Olivia

When my husband and I first discussed homeschooling, I thought we had
agreed that he had to be involved at least some nights by spending time
with our son, either reading or playing a game...whatever. I had hoped that
he might be willing to do the bedtime shift, thereby allowing me "my time"
earlier, so that we could spend quiet time together before midnight every
night. BUT that has not happened. Somewhere during the summer our routine
reverted to an older one: I take care of the homeschooling (daytime) and
bedtime while my husband does his thing and relaxes or fiddles on the
computer until our son is in bed (10 PM). I guess we need to revisit our
earlier HS discussions.







At 10:51 AM 09/20/1999 -0400, you wrote:
>From: APPLEKJF@...
>
>>It may be scary for my hubby to have to interact with the boys so much
>now...I say tough! He should have been doing it a long time ago...and not
>just during baseball season! He will get used to it, he will find other cool
>little people to snuggle with <g>. And he will be loved and remembered as a
>good Pop to his boys. And he will be able to play a lot more now too and
>have more fun. I do think hubbies have to learn their are other ways to
>relax and interacting with your family isn't work! I don't get to play, I
>have to work :o(
>
>I may have gone to the opposite extreme here on being harsh with the hubby.
>But I know a lot of us homeschooling moms don't get the help and support we
>need from our spouses to do this. Asking Dad to take over bedtime routine,
>even if we aren't working another job, isn't asking too much in my book. We
>do have to work on our partnership that we committed our lives to. But that
>partnership does have to work for her as well as him.
>
>

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In a message dated 99-09-21 16:02:17 EDT, you write:

<< and relaxes or fiddles on the
computer until our son is in bed (10 PM). I guess we need to revisit our
earlier HS discussions.
>>
This need not be a homeschool discussion either. This is a daddy discussion
we ahve had many times!

Rachael

Joel Hawthorne

Indeed!

Olivia wrote:

> From: Olivia <liv2learn@...>
>
> When my husband and I first discussed homeschooling, I thought we had
> agreed that he had to be involved at least some nights by spending time
> with our son, either reading or playing a game...whatever. I had hoped that
> he might be willing to do the bedtime shift, thereby allowing me "my time"
> earlier, so that we could spend quiet time together before midnight every
> night. BUT that has not happened. Somewhere during the summer our routine
> reverted to an older one: I take care of the homeschooling (daytime) and
> bedtime while my husband does his thing and relaxes or fiddles on the
> computer until our son is in bed (10 PM). I guess we need to revisit our
> earlier HS discussions.
>
> At 10:51 AM 09/20/1999 -0400, you wrote:
> >From: APPLEKJF@...
> >
> >>It may be scary for my hubby to have to interact with the boys so much
> >now...I say tough! He should have been doing it a long time ago...and not
> >just during baseball season! He will get used to it, he will find other cool
> >little people to snuggle with <g>. And he will be loved and remembered as a
> >good Pop to his boys. And he will be able to play a lot more now too and
> >have more fun. I do think hubbies have to learn their are other ways to
> >relax and interacting with your family isn't work! I don't get to play, I
> >have to work :o(
> >
> >I may have gone to the opposite extreme here on being harsh with the hubby.
> >But I know a lot of us homeschooling moms don't get the help and support we
> >need from our spouses to do this. Asking Dad to take over bedtime routine,
> >even if we aren't working another job, isn't asking too much in my book. We
> >do have to work on our partnership that we committed our lives to. But that
> >partnership does have to work for her as well as him.
> >
> >
>
> > Check it out!
> http://www.unschooling.com

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