Thanks for the cry
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I was just reading one of Sandra's articles on unschooling called Tiny
Monsters. I don't know why, but it made me cry. It struck some deep chord
deep inside me. Was it just one of those moments women have when they break
down crying? Probably. Am I just being silly, a moment of insanity? Probably.
It doesn't matter, I must have needed to cry, some deep seeded depression, or
some tiny monster bugging me and I didn't even know it was there. So thanks
Sandra, thanks for the good cry.
~Nancy
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Monsters. I don't know why, but it made me cry. It struck some deep chord
deep inside me. Was it just one of those moments women have when they break
down crying? Probably. Am I just being silly, a moment of insanity? Probably.
It doesn't matter, I must have needed to cry, some deep seeded depression, or
some tiny monster bugging me and I didn't even know it was there. So thanks
Sandra, thanks for the good cry.
~Nancy
<A HREF="http://sandradodd.com/articles">http://sandradodd.com/articles</A>
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In a message dated 7/20/02 1:03:56 AM, Dnowens@... writes:
<< Sandra, thanks for the good cry. >>
I really want to say "I'm really sorry it made you cry." I went back and
read it, though, and realized it made ME cry one time.
The other night Holly was expressing some hurt and sorrow she has about a
relationship with one of her friends, and I said as sweetly as I could,
"Holly, sometimes I wish you had never been born." She didn't take it
horribly. We just hugged each other, and I said that probably sounds
TERRIBLE, but if I hadn't had her, [that person] couldn't hurt her.
And her incident wasn't even among the greatest horrors a little girl can
suffer, but I didn't tell her that. Because hurting is hurting, and saying
"Oh, buck up--it's not like you've been molested or someone has died" would
be cruelty on top of pain. I remember cruelty on top of pain sometimes from
my own childhood, and I try hard to avoid doing that even accidentally.
So I sat with her in her moment of sadness and felt how good and
tender-hearted she is, and hoped and wished that my decision to have a third
child would bring more joy to her and others than pain. And I'm crying just
writing that, so that makes two good cries, Nancy, so I'm going to go and do
something physical. The house is quiet so I need to find a corner and do
something where I won't wake anyone up.
Don't anyone be mean to your kids today, please. There will be enough hurt
without us adding to it.
Sandra
<< Sandra, thanks for the good cry. >>
I really want to say "I'm really sorry it made you cry." I went back and
read it, though, and realized it made ME cry one time.
The other night Holly was expressing some hurt and sorrow she has about a
relationship with one of her friends, and I said as sweetly as I could,
"Holly, sometimes I wish you had never been born." She didn't take it
horribly. We just hugged each other, and I said that probably sounds
TERRIBLE, but if I hadn't had her, [that person] couldn't hurt her.
And her incident wasn't even among the greatest horrors a little girl can
suffer, but I didn't tell her that. Because hurting is hurting, and saying
"Oh, buck up--it's not like you've been molested or someone has died" would
be cruelty on top of pain. I remember cruelty on top of pain sometimes from
my own childhood, and I try hard to avoid doing that even accidentally.
So I sat with her in her moment of sadness and felt how good and
tender-hearted she is, and hoped and wished that my decision to have a third
child would bring more joy to her and others than pain. And I'm crying just
writing that, so that makes two good cries, Nancy, so I'm going to go and do
something physical. The house is quiet so I need to find a corner and do
something where I won't wake anyone up.
Don't anyone be mean to your kids today, please. There will be enough hurt
without us adding to it.
Sandra
marji
At 08:49 7/20/02 -0400, Sandra wrote:
I don't know why, but the end of your post reminded me of someone we saw at
the post office the other day. Liam and I were leaving the post office on
a hot, sunny, dry day just after we had finished a session of
pottery. Liam was holding a toy and walking and singing and talking to
himself, as he usually does, and an elderly woman, observing Liam, said,
"She's so happy." (Liam's hair is really long and lots of folks think he's
a girl, even though he's 7-1/2.) I said, "Yeah; it's a beautiful summer
day; kids should definitely be happy during the summertime." This wise
woman replied, "Kids should be happy all year long." She is absolutely
right. That's why (at least in part) I took him out of school!
Thanks to all on this list for the beautiful reminders.
~marji~
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>Don't anyone be mean to your kids today, please. There will be enough hurtOkay! I won't.
>without us adding to it.
>
>Sandra
I don't know why, but the end of your post reminded me of someone we saw at
the post office the other day. Liam and I were leaving the post office on
a hot, sunny, dry day just after we had finished a session of
pottery. Liam was holding a toy and walking and singing and talking to
himself, as he usually does, and an elderly woman, observing Liam, said,
"She's so happy." (Liam's hair is really long and lots of folks think he's
a girl, even though he's 7-1/2.) I said, "Yeah; it's a beautiful summer
day; kids should definitely be happy during the summertime." This wise
woman replied, "Kids should be happy all year long." She is absolutely
right. That's why (at least in part) I took him out of school!
Thanks to all on this list for the beautiful reminders.
~marji~
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sandra,
now i'm crying too! my daughter just left with her father and it breaks my
heart, i went to his house and picked her up last night but he wanted her to
come back today. he's rather cold and blunt like you were referrring to, he
loves her and i don't think he even sees himself as being mean. i was an
abused and abandoned child and can't bear the thought of my dee going threw a
second of what i did. i think we should all try to go out of ourway to say
positive things to our children everyday!!! i know sometimes there's so much
going on bad it's hard to find the good but when you do you can almost see a
child light up from the inside out.
tina
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now i'm crying too! my daughter just left with her father and it breaks my
heart, i went to his house and picked her up last night but he wanted her to
come back today. he's rather cold and blunt like you were referrring to, he
loves her and i don't think he even sees himself as being mean. i was an
abused and abandoned child and can't bear the thought of my dee going threw a
second of what i did. i think we should all try to go out of ourway to say
positive things to our children everyday!!! i know sometimes there's so much
going on bad it's hard to find the good but when you do you can almost see a
child light up from the inside out.
tina
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