A Moderator interruption
[email protected]
In a message dated 5/26/02 6:45:10 AM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< Sandra may always be RIGHT, as you said, but Sandra is also downright
RUDE in her comments sometimes. Nomatter how RIGHT someone is, that is hard
to digest. Especially when it seems the moderator supports and encourages
her. >>
I tried to stay out of this, but I just can't let that one slide.
Just because SOME people take certain posts as rude, does not make them so.
How a person percieves things has a lot to do with whether or not you feel
it's rude or just plain truthful and blunt.
I prefer truthful, clear and blunt because it saves time. You know where the
person is coming from and exactly what they think. It's much more economical
use of my time than beating around the bush to try and make EVERYONE feel
good (which is not possible imo).
I think the very fact that a person is RIGHT all the time is what pisses
people off.
It's tough to have your narrow views picked apart only to find out that the
person questioning you is quite possibly right once again!!!
That's what ruffled my feathers about Sandra when I first got online, I don't
like being wrong so often.
That's why the "damn she's good" really hit me between the eyes and made me
laugh. I've felt the same way before.
Pulling up old posts can simply prove correctness or show innaccuracies. I
guess if the same person is right a LOT, it's just going to bug people.
Bummer. There's so much to be learned from a person that is very accurate
and RIGHT.
Ren
[email protected] writes:
<< Sandra may always be RIGHT, as you said, but Sandra is also downright
RUDE in her comments sometimes. Nomatter how RIGHT someone is, that is hard
to digest. Especially when it seems the moderator supports and encourages
her. >>
I tried to stay out of this, but I just can't let that one slide.
Just because SOME people take certain posts as rude, does not make them so.
How a person percieves things has a lot to do with whether or not you feel
it's rude or just plain truthful and blunt.
I prefer truthful, clear and blunt because it saves time. You know where the
person is coming from and exactly what they think. It's much more economical
use of my time than beating around the bush to try and make EVERYONE feel
good (which is not possible imo).
I think the very fact that a person is RIGHT all the time is what pisses
people off.
It's tough to have your narrow views picked apart only to find out that the
person questioning you is quite possibly right once again!!!
That's what ruffled my feathers about Sandra when I first got online, I don't
like being wrong so often.
That's why the "damn she's good" really hit me between the eyes and made me
laugh. I've felt the same way before.
Pulling up old posts can simply prove correctness or show innaccuracies. I
guess if the same person is right a LOT, it's just going to bug people.
Bummer. There's so much to be learned from a person that is very accurate
and RIGHT.
Ren
[email protected]
In a message dated 5/26/02 6:31:08 AM Pacific Daylight Time,
starsuncloud@... writes:
possess the powers to be ever so righteous, but we aren't. Being right all of
the time means that we have arrived at some level of perfection, that none of
us are.
I agree with you that sometimes people can have narrow minds. Yet, their
pattern of thought belongs strictly to them. It does not allow someone else
to try to reconfigure there thought process to prove that they are right
about a particular situation.
Life is full of ups and downs, life is full of opinions...some or most of
them stink. Especially when they don't line up with our own personal beliefs.
I said earlier in a post, that we are all different. We should all be happy
with ourselves, not try to change anyone else, don't try to drive the point
home by being rude to someone else or by knocking down someone elses ideas.
"I believe" that we should all except who and what we are and LEARN that we
are all different. We all play a little bitty part in this big ol' world yet
we all fit together when the puzzle is complete.
What are we teaching our children if we believe that we ARE ALWAYS RIGHT ! I
am sorry, It is hard to hold a conversation with someone who always tries to
prove that you are wrong.
I don't know any of you on this board, but I know that y0u are all beautiful
people and you all have different ideals about given situations. Why can I
say that you are all beautiful people? I tell my children all of the time,
people come in all different shapes and colors and most of the time they come
with hidden packages that can make YOU blow up... their opinions!
CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!!
Dee
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starsuncloud@... writes:
> There's so much to be learned from a person that is very accurateEveryone is not right all of the time! We would like to believe that we
> and RIGHT.
>
possess the powers to be ever so righteous, but we aren't. Being right all of
the time means that we have arrived at some level of perfection, that none of
us are.
I agree with you that sometimes people can have narrow minds. Yet, their
pattern of thought belongs strictly to them. It does not allow someone else
to try to reconfigure there thought process to prove that they are right
about a particular situation.
Life is full of ups and downs, life is full of opinions...some or most of
them stink. Especially when they don't line up with our own personal beliefs.
I said earlier in a post, that we are all different. We should all be happy
with ourselves, not try to change anyone else, don't try to drive the point
home by being rude to someone else or by knocking down someone elses ideas.
"I believe" that we should all except who and what we are and LEARN that we
are all different. We all play a little bitty part in this big ol' world yet
we all fit together when the puzzle is complete.
What are we teaching our children if we believe that we ARE ALWAYS RIGHT ! I
am sorry, It is hard to hold a conversation with someone who always tries to
prove that you are wrong.
I don't know any of you on this board, but I know that y0u are all beautiful
people and you all have different ideals about given situations. Why can I
say that you are all beautiful people? I tell my children all of the time,
people come in all different shapes and colors and most of the time they come
with hidden packages that can make YOU blow up... their opinions!
CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!!
Dee
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[email protected]
In a message dated 5/26/2002 11:56:38 AM Pacific Daylight Time,
dbatiste7@... writes:
was that when she's gone back to check the accuracy of statements, she's been
surprized - repeatedly - to find that, indeed, Sandra is dead on.
Sandra has never claimed to be always right. And I've seen her apologize
openly for making a mistake. Some people just don't like Sandra's style - but
some of us appreciate it hugely.
--pamS
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dbatiste7@... writes:
> What are we teaching our children if we believe that we ARE ALWAYS RIGHT !The "fuss" was about accuracy of some specific statements and Joyce's point
> I
> am sorry, It is hard to hold a conversation with someone who always tries
> to
> prove that you are wrong.
was that when she's gone back to check the accuracy of statements, she's been
surprized - repeatedly - to find that, indeed, Sandra is dead on.
Sandra has never claimed to be always right. And I've seen her apologize
openly for making a mistake. Some people just don't like Sandra's style - but
some of us appreciate it hugely.
--pamS
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[email protected]
In a message dated 5/26/02 5:34:17 PM Pacific Daylight Time, PSoroosh@...
writes:
trying to come across with my own idea of my personal experiences of having
to deal with people who thought they were always right. In no way was I
trying to post in regards to Sandra being "always right" Sheesh...I don't
even know the lady. But as far as accuracy goes, if you are right, then you a
re right and there is no doubting it. The proof is in the pudding, right?!
EXPRESSION IS WONDERFUL!
This is why I don't like copying and replying to a text. I would just rather
post. I don't want to be pin-pointed as the person who is starting "crap" I
just want to be a part of the discussion here. I was merely copying and
posting at the moderators request. Hey, I am not a member of too many message
boards, and those that I am a member of I just go right on in and post. If
someone doesn't understand they reply with that response and offer me the
opportunity to explain myself.
Posting can get a bit tricky. PLEASE DON'T BE OFFENDED BY MY
POSTING...EXPRESSION IS WONDERFUL :)
Dee
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writes:
>I understand the accuracy part. I was referring to another post and was
> > What are we teaching our children if we believe that we ARE ALWAYS RIGHT
> !
> > I
> > am sorry, It is hard to hold a conversation with someone who always tries
>
> > to
> > prove that you are wrong.
>
> The "fuss" was about accuracy of some specific statements and Joyce's point
>
> was that when she's gone back to check the accuracy of statements, she's
> been
> surprized - repeatedly - to find that, indeed, Sandra is dead on.
>
> Sandra has never claimed to be always right. And I've seen her apologize
> openly for making a mistake. Some people just don't like Sandra's style -
> but
> some of us appreciate it hugely.
>
>
trying to come across with my own idea of my personal experiences of having
to deal with people who thought they were always right. In no way was I
trying to post in regards to Sandra being "always right" Sheesh...I don't
even know the lady. But as far as accuracy goes, if you are right, then you a
re right and there is no doubting it. The proof is in the pudding, right?!
EXPRESSION IS WONDERFUL!
This is why I don't like copying and replying to a text. I would just rather
post. I don't want to be pin-pointed as the person who is starting "crap" I
just want to be a part of the discussion here. I was merely copying and
posting at the moderators request. Hey, I am not a member of too many message
boards, and those that I am a member of I just go right on in and post. If
someone doesn't understand they reply with that response and offer me the
opportunity to explain myself.
Posting can get a bit tricky. PLEASE DON'T BE OFFENDED BY MY
POSTING...EXPRESSION IS WONDERFUL :)
Dee
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