Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] The Joy of Yes
Karin
>The Joy of Yes - That would be a great title for a book! I'd definitely read
> Great counselling! :o) And when you start saying yes, you realize how
> arbitrary those "no's" really were.
>
it. :-)
The Joy of Yes motto - Have you said YES to your child today? or Just Say
YES!
Thanks for reminding me about saying YES more often - sometimes I get stuck
in that NO mentality.
Karin
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In a message dated 9/4/02 1:26:48 PM, curtkar@... writes:
<< The Joy of Yes motto - Have you said YES to your child today? or Just Say
YES!
<<Thanks for reminding me about saying YES more often - sometimes I get stuck
in that NO mentality. >>
On another list (not just an unschooling list) people are talking about
chores and making kids do things. One in particular kind of made me sickly
sad, and it "However (like everyone else I assume), the
nastiness and fighting do happen WAY too often for my sanity..." and later
goes on about a point system, with minus points and earning rights (like
Gameboy playing time) and... "So far they've accumulated quite a few points
but we had a doozy of a fight this morning that no amount of points could
address! "
I was really REALLY tempted to write and say we don't have doozies of fights
here and we don't have any nastiness at all.
But you know what? Often people don't believe it.
And if they DO believe it, they get pissed off.
Or they say I bought that happiness at the expense of not teaching my kids to
take care of themselves when they're grown.
Thing is, my kids take really good care of the things they've chosen to prize
and care about. Every one of them has things from when they were babies, or
toddlers, and some of those things are paper, or otherwise fragile.
Last night I walked to the video store to get Marty's list of movies (I got
four of five) because he's had a cold and needed to just stay home today.
He watched two last night. He was sitting watching one this afternoon, after
eating chicken soup with me and Holly, when Keith came home and wanted Marty
to go with him to deliver the big TV to the repair shop. So Marty had to
change shirts, put on pants and shoes, and go outside, which he hadn't
planned to do. But he didn't whine one bit. When he gets home he'll watch
that movie some more and we'll all be calm and appreciative of each other.
Sandra
<< The Joy of Yes motto - Have you said YES to your child today? or Just Say
YES!
<<Thanks for reminding me about saying YES more often - sometimes I get stuck
in that NO mentality. >>
On another list (not just an unschooling list) people are talking about
chores and making kids do things. One in particular kind of made me sickly
sad, and it "However (like everyone else I assume), the
nastiness and fighting do happen WAY too often for my sanity..." and later
goes on about a point system, with minus points and earning rights (like
Gameboy playing time) and... "So far they've accumulated quite a few points
but we had a doozy of a fight this morning that no amount of points could
address! "
I was really REALLY tempted to write and say we don't have doozies of fights
here and we don't have any nastiness at all.
But you know what? Often people don't believe it.
And if they DO believe it, they get pissed off.
Or they say I bought that happiness at the expense of not teaching my kids to
take care of themselves when they're grown.
Thing is, my kids take really good care of the things they've chosen to prize
and care about. Every one of them has things from when they were babies, or
toddlers, and some of those things are paper, or otherwise fragile.
Last night I walked to the video store to get Marty's list of movies (I got
four of five) because he's had a cold and needed to just stay home today.
He watched two last night. He was sitting watching one this afternoon, after
eating chicken soup with me and Holly, when Keith came home and wanted Marty
to go with him to deliver the big TV to the repair shop. So Marty had to
change shirts, put on pants and shoes, and go outside, which he hadn't
planned to do. But he didn't whine one bit. When he gets home he'll watch
that movie some more and we'll all be calm and appreciative of each other.
Sandra