Doctors Quizzing Children
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Hi All,
We started using a new doctor for our kids, one that is closer to our home.
At their first yearly checkup, the doctor took a lot of time with us, getting
to know each child, I was impressed. When we explained that we homeschool he
said, "well that's great." Then he proceeded to quiz the kids. He asked my
four year old to spell his name. He asked my six year old to do an addition
problem and to write a sentence. When she looked at him blankly because she
couldn't think of what to write on the spot like that he dictated a sentence.
Then he asked my 10 year old to do a multiplication problem.
This so took me off guard because I wasn't expecting it that I didn't know
what to say. I waited to see what the kids would do. They answered the best
they could, given that they've never been "quizzed" before. The doctor
proceeded to explain to my daughter what a sentence was because she hesitated
when he initially asked her to write the sentence. She knows what a sentence
is, btw.
The kids didn't seem all that bothered by the whole experience but I was
horrified. I didn't know what to do, or what to say. In retrospect I
probably should have asked to speak to the doctor privately and explained
that I don't want him quizzing my children and that I was paying him to
provide medical care for my children, not educational care. But, of course I
didn't think of that until much later.
Anyone else have an experience like this and what did you do?
Robin
We started using a new doctor for our kids, one that is closer to our home.
At their first yearly checkup, the doctor took a lot of time with us, getting
to know each child, I was impressed. When we explained that we homeschool he
said, "well that's great." Then he proceeded to quiz the kids. He asked my
four year old to spell his name. He asked my six year old to do an addition
problem and to write a sentence. When she looked at him blankly because she
couldn't think of what to write on the spot like that he dictated a sentence.
Then he asked my 10 year old to do a multiplication problem.
This so took me off guard because I wasn't expecting it that I didn't know
what to say. I waited to see what the kids would do. They answered the best
they could, given that they've never been "quizzed" before. The doctor
proceeded to explain to my daughter what a sentence was because she hesitated
when he initially asked her to write the sentence. She knows what a sentence
is, btw.
The kids didn't seem all that bothered by the whole experience but I was
horrified. I didn't know what to do, or what to say. In retrospect I
probably should have asked to speak to the doctor privately and explained
that I don't want him quizzing my children and that I was paying him to
provide medical care for my children, not educational care. But, of course I
didn't think of that until much later.
Anyone else have an experience like this and what did you do?
Robin
susan marie
Our former pediatrician was the one who first suggested that we consider
homeschooling. Our current doc talks to the kids but doesn't quiz them.
She asks me the developmental type questions.
imho, I think you need a new doctor. Good luck -- finding good doctors
is not easy.
peace,
Susan
homeschooling. Our current doc talks to the kids but doesn't quiz them.
She asks me the developmental type questions.
imho, I think you need a new doctor. Good luck -- finding good doctors
is not easy.
peace,
Susan
On Friday, May 3, 2002, at 05:46 PM, rmstalte@... wrote:
> Hi All,
> We started using a new doctor for our kids, one that is closer to our
> home.
> At their first yearly checkup, the doctor took a lot of time with us,
> getting
> to know each child, I was impressed. When we explained that we
> homeschool he
> said, "well that's great." Then he proceeded to quiz the kids. He
> asked my
> four year old to spell his name. He asked my six year old to do an
> addition
> problem and to write a sentence. When she looked at him blankly because
> she
> couldn't think of what to write on the spot like that he dictated a
> sentence.
> Then he asked my 10 year old to do a multiplication problem.
>
> This so took me off guard because I wasn't expecting it that I didn't
> know
> what to say. I waited to see what the kids would do. They answered
> the best
> they could, given that they've never been "quizzed" before. The doctor
> proceeded to explain to my daughter what a sentence was because she
> hesitated
> when he initially asked her to write the sentence. She knows what a
> sentence
> is, btw.
>
> The kids didn't seem all that bothered by the whole experience but I was
> horrified. I didn't know what to do, or what to say. In retrospect I
> probably should have asked to speak to the doctor privately and
> explained
> that I don't want him quizzing my children and that I was paying him to
> provide medical care for my children, not educational care. But, of
> course I
> didn't think of that until much later.
>
> Anyone else have an experience like this and what did you do?
>
> Robin
>
>
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In a message dated 5/3/02 3:49:19 PM, rmstalte@... writes:
<< In retrospect I
probably should have asked to speak to the doctor privately and explained
that I don't want him quizzing my children and that I was paying him to
provide medical care for my children, not educational care. >>
It's not too late to write him a letter and say your children aren't the only
homeschooled children he will ever meet, and that for the benefit of those
others (and yours, IF you go back <g>), he should consider that unless he's
in the habit of quizzing all his patients, schooled or not, and quizzing
adult patients, that it was inappropriate to quiz your children.
I had a situation which warranted a very similar letter, but it wasn't to a
doctor. I think if you write it it will make you feel better, help him look
at what he did more objectively (especially if you ask whether he quizzes
adults) and will benefit future others.
Sandra
<< In retrospect I
probably should have asked to speak to the doctor privately and explained
that I don't want him quizzing my children and that I was paying him to
provide medical care for my children, not educational care. >>
It's not too late to write him a letter and say your children aren't the only
homeschooled children he will ever meet, and that for the benefit of those
others (and yours, IF you go back <g>), he should consider that unless he's
in the habit of quizzing all his patients, schooled or not, and quizzing
adult patients, that it was inappropriate to quiz your children.
I had a situation which warranted a very similar letter, but it wasn't to a
doctor. I think if you write it it will make you feel better, help him look
at what he did more objectively (especially if you ask whether he quizzes
adults) and will benefit future others.
Sandra
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In a message dated 5/3/2002 5:49:18 PM Eastern Daylight Time, rmstalte@...
writes:
ask my stepdaughter whether she liked being at her father's house, and if so,
why, and if not, why not.
I told the doctor that she should not appear to be stirring up trouble where
there was none, left the office with child in tow, and never went back.
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writes:
> Anyone else have an experience like this and what did you do?I have never had an experience exactly like that, but I have had a physician
>
ask my stepdaughter whether she liked being at her father's house, and if so,
why, and if not, why not.
I told the doctor that she should not appear to be stirring up trouble where
there was none, left the office with child in tow, and never went back.
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hi robin,
i have this problem but it happenes every other friday when my ex comes
to pick up our daughter, he stands in our home and just startes asking her
all these different questions.. i asked her if this went on all weekend and
she says it does not, but she does get upset because he says she'll never
excell with this thing we're doing. i simply told him that she is getting the
attention and time she needs to do her own thing. he didn't like it but he
sees how happy and how much she has learned. who knows this week he may not
quiz us at all.
i have this problem but it happenes every other friday when my ex comes
to pick up our daughter, he stands in our home and just startes asking her
all these different questions.. i asked her if this went on all weekend and
she says it does not, but she does get upset because he says she'll never
excell with this thing we're doing. i simply told him that she is getting the
attention and time she needs to do her own thing. he didn't like it but he
sees how happy and how much she has learned. who knows this week he may not
quiz us at all.