Luz Shosie and Ned Vare

on 8/26/02 9:28 AM, [email protected] at
[email protected] wrote:

> But she's not going to be the only family member
> to question me. I don't want to have to justify our choice
> constantly. How have some of you dealt with this sort of thing?

Dear Tanya,

She doesn't trust you. I don't believe you will change her mind or her
attitude yourself by answering her direct questions, because she is really
asking you to change your mind about how you will educate the boy. She can't
imagine NOT having her grandson go to school.

I think you will need to address the trust issue sooner or later, and sooner
is better since her insistence will only grow.

Luz and I offer our webpage to help...we get lots of good feedback. If your
mother-in-law is at all receptive to reading about how children have
unschooled, give her the address: www.borntoexplore.org/unschool

She might need some stronger words to tell her that the public schools are
not what she might believe they are. In that case, I'll be glad to send you
some of my (50+) articles in that subject.

As for the others, maybe you will need to educate all of them. It can be
hard. I hope the children's father will help you. Do it one person at a
time...don't let them gang up on you, as a group.

NV

joanna514

>
> As for the others, maybe you will need to educate all of them. It
can be
> hard. I hope the children's father will help you. Do it one person
at a
> time...don't let them gang up on you, as a group.
>
> NV

Educate them on how bad the school system is?
Is that what we all should be doing. Letting our friends and family
know what morons they are for having thier children in there? Or for
teaching in there?
I think the fact that we don't have our own children in there is
enough. If I get asked direct questions, I answer them, but i also
try to be diplomatic.
I could be a jerk and try to convert everyone to my way of thinking,
and probably lose all of my friends and bring strife between my
family, but I think I'll just smile and let them know how happy we
are, and that is enough of a push for unschooling, to me.
Joanna

[email protected]

In a message dated 8/26/02 11:43:51 PM US Mountain Standard Time,
nedvare@... writes:
> As for the others, maybe you will need to educate all of them. It can be
> hard. I hope the children's father will help you. Do it one person at a
> time...don't let them gang up on you, as a group.

My husband is actually the strongest supporter of homeschooling (when we got
married a condition was that we'd homeschool our children.) How we do that
he says, is up to me because I'm the one with the smarts (little does he
know:) )

However, he won't outright defend us especially to his mother...that falls to
me.

Tanya
mom to Andrew Jordan 4/1/00 and Eli Hunter 10/29/01
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within
himself
--Galileo


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