laura90713

Thank you for all of the responses.

This is not something for me to make a stink about "publicly". I
know this family well, and a couple of them may use it as an
opportunity to make me look bad. I know this from past experiences.
So I may just go with the flow completly or I may go to the room for
a while and join the b-day party later. It is an 80th b-day after
all.

Babysitting is not a problem because the ages of our kids are: 16,
14 (almost 15), 12, 9 and 3. We will just have to reserve two
adjoining rooms to accomoate us all, and maybe an ice chest for
drinks and snacks and we'll get some fast food for dinner. Hopefully
there will be something for them to watch on the hotel movie
channel. I'll make it fun for them. As for getting together with
their cousins who are around their age... my girls love the younger
ones, but the older ones are different than them. These older girls
sneek out at night, the 16 year old dates a 19 year old, and think
it's cool that their friend attends a boarding school where she can
sneak her boyfriend in to spend the night. I do not worry about this
influencing them in anyway, it just bugs me. Their older brother
committed suicide a few years ago. It is just different than us.
It is too bad too, because when the older ones were kids, we would
vacation together and they got along great and had a wonderful time
together. Now I'm getting off the subject, sorry.

Again, thanks for all your views on the matter. I will turn this
into something fun for them and keep a positive outlook!

Laura