no more posts on metadiscussions?
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In a message dated 8/14/02 5:18:59 AM, FoxgloveStudio@... writes:
<< Dear Jennifer,
Thank you , thank you, thank you for the definition of metadiscussion (this
is a new concept to me and I love it). Adopting the ban on metadiscussions as
described in your post would be very good for the list. You have my vote.
Sherry >>
But if that policy were adopted, your post would have been banned. You could
have written to Jennifer privately, but it went to 850 people (give or take a
hundred, it fluctuates).
When we're discussing people's seeming intent and the effect of their choice
of words, that's part of the discussion of the validity of their advice. If
I come in and say "I have one child and he's always loved Calvert curriculum,
and he's smart and I'm smart and so if any of you are smart you'll use
Calvert curriculum," it would be fine for people to question my logic and my
motives. It would be kinda goofy if they didn't. So that sort of
questioning and request for clarification or documentation or reality check
is part of a real discussion. But discussing discussions in the absence of
an actual discussion, THAT is twice-removed from talking about unschooling.
My kids get along really well with their friends. I'm surprised sometimes at
how much they'll put up with, not because they're afraid the friends will
leave, but just because they're so confident that relationships will come and
go and those who like them will stick around. So rather than having the urge
to "fix" their friends, they just observe them and apply the information to
other later interactions.
But they WILL defend the peace of a game, or a party, or an outing. Kirby
and Holly, especially, are pretty good with the subtle doing things only
when necessary.
Sandra
<< Dear Jennifer,
Thank you , thank you, thank you for the definition of metadiscussion (this
is a new concept to me and I love it). Adopting the ban on metadiscussions as
described in your post would be very good for the list. You have my vote.
Sherry >>
But if that policy were adopted, your post would have been banned. You could
have written to Jennifer privately, but it went to 850 people (give or take a
hundred, it fluctuates).
When we're discussing people's seeming intent and the effect of their choice
of words, that's part of the discussion of the validity of their advice. If
I come in and say "I have one child and he's always loved Calvert curriculum,
and he's smart and I'm smart and so if any of you are smart you'll use
Calvert curriculum," it would be fine for people to question my logic and my
motives. It would be kinda goofy if they didn't. So that sort of
questioning and request for clarification or documentation or reality check
is part of a real discussion. But discussing discussions in the absence of
an actual discussion, THAT is twice-removed from talking about unschooling.
My kids get along really well with their friends. I'm surprised sometimes at
how much they'll put up with, not because they're afraid the friends will
leave, but just because they're so confident that relationships will come and
go and those who like them will stick around. So rather than having the urge
to "fix" their friends, they just observe them and apply the information to
other later interactions.
But they WILL defend the peace of a game, or a party, or an outing. Kirby
and Holly, especially, are pretty good with the subtle doing things only
when necessary.
Sandra
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The end of this glitched two paragraphs together:
Instead of this glitch:
[But they WILL defend the peace of a game, or a party, or an outing. Kirby
and Holly, especially, are pretty good with the subtle doing things only
when necessary.]
It should have said more like...
But they WILL defend the peace of a game, or a party, or an outing. Kirby
and Holly, especially, are pretty good with the subtle seating rearrangements
or conversational distractions.
All of them, though, are doing things often, and discussing doing things
only when necessary.
Sandra
Instead of this glitch:
[But they WILL defend the peace of a game, or a party, or an outing. Kirby
and Holly, especially, are pretty good with the subtle doing things only
when necessary.]
It should have said more like...
But they WILL defend the peace of a game, or a party, or an outing. Kirby
and Holly, especially, are pretty good with the subtle seating rearrangements
or conversational distractions.
All of them, though, are doing things often, and discussing doing things
only when necessary.
Sandra