Alan & Brenda Leonard

> She finally admitted she had made an
> appointment and taken them to a counselors office and had psychological and
> IQ tests administered. He asked her why she had decided that it was her place
> to do this and she told him that because I am so vague with her about what
> the kids do in our little school, she had decided that she needed to make
> sure I wasn't harming them or delaying their learning.

Nancy,

This doesn't make sense. Even if you WERE delaying their learning (which I
highly doubt!), neither an IQ test or psychological tests would reflect
that. Neither measures educational progress. And what they do measure is
really none of her business anyway.

I'm guessing your husband is accustomed to his mother's little games, since
this isn't the first problem you've had with her. That might account for
him not getting as angry at her as you are. But it sounds like he well
understands your anger.

What a mess -- congrats on not killing her yet. I might have.

brenda
who's feeling much, much better about her mil and mother today!

kayb85

> This doesn't make sense. Even if you WERE delaying their learning
(which I
> highly doubt!), neither an IQ test or psychological tests would
reflect
> that. Neither measures educational progress. And what they do
measure is
> really none of her business anyway.

I had an IQ test once and I don't remember filling in any little
circles. That sounds more like a standardized test to me. But then
again maybe there are IQ tests that I don't know about.

> I'm guessing your husband is accustomed to his mother's little
games, since
> this isn't the first problem you've had with her. That might
account for
> him not getting as angry at her as you are. But it sounds like he
well
> understands your anger.

And he grew up with her. He is desensitized. Like a kid who grew up
in a family of drug addicts doesn't think that it's abnormal.

> brenda
> who's feeling much, much better about her mil and mother today!

Me too! Once, my mom asked an elementary teacher friend of hers to
give her a list of what a child my daughter's age should be doing in
different subjects. She shared the list with me. I was ticked at
that because I never asked my mom to ask her teacher friend for
advice on my behalf. I remember hoping that she hadn't shared any of
her "concerns" about my unschooling with her teacher friend. But now
I'm really thankful that I (and my kids!)have never had to go through
anything like this!

Sheila