Sources of stress?? (was Re: Intro)
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On what's stressing her
In a message dated 4/25/02 9:53:32 AM, bianchifam7@... writes:
<< I guess really just trying to get them to "sit down and do their work"
when
they want to be doing something else - going outside and playing or watching
TV or whatever. >>
If you let them play and watch TV, they'll be learning still, they'll be
happier, and you'll be happier.
<<It almost always seems to turn into a struggle and even
then, usually somebody will end up crying/mad during the course of trying to
"get it all done." >>
Very clear signals!
<<It seems like the days where I try to get them to do some
work are always our worst. >>
FLAMING 20-foot-high signal!
<<That's really what is getting me to consider
unschooling, not wanting to make learning a big fight and something to shy
away from.>>
Ah, too late on them learning that learning is a big fight and something to
shy away from.
Not too late to recover and unschool!
Every moment you spend trying to make them "sit down and do their work" will
have to be undone, so the sooner you stop the sooner you stop the crying,
fighting, shying away, anger, and burning desire to do something else.
It seems you have been mistaken about what "their work" is, and what YOUR
work should be. Building a good relationship with them will overshadow any
"benefit" of the us vs. them situation you're in now.
Sandra Dodd
In a message dated 4/25/02 9:53:32 AM, bianchifam7@... writes:
<< I guess really just trying to get them to "sit down and do their work"
when
they want to be doing something else - going outside and playing or watching
TV or whatever. >>
If you let them play and watch TV, they'll be learning still, they'll be
happier, and you'll be happier.
<<It almost always seems to turn into a struggle and even
then, usually somebody will end up crying/mad during the course of trying to
"get it all done." >>
Very clear signals!
<<It seems like the days where I try to get them to do some
work are always our worst. >>
FLAMING 20-foot-high signal!
<<That's really what is getting me to consider
unschooling, not wanting to make learning a big fight and something to shy
away from.>>
Ah, too late on them learning that learning is a big fight and something to
shy away from.
Not too late to recover and unschool!
Every moment you spend trying to make them "sit down and do their work" will
have to be undone, so the sooner you stop the sooner you stop the crying,
fighting, shying away, anger, and burning desire to do something else.
It seems you have been mistaken about what "their work" is, and what YOUR
work should be. Building a good relationship with them will overshadow any
"benefit" of the us vs. them situation you're in now.
Sandra Dodd
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In a message dated 4/25/2002 10:00:44 AM Pacific Standard Time,
SandraDodd@... writes:
I really am going to try to get to the HSC convention in August to hear you
speak! Just from not having the pressure for this past week I can already
see the change in my kids, subtle but there. My older two boys actually got
two "educational" books at the library -- one about the fifty states and one
about space that they've been reading through and they've all been spending
more time playing outside and just seem a little happier to me. Maybe I'm
just noticing things they'd be doing anyway, having high hopes for
unschooling, but I have noticed it! My 10 y/o continues to say how he wants
to do workbooks, etc. but he hasn't touched one this week and they've all
been readily available to him! LOL
Anyway, thanks again for all of the encouragement!
Sandra
Homeschooling Mom to Five
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SandraDodd@... writes:
> If you let them play and watch TV, they'll be learning still, they'll beThanks for all of your thoughts and advice, yet again, Sandra! : ) I think
> happier, and you'll be happier.
I really am going to try to get to the HSC convention in August to hear you
speak! Just from not having the pressure for this past week I can already
see the change in my kids, subtle but there. My older two boys actually got
two "educational" books at the library -- one about the fifty states and one
about space that they've been reading through and they've all been spending
more time playing outside and just seem a little happier to me. Maybe I'm
just noticing things they'd be doing anyway, having high hopes for
unschooling, but I have noticed it! My 10 y/o continues to say how he wants
to do workbooks, etc. but he hasn't touched one this week and they've all
been readily available to him! LOL
Anyway, thanks again for all of the encouragement!
Sandra
Homeschooling Mom to Five
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