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**"The Explosive Child"

Don't read it! :)**

Why not?

Can you expand on this post just a bit?

Thanks,
Deborah in IL

Camille Bauer

**"The Explosive Child"

Don't read it! :)**

Why not?

Can you expand on this post just a bit?>>

The feeling of the book, some of the ideas, it just all seemed *off* to me. I don't recommend it.

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marji

I'm sorry to press you further, Camille, but can you be yet a little more
specific? How do the ideas seem off? What is the feeling that you got
from reading it. Contrived? I'm curious because my 7yo son can be
explosive and frustrated and turn his anger inward and I'm not sure how to
help him. On the face of it, this book seems like it would offer some
insight, but I would also be interested in knowing what your objections to
it are.

I hope you don't mind! I truly appreciate your insight. I'm a little at
sea and concerned about my son.

Marji

At 13:45 4/22/02 -0400, you wrote:
>**"The Explosive Child"
>
>Don't read it! :)**
>
>Why not?
>
>Can you expand on this post just a bit?>>
>
>The feeling of the book, some of the ideas, it just all seemed *off* to
>me. I don't recommend it.
>
>Camille




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Camille Bauer

I went and looked, it was a different book, not the Explosive Child.

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In a message dated 4/22/2002 1:07:20 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
goddessofwisdom2@... writes:


> I went and looked, it was a different book, not the Explosive Child.

Whew -- I was worried that I was recommending something that I wouldn't even
agree with at all. So this one is the one that I remember really liking - I
carried it around and tried to talk about it with all my friends for a few
weeks. They put up with me <g>. My kids each asked me, one after another, if
I was reading that book because of them. Heck YEAH - they are ALL
explosive!!!!

They're all intense, creative, dramatic, high-energy kids. All have gone
through stages of easy frustration and being quick to throw a fit.

I wouldn't know what it was like to have easy-going, laid-back kids, although
I must admit I've imagined it MANY times <BEG>.

I tend to like the parenting books that put an emphasis on doing things that
strengthen the parent-child relationship. I do not like books that encourage
behaviorist sorts of manipulations and punishments or briberies (see my bias
showing?).

The other parenting book I REALLY REALLY like is: "The Parent-Teen
Breakthrough: The Relationship Approach" by Mira Kirshenbaum. And I think
people should read it when the kids are pre-teens or younger - it applies
equally to those years, even though the examples are for older teens. Look at
this review from a reader (off Amazon) and tell me the last couple of lines
don't reflect how we unschoolers often feel:
****
I found this book browsing in a store. I have been referring to it for over a
year now and it has changed my relationship with my 15 and 16 year old. There
are no more fights over the little things in life, no more nagging. Just deep
concern for my children and the time we have together. When I tell my friends
of the theories in this book they think I am avoiding dealing with teen age
conflicts, but they will admit to arguing a lot in their homes. Sometimes I
think it's a gamble to practice this method, what if at the end of the teen
years it was not the way to parent? But the results now are so incredibly
rewarding, it almost imossible to think it is not the best way to go.
********

pamS
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joanna514

>
> The other parenting book I REALLY REALLY like is: "The Parent-Teen
> Breakthrough: The Relationship Approach" by Mira Kirshenbaum. And I
think
> people should read it when the kids are pre-teens or younger - it
applies
> equally to those years, even though the examples are for older
teens.

I just saw this book at the library today!
I was looking for The Teenage Liberation Handbook, just kinda
browsing for it and saw this book. I thought, "maybe in a few
years..." (Kids are 11,8,5 and almost 3)
I'll pick it up the next time I'm there. Thanks!
Joanna- who also wouldn't know what to do with a calm, easy going
child and has often wondered about my fate(having been a calm and
easy going child). I will try to find The Explosive Child too.
Thanks.

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In a message dated 4/22/02 14:02:01, zintz@... writes:

<< I'm curious because my 7yo son can be
explosive and frustrated and turn his anger inward and I'm not sure how to
help him. On the face of it, this book seems like it would offer some
insight, but I would also be interested in knowing what your objections to
it are. >>

I read the first few chapters and found it immensely helpful with my seven
year old son. I would recommend it highly. It was very affirming for me.
Kimme