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Lori
>>>Now with attachment parenting did you go out every once in a while,Each of my four babies were always with me....we never owned a bottle and
>just you and your husband, or was the baby always with you? Also, when
>baby fell asleep did
>you put her in a crib or ... what did you do? I'm just curious.>>
they nursed when s/he needed to. When each child was ready to choose to stay
home for a time with the older ones, that is when s/he began to do so. They
each chose to go out with Dad for short periods beginning around 2yo. My dh
and I never felt that going out with the current baby was a hardship or
detracted from our time together.
When the baby fell asleep in my arms while nursing, sleep continued that
way. I would read to the older ones, sit at the computer or do paper work as
needed. Before slings became readily available, I used a twin-sized sheet as
a sling. Our babies were always in arms. At night the baby was (is) tucked
in next to me while I read to the older ones and do my own reading. When the
child wanted to move out of the family bed, that's when it occurred.
Lori
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Brown
I don't think I am a good enough parent NOT to breastfeed. I never did work out
how to deal with comforting without it. Like when #2 had his finger jammed in a
door and totally flattened (at age 8 months). Having established it wasn't
broken, they had to squeeze it to mold it back into shape. Imagining the
screaming? Nope, none - he nursed through the lot. Then the time we were
visiting and #4 (at about 15 months) put his hand on the unprotected wood stove.
He did scream but nursing was a great comfort. And then there was ....... too
numerous examples. Praps it make the likes of me lazy, but it always seemed such
an easy way to comfort that I didn't bother looking for too many alternatives.
With respect to time out with or without my husband, I really wanted that time
when I had my 1st, but by the time the 2nd arrived, and from then on, it hasn't
bothered me having the kids with me. Now the oldest is 18 and the youngest is
nine, we do go out sometimes. But most of the time, knowing we CAN go out alone
is enough, and most of the time we choose to take the kids. What is really nice,
is being able now to take just one and spend some special time with that one.
Carol
how to deal with comforting without it. Like when #2 had his finger jammed in a
door and totally flattened (at age 8 months). Having established it wasn't
broken, they had to squeeze it to mold it back into shape. Imagining the
screaming? Nope, none - he nursed through the lot. Then the time we were
visiting and #4 (at about 15 months) put his hand on the unprotected wood stove.
He did scream but nursing was a great comfort. And then there was ....... too
numerous examples. Praps it make the likes of me lazy, but it always seemed such
an easy way to comfort that I didn't bother looking for too many alternatives.
With respect to time out with or without my husband, I really wanted that time
when I had my 1st, but by the time the 2nd arrived, and from then on, it hasn't
bothered me having the kids with me. Now the oldest is 18 and the youngest is
nine, we do go out sometimes. But most of the time, knowing we CAN go out alone
is enough, and most of the time we choose to take the kids. What is really nice,
is being able now to take just one and spend some special time with that one.
Carol