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< < From: "Mary Bianco" <mummyone24@...> >
<<The result was a very vocal and mature child at a very young age. By the
age of 2, an adult could actually sit and have a conversation with her. I
mean a real converstation. >>

Mary: Tara sounds a lot like our Kalie - the sad part was that so few adults
(my parents included) even believed she could understand what she was
conversing about. Big mistake! We've had some great talks!

<<When I would take her to a rare occasion where there were other little
kids, she would refuse to play with them. Always said they did stupid stuff
that
she wasn't interested in. I took her everywhere with me, but again she was
only around adults. >>

Here's a difference: Kalie does enjoy time with other children - a lot;
particularly the older ones, as we discussed before, relative to
occassionally hitting in her own age group.


<<Now she's great and very social but she missed a lot of being a kid. I'm
sure some of it was just her personality but a lot of it was also me screwing
up.>>
Mary B

Why do you feel you screwed up? Did you feel you should have exposed her to
more children? I'm just wondering if maybe the aloofness wasn't just a part
of who Tara was when she was small. (I was like that myself, but I came from
an abusive home - unfortunately I really was 'different'.)

Linda

Mary Bianco

>From: LsMe@...

<<Here's a difference: Kalie does enjoy time with other children - a lot;
particularly the older ones, as we discussed before, relative to
occassionally hitting in her own age group.>>


Well that's a good thing I would say. That she enjoys being around other
kids, no matter what the age.



<<Why do you feel you screwed up? Did you feel you should have exposed her
to more children? I'm just wondering if maybe the aloofness wasn't just a
part of who Tara was when she was small. (I was like that myself, but I came
from an abusive home - unfortunately I really was 'different'.)>>


Yes I do think me not really knowing "what to do with a baby, toddler" was a
big part of how her personality was shaped. I think it made her (Tara)
harder when she "had" to go out in the world of school. (sorry for the dirty
word!) Like I said I had no friends who had little children and didn't do
support groups or playgroups or anything like that. She was always just with
me and my mom. We went out almost every day but it was like shopping and
stuff. Not really stuff a kid would like to do. Although Tara is a major
shopper to this day!! And yes there is a part of me that believes a lot of
it was just who Tara was, but I also believe that I instilled a lot more of
that in her.

Now with our 3 other children, I don't force child play or make play dates
even once a week. But they have each other and play well. Being that they
are 7, 6 and 2, it's a built in playdate every day. Plus I have been doing
fun kid stuff with them from very early on. I do think it makes a very big
difference. Add that with my homeschooling support groups and field trips
and park days, they get just enough and not too much for them. As they get
older, I figure they'll ask if they need more interaction. Tara never asked
and just went from snobby I don't want to play with you kid to 12 year old
know it all wanna be 18. It was very hard for us all.

Mary B


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In a message dated 10/25/02 10:30:25 PM Central Daylight Time, LsMe@...
writes:

> (I was like that myself, but I came from
> an abusive home - unfortunately I really was 'different'.)
>
> Linda

See? There are just way too many of us.


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In a message dated 11/15/2003 7:49:55 PM Eastern Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
I chose to have one child, and now I'm stuck with my
decision. Hubby's had the pipeline snipped. Most of
the time I'm fine with that, but sometimes......

I had thought that we would adopt or become foster
parents by now, but money and space has made me think
twice. ( and thrice).

I do love to help friends and family with their very
young ones, and that makes me feel better.

~Aimee (who has to buy a house with a basement...mua
ha ha)
Well, we can't make babies with stuff we have lying around the house. And
Julian has a strong preference for being an only child. Given the effort it would
take to come up with additional kids, he gets a strong vote.

On the other hand, I have a job where I get to be with lots of kids and I
always get to hold the babies. It's cool.
Kathryn


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