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In a message dated 8/31/2002 12:13:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
> Who in heavens name is Aunt Rose? I was assuming not a real relative,
> but a social worker.
>

Menstruation?


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In a message dated 12/15/02 11:15:09 PM Central Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< How have others answered relatives this thick-skinned? >>

I wrote a letter to my sil telling her that in order for her to have contact
with her nephews and niece, she needed to respect our boundaries. The
boundaries that I am comfortable with, which include my dh and I being the
parents, not her.
Her advice on parenting/unschooling or anything else regarding the raising of
our children was not welcome, period.
We have had zero contact with her since....her choice.

Ren
"Knowledge will not always take the place of simple observation."
~Arnold Lobel
Unschooling support at pensacolaunschoolers.com

Alan & Brenda Leonard

12/16/02 06:15:

> Any tips for dealing with this ordeal (apart from duct taping her
> mouth and sticking er in the closet....)
> How have others answered relatives this thick-skinned?
>
Shyrley,

Where is your husband in all this? I have a hard time taking up issues with
my in-laws, but my dh has a loving, caring past with his parents, so we try
to have him sit down and talk with them when it needs to be done. Would it
be possible for him to kindly, lovingly, and firmly tell his Mum that at
your house, you do things your way and while she is welcome, she's not there
to change you but enjoy you.

She may not like it, or even hear it, but it gives you a basis from which to
stop her. ("I know, Mom, but remember what Joe said? We are doing what WE
think is right.") Just a thought.

brenda

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In a message dated 12/16/2002 4:32:24 PM Eastern Standard Time,
abtleo@... writes:
> I have a hard time taking up issues with
> my in-laws, but my dh has a loving, caring past with his parents, so we try
> to have him sit down and talk with them when it needs to be done.

From old emails, I think Shyrley's husband isn't so wild about the
unschooling either. He's really big on the math and science scene
too---Right? He may agree with ol' Mum.

~Kelly


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Shyrley

On 16 Dec 02, at 17:15, kbcdlovejo@... wrote:

> In a message dated 12/16/2002 4:32:24 PM Eastern Standard Time,
> abtleo@... writes:
> > I have a hard time taking up issues with
> > my in-laws, but my dh has a loving, caring past with his parents, so
> > we try to have him sit down and talk with them when it needs to be
> > done.
>
> From old emails, I think Shyrley's husband isn't so wild about the
> unschooling either. He's really big on the math and science scene
> too---Right? He may agree with ol' Mum.
>
> ~Kelly
>

You can see the pattern here can't you. She controlled him into
math and science so he became a mathematician/physicist. Now
she's trying to do the same to DD (and was so pleased when the
school rated DD as 'extremely gifted' at maths and couldn't
understand why I was ticked off with labelling)

Shyrley


"You laugh at me because I'm different. I laugh at you because you are all the same."