't be all that much
help to you anyway. Current medical history would be much better. Your bio
parents were probably both still young at the time of your birth, and *their*
parents relatively young, as well. Things have changed thirty odd years down
the road.
Deborah in IL
born
as I have no knowledge of my biological family medical history which worries
me.**
Static medical history from the time you were born wouldn't be all that much
help to you anyway. Current medical history would be much better. Your bio
parents were probably both still young at the time of your birth, and *their*
parents relatively young, as well. Things have changed thirty odd years down
the road.
Deborah in IL
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In a message dated 11/17/02 1:35:51 AM Eastern Standard Time,
dacunefare@... writes:
Bio mom was in her early thirties, conceived while seperated from husband
(not bio-dad) who upon reconciling, refused to raise the child of that union.
Can't say I blame him. She had 5 other children and worked as a secretary.
Rather difficult to raise 6 children on that kind of salary. The reason that
the health has me wondering is because it is believed that she passed away
from cancer (unknown type) about 2 years ago.
I should probably just start with a check-up.
Elissa
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dacunefare@... writes:
> Your bioNope! Bio dad was Korean war vet, lost a leg.
> parents were probably both still young at the time of your birth, and
> *their*
> parents relatively young, as well. Things have changed thirty odd years
> down
> the road.
>
>
Bio mom was in her early thirties, conceived while seperated from husband
(not bio-dad) who upon reconciling, refused to raise the child of that union.
Can't say I blame him. She had 5 other children and worked as a secretary.
Rather difficult to raise 6 children on that kind of salary. The reason that
the health has me wondering is because it is believed that she passed away
from cancer (unknown type) about 2 years ago.
I should probably just start with a check-up.
Elissa
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