Julie Stauffer

<<find out everything about his birth and his birthmother that you can
before you adopt him.>>

She already has adopted him. I have adopted 3 children whose parental
backgrounds would make your hair stand on end. While we were fostering but
planning to adopt Danny we knew he had Hepatitis C but we found out that the
dr. was concerned he might also have HIV. Scared me to death. We cried and
cried. I will never forget the social worker asking if we were still
interested in adopting him. It blew my mind. We were committed to Danny no
matter what, didn't matter if some judge had signed a paper or not.

What I'm trying to say is that a lot of people see families through adoption
as almost some kind of insurance. They screen birth parents much more
thoroughly than they screen spouses or anyone else they might have children
with. You can give birth to a perfectly normal child, have done all the
right things, attachment parented, LLL, everything and the kid can still
suffer a head injury and you have that 18yo with the problems. Or you can
adopt Marsie whose parents were both retarded, 2 sisters are retarded, 1
brother and mom are psychotic and she can grow into one of the smartest,
most self-assured little 5yo on the planet.

Julie

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In a message dated 10/29/2002 12:17:50 PM Central Standard Time,
jnjstau@... writes:

> <<find out everything about his birth and his birthmother that you can
> before you adopt him.>>
>
> She already has adopted him. I

Yeah, I missed that.

Tuck


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