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In a message dated 10/07/2002 6:38:05 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:


>
> So rather than saying it's genetic, or that her method didn't work, she
> just
> says he ate too much once he left her house.
>

Sandra,
This sounds just like my MIL. Extremely controlling with food choices.
Her famous line is, "Let's sit down and have some dessert while we discuss
your weight problem."

We just returned from her house in New England. At dinner one evening,
her husband said to dh and my BIL, "Finish up these potatoes and cabbage, so
your mother won't get mad." I couldn't take it. I responded before either had
a chance, "You complain about their weight, yet you get upset when they don't
eat everything on the table?"

My children (Carly 12, Eric 11) had been with them for ten days prior
to our arrival. It felt more like a rescue effort. Carly was so proud of my
response at the dinner table. She'd been told countless times "I only eat
breakfast (fruit or high fiber, low-fat cereal/coffee) and dinner; why do you
need lunch?" She also criticized everything that went into their mouths. My
daughter took to hiding in her room in the basement (food was not the only
point of criticism; her choice of books, magazines, movies, interests, etc).
She actually started pulling hair out on the crown of her head (never did
this before and didn't realize it until I noticed to bald spot).

Eric went to his grandfather's lawnmower shop with him (he got to
escape). We'll never send them for an extended trip again. They both would go
for a few days as long as many activities were planned. As soon as any
downtime occurs is when the criticism begins.

When my husband and I arrived, MIL broached the subject of our method
of homeschooling. I stayed far away. DH got to deal with her. He politely
told her to stuff it, that our children were doing quite well, and we didn't
need her input. Luckily we escaped on many day trips. The trip was not a
total disaster.

Enough rambling.

Ginny (glad to be back home in VA and 9 hours away from MIL)

PS, I'm also glad to be a 47 year old mother with 12 and 11y/o; it makes me
feel younger since I have such young children. My mother was still very
active in her 70s, so I'm not worried about being an older grandmother. I'll
just keep taking my Glucosamine and sitting in the hot tub.






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Kelli Traaseth

Oh, Ginny this is way familiar, my mother is the same way. Such a 'good' person, but just doesn't even see what she does to us, her children, or others. To control is to love, I think that should be their signature lines!
Kelli
GDobes@... wrote:In a message dated 10/07/2002 6:38:05 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:


>
> So rather than saying it's genetic, or that her method didn't work, she
> just
> says he ate too much once he left her house.
>

Sandra,
This sounds just like my MIL. Extremely controlling with food choices.
Her famous line is, "Let's sit down and have some dessert while we discuss
your weight problem."

We just returned from her house in New England. At dinner one evening,
her husband said to dh and my BIL, "Finish up these potatoes and cabbage, so
your mother won't get mad." I couldn't take it. I responded before either had
a chance, "You complain about their weight, yet you get upset when they don't
eat everything on the table?"

My children (Carly 12, Eric 11) had been with them for ten days prior
to our arrival. It felt more like a rescue effort. Carly was so proud of my
response at the dinner table. She'd been told countless times "I only eat
breakfast (fruit or high fiber, low-fat cereal/coffee) and dinner; why do you
need lunch?" She also criticized everything that went into their mouths. My
daughter took to hiding in her room in the basement (food was not the only
point of criticism; her choice of books, magazines, movies, interests, etc).
She actually started pulling hair out on the crown of her head (never did
this before and didn't realize it until I noticed to bald spot).

Eric went to his grandfather's lawnmower shop with him (he got to
escape). We'll never send them for an extended trip again. They both would go
for a few days as long as many activities were planned. As soon as any
downtime occurs is when the criticism begins.

When my husband and I arrived, MIL broached the subject of our method
of homeschooling. I stayed far away. DH got to deal with her. He politely
told her to stuff it, that our children were doing quite well, and we didn't
need her input. Luckily we escaped on many day trips. The trip was not a
total disaster.

Enough rambling.

Ginny (glad to be back home in VA and 9 hours away from MIL)

PS, I'm also glad to be a 47 year old mother with 12 and 11y/o; it makes me
feel younger since I have such young children. My mother was still very
active in her 70s, so I'm not worried about being an older grandmother. I'll
just keep taking my Glucosamine and sitting in the hot tub.






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