Stages of Grief
Stacy Finch
Sorry Paula, but I don't think I would be easily convinced. I have been
through and seen people grieve many times. There is a definite process that
occurs in different order for different people. Knowing the stages makes it
easier to see where you are in the process and what is happening to oneself.
Stacy
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through and seen people grieve many times. There is a definite process that
occurs in different order for different people. Knowing the stages makes it
easier to see where you are in the process and what is happening to oneself.
Stacy
>From: Bonni Sollars Subject: Re: "Stages of Grief" (was: Andrea Yates)_________________________________________________________________
>
>Paula, Please explain why you don't believe there are the stages of grief.
>I am very curious to know, since I actually do help a lot of people and
>wouldn't want to encourage them with a lie, if I knew a better truth. Bonni
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alaurashome
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wrote:
and stayed that way for 6 months. I cleaned, cooked, and cared for
my family. I drove my children to lessons and sat quietly. I was
polite and answered direct questions, but that was all. Many
friends drifted away. Some told me that I was boring. Some told me
that I needed to snap out of it. Some told me that I needed to
pray. I was incapable of doing any of those things. I didn't care
what people thought. Emotionally, I was running on empty and I
could not relate to anyone other than my husband and kids.
One day, the shock lessened enough for me to let the pain in. I
broke down and cried for days. After that, I began to arise from my
stupor and started to be able to relate to others. I am sure that
some people watched me for those 6 months and thought that I didn't
care. I believe that it was a matter of survival. I was
emotionless for months becasue the pain was more than I could
handle.
My brother handled it differently. He became a crusader with a
vengeance. He attended every court appearance of the men who killed
my sister. He used anger to handle his pain. I think that we both
did what we needed to get through it.
I don't think that people should judge by appearances. We are all
so complex and we hide most of ourselves deep inside where others
cannot see. I don't know what Andrea's husband is really feeling.
I can't see how anyone else could know either.
Alaura
wrote:
> Sorry Paula, but I don't think I would be easily convinced. I havebeen
> through and seen people grieve many times. There is a definiteprocess that
> occurs in different order for different people. Knowing the stagesmakes it
> easier to see where you are in the process and what is happeningto oneself.
>I have to agree. When my sister died suddenly, I went into shock
> Stacy
>
and stayed that way for 6 months. I cleaned, cooked, and cared for
my family. I drove my children to lessons and sat quietly. I was
polite and answered direct questions, but that was all. Many
friends drifted away. Some told me that I was boring. Some told me
that I needed to snap out of it. Some told me that I needed to
pray. I was incapable of doing any of those things. I didn't care
what people thought. Emotionally, I was running on empty and I
could not relate to anyone other than my husband and kids.
One day, the shock lessened enough for me to let the pain in. I
broke down and cried for days. After that, I began to arise from my
stupor and started to be able to relate to others. I am sure that
some people watched me for those 6 months and thought that I didn't
care. I believe that it was a matter of survival. I was
emotionless for months becasue the pain was more than I could
handle.
My brother handled it differently. He became a crusader with a
vengeance. He attended every court appearance of the men who killed
my sister. He used anger to handle his pain. I think that we both
did what we needed to get through it.
I don't think that people should judge by appearances. We are all
so complex and we hide most of ourselves deep inside where others
cannot see. I don't know what Andrea's husband is really feeling.
I can't see how anyone else could know either.
Alaura