Re: practical examples of ap
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In a message dated 10/7/99 2:58:28 PM, faithb@... writes:
<< Now with attachment parenting did you go out every once in a while, just
you and your husband, or was the baby always with you? Also, when baby fell
asleep did
you put her in a crib or ... what did you do? I'm just curious. I know some
of you have talked about keeping the baby in a sling on you, but I can't
imagine
for the sake of my back. I don't have the greatest back as it is, and I
would think that it would make it worse. I would love to hear what you, and
anyone
else, have to say. >>
i use the term attatchment parenting, but it is not synonymous with the image
portrayed on 20/20 the other nite! they said, among other things:
controversial, simplistic, no strollers, and having the goal of nursing their
child as long as possible! ha! tho i have breastfed my babies up to 3
years, i would certainly not state that as my goal!! it was simply meeting
the needs of the child! o well, i guess we already know not to get our best
info from tv! my local news show had a follow up piece afterward and did a
much better job of presenting the reality imo. that ap (attatchment
parenting) is a choice that works for them, strengthening and supporting the
love in their families! that the parents had thought about what they wanted
their children to become (compassionate, loving, secure, etc), and that they
could easily see how ap was going to be the foundation.
to answer your queries, faith. i too couldnt imagine carrying my
not-only-big-at-birth-but-also-gaining-quickly babies every hour of the day.
so i am content to have them around. i "sling" them sometimes, (esp when
they are fussy or sick, or i need to dash into the store w/a toddler in hand)
and other times they are content just to know i am near and sensitive to
their needs. and about them falling asleep, one of the greatest things about
the sling (to me) is that they can be easily layed down by just leaning over
the bed and sliding them off!
we did take our babies everywhere pretty much. and they usually did well bc
when mom is near they have everything they need. i found that the first few
months usually fly by (okay, in retrospect anyway) and then by about 8-9mos i
could leave them w/ hubby for a few hours if i wanted. and it extends from
there. my 16mo old can have me gone for about 4-5hrs at a time for example
w/out him being upset. of course EACH CHILD is DIFFERENT. it has been
easier for us than for some because the kids have been pretty laid back. i
have friends who have the same age children as me and choose not to leave
them that long bc of the discomfort it causes the child. another example is
that my little guy doesnt like the nursery at church at this stage so we
sacrifice a less disrupted service (since we are the mature adults) instead
of having the baby be upset for that hour in the nursery (which i
heartbreakingly see parents do every week!! :( )
i wonder if this is an example of child centered parenting that we discussed
earlier? is this something that ezzo program would look down on? to us,
sacrifice=love when done with that motivation. just like the big one!
it is amazes me again and again that different people can see the very same
thing and feel so differently about it! oh the wonders of our uniqueness!
erin
<< Now with attachment parenting did you go out every once in a while, just
you and your husband, or was the baby always with you? Also, when baby fell
asleep did
you put her in a crib or ... what did you do? I'm just curious. I know some
of you have talked about keeping the baby in a sling on you, but I can't
imagine
for the sake of my back. I don't have the greatest back as it is, and I
would think that it would make it worse. I would love to hear what you, and
anyone
else, have to say. >>
i use the term attatchment parenting, but it is not synonymous with the image
portrayed on 20/20 the other nite! they said, among other things:
controversial, simplistic, no strollers, and having the goal of nursing their
child as long as possible! ha! tho i have breastfed my babies up to 3
years, i would certainly not state that as my goal!! it was simply meeting
the needs of the child! o well, i guess we already know not to get our best
info from tv! my local news show had a follow up piece afterward and did a
much better job of presenting the reality imo. that ap (attatchment
parenting) is a choice that works for them, strengthening and supporting the
love in their families! that the parents had thought about what they wanted
their children to become (compassionate, loving, secure, etc), and that they
could easily see how ap was going to be the foundation.
to answer your queries, faith. i too couldnt imagine carrying my
not-only-big-at-birth-but-also-gaining-quickly babies every hour of the day.
so i am content to have them around. i "sling" them sometimes, (esp when
they are fussy or sick, or i need to dash into the store w/a toddler in hand)
and other times they are content just to know i am near and sensitive to
their needs. and about them falling asleep, one of the greatest things about
the sling (to me) is that they can be easily layed down by just leaning over
the bed and sliding them off!
we did take our babies everywhere pretty much. and they usually did well bc
when mom is near they have everything they need. i found that the first few
months usually fly by (okay, in retrospect anyway) and then by about 8-9mos i
could leave them w/ hubby for a few hours if i wanted. and it extends from
there. my 16mo old can have me gone for about 4-5hrs at a time for example
w/out him being upset. of course EACH CHILD is DIFFERENT. it has been
easier for us than for some because the kids have been pretty laid back. i
have friends who have the same age children as me and choose not to leave
them that long bc of the discomfort it causes the child. another example is
that my little guy doesnt like the nursery at church at this stage so we
sacrifice a less disrupted service (since we are the mature adults) instead
of having the baby be upset for that hour in the nursery (which i
heartbreakingly see parents do every week!! :( )
i wonder if this is an example of child centered parenting that we discussed
earlier? is this something that ezzo program would look down on? to us,
sacrifice=love when done with that motivation. just like the big one!
it is amazes me again and again that different people can see the very same
thing and feel so differently about it! oh the wonders of our uniqueness!
erin
faith buckley
Erin,
I have never gone through the infant class of the Ezzo's, so I don't know what
they think. I was just loaned the book that I have only read bits and peices of,
just to get an idea of a sample schedule.
But at our church, if the baby is constantly crying the parent is called and
takes the child! I choose not to leave my babies in the nursery until they're
about 6 months old anyway. And then I do it gradually, for short periods of
time, until they are comfortable being there. My 2 yr old loved it right away,
when she was a baby. She loves playing with the 'babies' at church. In fact she
asks everyday to go to church.
Right now, with my now 3month old (yay, she's one month older, and growing so
fast :-(), I usually miss the sermon altogether. We stay in there for worship bc
if she starts being fussy no one can hear. And in our church, worship is a real
party (dancing, jumping, shouting, etc., we're pentacostal, if you can't tell
;-)) so I usually just dance around with her and she loves it! But when the
sermon starts, if she gets fussy I just walk out or stay in the back near the
doors for a quick exit. She used to sleep right through but as she gets older
she's awake for longer periods of time. And I truly feel there is nothing wrong
with that sacrifice, either! And I can't think of a single person I know who
would! :-)
Living for Him,
Faith
MORELFAM@... wrote:
I have never gone through the infant class of the Ezzo's, so I don't know what
they think. I was just loaned the book that I have only read bits and peices of,
just to get an idea of a sample schedule.
But at our church, if the baby is constantly crying the parent is called and
takes the child! I choose not to leave my babies in the nursery until they're
about 6 months old anyway. And then I do it gradually, for short periods of
time, until they are comfortable being there. My 2 yr old loved it right away,
when she was a baby. She loves playing with the 'babies' at church. In fact she
asks everyday to go to church.
Right now, with my now 3month old (yay, she's one month older, and growing so
fast :-(), I usually miss the sermon altogether. We stay in there for worship bc
if she starts being fussy no one can hear. And in our church, worship is a real
party (dancing, jumping, shouting, etc., we're pentacostal, if you can't tell
;-)) so I usually just dance around with her and she loves it! But when the
sermon starts, if she gets fussy I just walk out or stay in the back near the
doors for a quick exit. She used to sleep right through but as she gets older
she's awake for longer periods of time. And I truly feel there is nothing wrong
with that sacrifice, either! And I can't think of a single person I know who
would! :-)
Living for Him,
Faith
MORELFAM@... wrote:
> From: MORELFAM@...
>
> another example is
> that my little guy doesnt like the nursery at church at this stage so we
> sacrifice a less disrupted service (since we are the mature adults) instead
> of having the baby be upset for that hour in the nursery (which i
> heartbreakingly see parents do every week!! :( )
>
> i wonder if this is an example of child centered parenting that we discussed
> earlier? is this something that ezzo program would look down on? to us,
> sacrifice=love when done with that motivation. just like the big one!
>