zenmomma *

>>My fear is that by not "making" my child contend with suffering or boredom
>>or whatever bump comes his way that I'm robbing them of a real learning
>>experience. Sometimes some of lifes best lessons are its hardest.>>

Very true, but that doesn't mean we need to inflict pain and suffering on
children just so they can get used to it.

My greatest spiritual growth and best life lesson came with the deaths of my
two brothers. No one could have protected me from that. Life happens,
suffering happens. Seeking out difficult experiences for our kids to give
some sort of mini-lesson for when and if suffering might come up later seems
to me to be a pointless endeavor. A secure, trusting and whole child is the
one who will best weather life's lessons as they come.

I don't believe anyone needs to practice being bored. I'd like to help my
children learn ways to alleviate their boredom. If they learn to keep the
boring bits to a minimum, then those times will be that much easier to deal
with and move through. My greatest hope for them is that they are able to
choose a path in life that lets them do something they love.

>>Perseverance is a good trait to have.>>

Absolutely! But perservering at meaningless tasks is, well, meaningless.

Life is good.
~Mary










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Mary Muday

I agree whole heartedly about learning from life lessons. My daughter is now 17, we have only homeschooled her for the last 2 and a half years. She was in PS and met this guy a year older and she said in love w/, well they both got into some troble w/ the law. She has learned to deal with what has come. I feel that she is a better person because of it and whatever happens in the future I stand behind her, because it is her life and she has learned from mistakes. PS is not the greatest, I know.
Mary
zenmomma * <zenmomma@...> wrote: >>My fear is that by not "making" my child contend with suffering or boredom
>>or whatever bump comes his way that I'm robbing them of a real learning
>>experience. Sometimes some of lifes best lessons are its hardest.>>

Very true, but that doesn't mean we need to inflict pain and suffering on
children just so they can get used to it.

My greatest spiritual growth and best life lesson came with the deaths of my
two brothers. No one could have protected me from that. Life happens,
suffering happens. Seeking out difficult experiences for our kids to give
some sort of mini-lesson for when and if suffering might come up later seems
to me to be a pointless endeavor. A secure, trusting and whole child is the
one who will best weather life's lessons as they come.

I don't believe anyone needs to practice being bored. I'd like to help my
children learn ways to alleviate their boredom. If they learn to keep the
boring bits to a minimum, then those times will be that much easier to deal
with and move through. My greatest hope for them is that they are able to
choose a path in life that lets them do something they love.

>>Perseverance is a good trait to have.>>

Absolutely! But perservering at meaningless tasks is, well, meaningless.

Life is good.
~Mary










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