BEING with children
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In a message dated 9/10/2002 10:53:34 AM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
structure. I love K'nex because for some reason Sam has more patience with
them than many building sets and he'll build and unbuild and rebuild again
without feeling frustrated. But this time he was starting to get frustrated
and he explodes when he's frustrated (I've just put in a request for "The
Explosive Child" at the library - Thanks, Pam, for the recommendation.)
So I went over and made sure Nicky was out of the way and sat down with Sam
and said something about maybe he could swith the black rod for a red
connected to a yellow cause I could see that the sides weren't going to be
parallel the way he was building it. "NOOOOOOO!!!" he screamed and I said
something about not liking being screamed at when I was only trying to help.
He tried something else that didn't work and he screamed again. I'm almost,
but not quite sure, that I bit my tongue and didn't say anything about how it
probably wouldn't work that way. I'm sure I made at least one other
suggestion and he screamed. I said something about not wanting to be
screamed at and maybe I should get up and go in the other room. "NO! Stay
there!"
"Well, do you want me to help you or not?" He shook his head angrily, not
looking up from his building. "But you want me to stay here?" He nodded,
still not looking at me. I sighed exasperatedly, then took a few breaths,
fidgeted, looked at the clock and the mess within arm's reach. But he'd made
it pretty clear he just wanted me there, so I calmed down and just watched
him work.
And while I was just BEING he got it to work even though his cross beam was
longer than the end pieces.
(By the way, I think my behavior that day was a pretty good example of
"obtuse.")
-Pam T.
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[email protected] writes:
> And it's BEING with your children. BeingA couple of days ago, Sam with on the floor inventing a four wheeled K'nex
> WITH is the more common emphasis on the thought, in our culture. Heavy on
> the "with." But heavier on the BEING is an advantage.
>
>
structure. I love K'nex because for some reason Sam has more patience with
them than many building sets and he'll build and unbuild and rebuild again
without feeling frustrated. But this time he was starting to get frustrated
and he explodes when he's frustrated (I've just put in a request for "The
Explosive Child" at the library - Thanks, Pam, for the recommendation.)
So I went over and made sure Nicky was out of the way and sat down with Sam
and said something about maybe he could swith the black rod for a red
connected to a yellow cause I could see that the sides weren't going to be
parallel the way he was building it. "NOOOOOOO!!!" he screamed and I said
something about not liking being screamed at when I was only trying to help.
He tried something else that didn't work and he screamed again. I'm almost,
but not quite sure, that I bit my tongue and didn't say anything about how it
probably wouldn't work that way. I'm sure I made at least one other
suggestion and he screamed. I said something about not wanting to be
screamed at and maybe I should get up and go in the other room. "NO! Stay
there!"
"Well, do you want me to help you or not?" He shook his head angrily, not
looking up from his building. "But you want me to stay here?" He nodded,
still not looking at me. I sighed exasperatedly, then took a few breaths,
fidgeted, looked at the clock and the mess within arm's reach. But he'd made
it pretty clear he just wanted me there, so I calmed down and just watched
him work.
And while I was just BEING he got it to work even though his cross beam was
longer than the end pieces.
(By the way, I think my behavior that day was a pretty good example of
"obtuse.")
-Pam T.
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