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In a message dated 11/9/99 8:10:21 AM, praxis@... writes:

<< I am sure
they will love, it even ties right into what we are doing, etc. And they
respond this way, I keep asking myself "I thought they were interested in
this? Why are they so blaza?" >>

i think we expect or would prefer if our children showed picture perfect
enthusiasm for things, but this is really just our need, it is not necc. for
them to learn. i think we expect them to act like perfect little adult
people. meaning, if they like it we expect them to know how to show it in a
way that satisfies us. which is a skill that many of us dont learn til we
are adults and others never learn. like if i am given a present that i
really like, i see the giver later and am distracted and forget to even
mention it! i have to make a conscious effort to express my feedback in away
that lets a person know how i felt, what specifically i liked, etc. because i
want them to know! (mature skill!) or if i hear a song at church that
really touches me, i might respond by telling others or by finding the
musician immediately and thanking him for his part OR i might wait 6 mos
before i say out loud to someone, do you remember the time we heard that
beautiful song or i may never say anything but it has become a part of me
somehow enhancing my life in untangible ways...

erin