MILq
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In a message dated 8/31/02 11:06:42 AM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< i can't even begin to tell you how mad I AM at your mother-in-law.
THE NERVE. she obviously is on a power trip. BEWARE. i don't think
this is the end of it. you and darin should talk about the "what
ifs": what if she gets really power hungry and denounces you and your
husband of child neglect? is he ready to go to court and get a
restraining order against her? >>
I totally AGREE!! I would have threatened the woman with a law suit if she
ever tries anything like that again. I would probably get a restraining order
on her.
At the least, make it very, very clear that she is not welcome anywhere near
your children. EVER.
Please Nancy. People like this do not get better, they get worse. Think about
it, she was willing to totally break up your marriage over this. She's evil
at best.
Stay away from this psycho b****. Seeing her at group gatherings is one
thing....I would not permit her in my house.
Ren
[email protected] writes:
<< i can't even begin to tell you how mad I AM at your mother-in-law.
THE NERVE. she obviously is on a power trip. BEWARE. i don't think
this is the end of it. you and darin should talk about the "what
ifs": what if she gets really power hungry and denounces you and your
husband of child neglect? is he ready to go to court and get a
restraining order against her? >>
I totally AGREE!! I would have threatened the woman with a law suit if she
ever tries anything like that again. I would probably get a restraining order
on her.
At the least, make it very, very clear that she is not welcome anywhere near
your children. EVER.
Please Nancy. People like this do not get better, they get worse. Think about
it, she was willing to totally break up your marriage over this. She's evil
at best.
Stay away from this psycho b****. Seeing her at group gatherings is one
thing....I would not permit her in my house.
Ren
[email protected]
In a message dated 8/31/02 10:46:22 AM, starsuncloud@... writes:
<< At the least, make it very, very clear that she is not welcome anywhere
near
your children. EVER.>>
I wouldn't do that. But I would try to make the visits short and infrequent,
and in the company of other people.
The kids need to see her as they're getting older so they can judge for
themselves. If you just TELL them she's awful, they might remember their
fondest parts, and begin to think maybe it's just personal between the two of
you.
My kids don't much like their grandmothers, either of them. But if I NEVER
let them see them, they would have fonder grandmother images and think they
were missing something.
Holly offered yesterday to go with just her dad to his parents' house at
Thanksgiving, because, she said, I don't like to go, but that way Keith can
go, and she wouldn't mind. We had already decided to do a whole family
thing, but ONLY for one overnight. I can handle that. And the grandparents
haven't seen Kirby for over a year now, and we have an obligation of sorts to
present him for inspection. He's way bigger than they'll have remembered.
He was out of town the last time they came here, and he skipped on a family
outing at a lake (being at an anime convention).
<<Please Nancy. People like this do not get better, they get worse. Think
about
it, she was willing to totally break up your marriage over this. She's evil
at best. >>
I agree with this. And so my recommendations are more along the lines of
taking the kids to the zoo to see how big mountains lions really are, and how
strong rattle snakes and bears really are so they'll know what to watch out
for if they're out hiking.
Sandra
<< At the least, make it very, very clear that she is not welcome anywhere
near
your children. EVER.>>
I wouldn't do that. But I would try to make the visits short and infrequent,
and in the company of other people.
The kids need to see her as they're getting older so they can judge for
themselves. If you just TELL them she's awful, they might remember their
fondest parts, and begin to think maybe it's just personal between the two of
you.
My kids don't much like their grandmothers, either of them. But if I NEVER
let them see them, they would have fonder grandmother images and think they
were missing something.
Holly offered yesterday to go with just her dad to his parents' house at
Thanksgiving, because, she said, I don't like to go, but that way Keith can
go, and she wouldn't mind. We had already decided to do a whole family
thing, but ONLY for one overnight. I can handle that. And the grandparents
haven't seen Kirby for over a year now, and we have an obligation of sorts to
present him for inspection. He's way bigger than they'll have remembered.
He was out of town the last time they came here, and he skipped on a family
outing at a lake (being at an anime convention).
<<Please Nancy. People like this do not get better, they get worse. Think
about
it, she was willing to totally break up your marriage over this. She's evil
at best. >>
I agree with this. And so my recommendations are more along the lines of
taking the kids to the zoo to see how big mountains lions really are, and how
strong rattle snakes and bears really are so they'll know what to watch out
for if they're out hiking.
Sandra
[email protected]
In a message dated 8/31/02 12:18:02 PM Central Daylight Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
decided to only visit her as a family, and that she won't ever be invited
here. Now our problem is Moly has been sick to her stomach all day, she feels
like something wrong has happened (it has) and that it is her fault (it
isn't). She said she knew what they did was wrong, I told her she and Jack
didn't do anything wrong, their grandma did, but since grandma told them not
to tell me, that this should all just be their little secret, Moly feels bad.
I can fix the MIL problem, I am having a hard time fixing Moly's feelings.
:o( Grandma's "lets keep this our little secret" crap is snarky and reminds
me of what child molesters say to little kids, to keep them quiet. How am I
going to fix Moly's feelings of guilt? I guess it is just going to take time,
and love.
~Nancy
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SandraDodd@... writes:
> <<Please Nancy. People like this do not get better, they get worse. ThinkI like this, (showing grandma as a caution sign idea) we (Darin and I) have
> about
> it, she was willing to totally break up your marriage over this. She's evil
> at best. >>
>
> I agree with this. And so my recommendations are more along the lines of
> taking the kids to the zoo to see how big mountains lions really are, and
> how
> strong rattle snakes and bears really are so they'll know what to watch out
> for if they're out hiking.
>
> Sandra
>
decided to only visit her as a family, and that she won't ever be invited
here. Now our problem is Moly has been sick to her stomach all day, she feels
like something wrong has happened (it has) and that it is her fault (it
isn't). She said she knew what they did was wrong, I told her she and Jack
didn't do anything wrong, their grandma did, but since grandma told them not
to tell me, that this should all just be their little secret, Moly feels bad.
I can fix the MIL problem, I am having a hard time fixing Moly's feelings.
:o( Grandma's "lets keep this our little secret" crap is snarky and reminds
me of what child molesters say to little kids, to keep them quiet. How am I
going to fix Moly's feelings of guilt? I guess it is just going to take time,
and love.
~Nancy
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