Bonni Sollars

Hi everyone. I have been listening and contributing as I felt led to for
a while. I still don't know why on email people feel such a need to
defend themselves. It fuels the fire and fills up inboxes wastefully. I
think we should just state our disagreement with the other's
disagreement, and leave it at that. Someone has to take the first step
of not reacting off the other's reaction. If people had not disagreed
with other's definitions of unschooling, I would not have learned as much
as I have about unschooling. Our disagreements give us an opportunity to
communicate, learn and challenge ourselves to grow. People can argue
without taking things personally. My husband and I are very different.
When we disagree, we state our differing feelings and opinions, then come
up with a solution. If there isn't any mutually agreeable solution
because our opinions are so opposed, we agree to disagree. No one has to
win. No one has to lose. But we both get to express our viewpoint and
that is what keeps us sane and together. I think the world should have
more peace-no need to get mad just because someone is disagreeing with
us. Bonni