Virginia Chiasson

Hi Maria! My name is Virginia and I live in SC and I am trying to get my son Christopher (about to eight and in the second grade) out of the public school system. I just finished eight hours of paperwork and I am still not done. They put you through these hoops so you will be afraid and back down. I know.



Two years ago, when my son was in kindergarden, I tried to homeschool. The school got DSS involved because they thought my son had ADHD. His TEAHER had "diagnosed" him. Out of fear, I backed down. My ex and I had just separated and I was scared they would take Chris away from me. So I kept him in school and let them put him on Concerta. His problems have worsened instead of improving.



Although Chris manages to pass all his subjects, he is supposedly disruptive to the other students. I look forward to having him at home. I have been "homeschooling" him since he was born. Chris could write and read when he entered kindergarden. He knew his colors, shapes, numbers and such in pre-kindergarden. Children just have to learn the way they learn and the school system is not set up for that. They are set up as a diploma factory. I feel for you because I am there too. But I am proud of you for having the courage to do what you know is best.



The school system bullies parents into abdicating the right to the joys and wonders of teaching their own children. Their fear makes them do this. Our society has the cock-eyed notion that, if everyone does not conform to a set standard, that all of civilization will fall into anarchy. After two years of the "joys" of the public school system, I think I am ready for a little anarchy<ggg>.



Well, I will stop rambling now. Take care.



Brightest Blessings,

Virginia




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Maria

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> Two years ago, when my son was in kindergarden, I tried to
homeschool. The school got DSS involved because they thought my son
had ADHD. His TEAHER had "diagnosed" him.

Yes, the "Teacher's" do the diagnosing, one of the things I plan to
do in the future is lobby for law changes regarding "Teacher
Diagnosis's" but that's in the future. Can only take one day at a
time, but once I get my own children helped and back on track, then I
will help fight for others. I haven't spoken much on the rest that
has happened to us since Mirial has been in public schools. How
DFACS tricked me into signing her up for crossroads then tried to
file neglect charges when I realized what sort of school itwas, and
went and snatched the signed papers out of thier hands and tore them
up (They had told me the school had special teachers that had
patience to deal with special childre, not that the teachers don't
have to do anythign but babysit zombies all day, and yes the children
were so druugged up tha most of them ooked like zombies)

>I feel for you because I am there too. But I am proud of you for
>having the courage to do what you know is best.

It is so wonderful realizing other parents are going through this
same thing with this ADHD crap. It makes me feel like I'm not
alone. My best friend, her daughter is the same age a Mirial, and
was also diagnosed with ADHD at the same time Mirial was. She took
the ritalin route, and now the poor child stays in hospitals
form "Halucinations" than out, and all the doctors do is increase
those drugs :( On the days I feel like giving up, it's my daughters
smile that keeps me going. Looking at her and KNOWING if I give in,
it could ruin her for life. It has been so terribly hard the past
years. But that's the job of parenting, to sacrifice EVERYTHING to
ensure your children are well taken care of, and happy. On the days
I want to give up, I just gho somewhere, have a good cry, tal to God,
and he sends me peace that i can't explain. It';s that peace that
has kept me going, knowing that God knows, he cares and He
understands.


> The school system bullies parents into abdicating the right to the
joys and wonders of teaching their own children. Their fear makes
them do this. Our society has the cock-eyed notion that, if everyone
does not conform to a set standard, that all of civilization will
fall into anarchy. After two years of the "joys" of the public school
system, I think I am ready for a little anarchy<ggg>.
>

Not only the school system, but also what you call DSS (DFACS here).
They use theri self appointed power to try and run people's live's,
when their energies shouldn't be on parent's that refuse to drug
thier children, but on those that actually do abuse and harm children.

Sorry, don't mean to ramble myself, but you sound like you've been in
the same shoes as me almost, and it's so nice to know that there are
others out there that do understand.

If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm just a phone call away.
Drop me an email and I'll give you a call on my dime.

Maria

Betsy

** On the days I feel like giving up, it's my daughters
smile that keeps me going. Looking at her and KNOWING if I give in,
it could ruin her for life. It has been so terribly hard the past
years. But that's the job of parenting, to sacrifice EVERYTHING to
ensure your children are well taken care of, and happy. On the days
I want to give up, I just gho somewhere, have a good cry, tal to God,
and he sends me peace that i can't explain. It';s that peace that
has kept me going, knowing that God knows, he cares and He
understands. **

When I read posts about how energetic your younger (?) daughter is, I
think what a blessing it will be in later life to have that much pep.
I'm a tired, middle-aged woman, and I think being strong and full of
energy is a great advantage to have in life.

Sitting quietly may be rewarded in school, but it doesn't take you far
outside of school.

Betsy

Betsy

**Yes, the "Teacher's" do the diagnosing, one of the things I plan to
do in the future is lobby for law changes regarding "Teacher
Diagnosis's" but that's in the future. **

You probably already heard this, but I gather they passed just such a
law in Connecticut.

**
It is so wonderful realizing other parents are going through this
same thing with this ADHD crap. It makes me feel like I'm not
alone. My best friend, her daughter is the same age a Mirial, and
was also diagnosed with ADHD at the same time Mirial was. She took
the ritalin route, and now the poor child stays in hospitals
form "Halucinations" than out, and all the doctors do is increase
those drugs :( **

Lenore Hayes has written a book called Homeschooling the Child with ADD
or Other Special Needs. I don't think you need to read it, but I really
wish your friend would. :(


Betsy

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In a message dated 9/14/02 11:24:27 PM, ecsamhill@... writes:

<< You probably already heard this, but I gather they passed just such a
law in Connecticut. >>

So... now the families will be forced to take their kids to a doctor at their
own expense?
Or a doctor will make "school calls" and diagnose kids there?

I can't imagine it will be lots of improvement for kids and families.

I hope so, though.

Maybe schools should have to pay for the visits and diagnoses.

Sandra

Maria

> Lenore Hayes has written a book called Homeschooling the Child with
ADD
> or Other Special Needs. I don't think you need to read it, but I
really
> wish your friend would. :(


Thank you, I'll certainly see if I can find a copy and pass it her
way.

Maria

> So... now the families will be forced to take their kids to a
doctor at their
> own expense?
> Or a doctor will make "school calls" and diagnose kids there?
>

The way I see it, is that any teacher that wants to diagnos a child
as ADD or ADHD should first submit it to the board, THEN if the board
says yay, then the parent should get a proper medical diagnosis from
a doctor of the PARENTS choosing, (Not the boards or school systems)
and that the school system should foot the bill for the diagnosis.

Maybe then all these huffy teacher's that scream ADHD won't even get
past the board, because the board isn't going to want to pay the
bills. Any CONCERNED parent that suspects a child is ill, is going
to naturally go to the docotr without the schools recommending it
ANYWAY so the teacher's really need to butt out and let parent's do
thier jobs as parents.