zenmomma *

>>Yesterday after Wyndham broke the dog's monster bone in half during
a rage...>>

Oh wow, Bridget. :-/ If this psychologist doesn't help, PLEASE don't be
afraid to also look at other sources of help.

>>You should make him a punching bag.>>

When I first read this, I read it as making Wyndham *the* punching bag. As
in puching him till he stops. LOL! I know that wasn't the suggestion. ;-)

You might want to try a trampoline, though, if you haven't already. Conor
likes to jump hard and slam his own body around when he gets mad.

Life is good.
~Mary



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rumpleteasermom

--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., "zenmomma *" <zenmomma@h...> wrote:
> >>Yesterday after Wyndham broke the dog's monster bone in half
during
> a rage...>>
>
> Oh wow, Bridget. :-/ If this psychologist doesn't help, PLEASE don't
be
> afraid to also look at other sources of help.
>

Don't worry, I'm not lettin' this go 'til we fix him! I think I may
have put it off too long as it is. I kept hoping I was wrong and that
his problems would lessen with age. But if anything he is getting
worse.


> >>You should make him a punching bag.>>
>
> When I first read this, I read it as making Wyndham *the* punching
bag. As
> in puching him till he stops. LOL! I know that wasn't the
suggestion. ;-)

As tempting as that is from time to time, I NEVER hit him - - it's
not his fault he has these problems. But I see the humor in what you
read.

Bridget

zenmomma *

>>Don't worry, I'm not lettin' this go 'til we fix him!>>

Bear in mind, though, that he won't ever be "fixed". (And I know you meant
that in a loving, tender way. :o)) He will be helped, though. He will get
tools and medications and compensations and self-directed coping strategies
that will help him learn to live with who he is. But still, he is, Who He
Is. Always will be. Flawed in some troubling ways maybe, just like the rest
of us. But fabulous too, I'm sure.

>>I think I may have put it off too long as it is. I kept hoping I was
>>wrong and that his problems would lessen with age. But if anything he is
>>getting worse.>>

Don't beat yourself up over it. You did what you did for him with the best
of intentions to help him. And you really can't ever know for sure that
earlier intervention would have been the best choice. Some professionals
recommend early intervention with reading after all, and we've mostly
managed to overcome that piece of advice. ;-)

Life is good.
~Mary







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rumpleteasermom

--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., "zenmomma *" <zenmomma@h...> wrote:
> >>Don't worry, I'm not lettin' this go 'til we fix him!>>
>
> Bear in mind, though, that he won't ever be "fixed". (And I know you
meant
> that in a loving, tender way. :o))

Oh yes, I know that. By 'fixed', I mean back in balance and in
control of himself. Right now, he is so fearful it is sad. And it
came out yesterday in the session with the therapist that he feels so
different from others and not in the good way that the girls feel
different. I nearly cried.

> And you really can't ever know for sure
that
> earlier intervention would have been the best choice. Some
professionals
> recommend early intervention with reading after all, and we've
mostly
> managed to overcome that piece of advice. ;-)
>
> Life is good.
> ~Mary
>

Actually, I still think that earlier intervention would have been a
bad thing. The problems were to complicated and he was not able
enough to express himself. I suspect we would have gotten a bad
diagnosis. So, I'm not too upset about waiting but I wonder 'what
if'.

Bridget