Re: unschooling criticism
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In a message dated 10/12/99 11:44:46 PM, praxis@... writes:
<< I've never known people here in Ohio to be shy about
what they think is right and wrong - myself included when I'm being honest
about it. :o) >>
ok, does this mean you have found a way to positively explain your hsing
style? it always depends on who i am talking to, how i edit what i say! but
i lean heavily on the philosophy end of things, for that is from where i make
these decisions anyway. i never thought of it as shy so much as avoiding
discomfort for myself and others! but i also dont want to miss sharing the
wonderful world of unschooling with someone who might be "dying" in their
chosen structure. i know it is my freedom to choose to share or not, i guess
i just need to keep building my confidence and realize nothing is perfect and
not worry about giving homeschooling a bad name! i have heard the same
comments as you have... but i wonder, if the unschoolers we meet are few and
far between, who have they met? perhaps no-one. we can be the first
unschoolers that they come to know and it might eventually give it a good
name in their eyes!
erin
<< I've never known people here in Ohio to be shy about
what they think is right and wrong - myself included when I'm being honest
about it. :o) >>
ok, does this mean you have found a way to positively explain your hsing
style? it always depends on who i am talking to, how i edit what i say! but
i lean heavily on the philosophy end of things, for that is from where i make
these decisions anyway. i never thought of it as shy so much as avoiding
discomfort for myself and others! but i also dont want to miss sharing the
wonderful world of unschooling with someone who might be "dying" in their
chosen structure. i know it is my freedom to choose to share or not, i guess
i just need to keep building my confidence and realize nothing is perfect and
not worry about giving homeschooling a bad name! i have heard the same
comments as you have... but i wonder, if the unschoolers we meet are few and
far between, who have they met? perhaps no-one. we can be the first
unschoolers that they come to know and it might eventually give it a good
name in their eyes!
erin
The O'Donnells
At 05:57 PM 10/13/99 -0400, you wrote:
on what our style is and why it is developing in this fashion.
position is in hsing, whether or not they are having difficulties with
their chosen route, etc. If we didn't we would alienate people right and left.
i never thought of it as shy so much as avoiding
experience with folks around here is shy is something they are not - rather
they tend to be a bit more on the judgemental side. That is something that
really bothers me. I love my support group because they are accepting of
folks from all walks of life, all religions or not, and all hsing styles.
So when I run into folks that think that school at home is the only sound
morale, spiritual way to go it really steams me up. I've run into several
like that. I am probably more judgemental than I think at times as well.
I don't mean to be but some can be so negative about my choices that I can
fall into defending myself and my choices to them if I'm not careful.
but i also don't want to miss sharing the
over tomorrow to discuss just this - how to overcome the drudgery of the
workbook/school at home approach. Although I don't claim to be an
unschooling expert (far from it!) I do know many resources to contact (like
this list) and can share the new things I've learned to do. Unfortunately,
I will not be able to do this as I had to admit my dh into the hospital
this evening. I will most probably disappear here on the list for a few
more days. Sigh. :o( DH will be fine, just needs some tests that will
put us in touch with the right drugs he needs.
i have heard the same
them the wrong way in the first place. So many SAHers are part of support
groups that simply denounce unschooling as being anything but hsing. And
many of these people don't have a clue what unschooling actually is. Met
one the other day that basically unschooled through 4th grade and then
SAH'd the rest of the way (her son is now 17) and she really doesn't even
realize that is what she did! I think she would be offended if I told her
she was an unschooler to start off with. :-P
Oh well, like I said I'm going to disappear for a day or two more - I soon
hope to be back in the groove of keeping up with my email lists - sorry for
popping in and out so.
Have a great week!
In His Service,
Laraine
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>In a message dated 10/12/99 11:44:46 PM, praxis@... writes:
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><< I've never known people here in Ohio to be shy about
>what they think is right and wrong - myself included when I'm being honest
>about it. :o) >>
>
>ok, does this mean you have found a way to positively explain your hsing
>style?
on what our style is and why it is developing in this fashion.
> it always depends on who i am talking to, how i edit what i say!I think a person has to be aware of who they are talking to and what their
position is in hsing, whether or not they are having difficulties with
their chosen route, etc. If we didn't we would alienate people right and left.
i never thought of it as shy so much as avoiding
>discomfort for myself and others!It's been a while but if I remember right I was being sarcastic. My
experience with folks around here is shy is something they are not - rather
they tend to be a bit more on the judgemental side. That is something that
really bothers me. I love my support group because they are accepting of
folks from all walks of life, all religions or not, and all hsing styles.
So when I run into folks that think that school at home is the only sound
morale, spiritual way to go it really steams me up. I've run into several
like that. I am probably more judgemental than I think at times as well.
I don't mean to be but some can be so negative about my choices that I can
fall into defending myself and my choices to them if I'm not careful.
but i also don't want to miss sharing the
>wonderful world of unschooling with someone who might be "dying" in theirI don't want to miss this either. I was actually going to have a new hser
>chosen structure.
over tomorrow to discuss just this - how to overcome the drudgery of the
workbook/school at home approach. Although I don't claim to be an
unschooling expert (far from it!) I do know many resources to contact (like
this list) and can share the new things I've learned to do. Unfortunately,
I will not be able to do this as I had to admit my dh into the hospital
this evening. I will most probably disappear here on the list for a few
more days. Sigh. :o( DH will be fine, just needs some tests that will
put us in touch with the right drugs he needs.
i have heard the same
>comments as you have... but i wonder, if the unschoolers we meet are few andErin I think you have it right - either no one or someone that just rubbed
>far between, who have they met? perhaps no-one. we can be the first
>unschoolers that they come to know and it might eventually give it a good
>name in their eyes!
them the wrong way in the first place. So many SAHers are part of support
groups that simply denounce unschooling as being anything but hsing. And
many of these people don't have a clue what unschooling actually is. Met
one the other day that basically unschooled through 4th grade and then
SAH'd the rest of the way (her son is now 17) and she really doesn't even
realize that is what she did! I think she would be offended if I told her
she was an unschooler to start off with. :-P
Oh well, like I said I'm going to disappear for a day or two more - I soon
hope to be back in the groove of keeping up with my email lists - sorry for
popping in and out so.
Have a great week!
In His Service,
Laraine
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