Lynda

Leslie,

Hold that thought ("maybe we'll open our doors to some wayward teens")!
There are sooooo many kids out there that need a loving home or even to know
that there is somewhere they can go if they simply need to "get away" for
awhile.

The rewards are tremendous!

Lynda
----- Original Message -----
From: "Leslie" <leslie@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Tuesday, January 08, 2002 7:12 PM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: [a moment's peace


> Hi Candy,
>
> In my book 4 is almost newborn! We have always had a family bed. I might
also add that they all breast fed until they were around 5. My partner and
I were together for almost 9 years before we had any kids so sex where ever
and when ever wasn't an issue. Our kids are now 18, 12 and 7. The 18 year
old slept in our family bed or his bed with dad or little brother or little
brothers bed etc...until he was 13 or 14. He never sleeps with any of us
anymore :~( and we miss him.
> We have a king size with a single on the side for the four of us who are
left. Our 12 year old is with us unless he stays out at a friends or has
friends sleep over. Our baby, who's 7 already, is still always with us. They
all have a bedroom complete with a bed and at times, if someone is sick,
can't sleep, or wants to have sex, we play musical beds and sleep where ever
we're most comfy.
>
> My oldest was extremely clingy and never slept out, except for at my moms,
until he was well into his teens. I admit I was worried and had many well
meaning people warning me, when he refused to attend sleep overs or even
large parties with friends, and we pushed him at times always with negative
results. Anyway, to make a long story short, he just got back from a 2 week
road trip to Key Largo with his old girl friend and we spent the time
cleaning and decorating his room to keep our loneliness at bay :~).
>
> These years of family living have been the best years of my life and I'm
not looking forward to an empty bed and a clean house. Soon I'll be looking
for a support group for people who didn't send their kids to their rooms or
to school and can't live with the peace and quiet. Or maybe we'll open our
doors to some wayward teens or become foster parents or something.
>
> Enjoy your little one and don't be afraid of being too close. These are
your years together, make the most of it, it will be over before ya know
it!!!! You can have sex anywhere but in bed, so what. Just hope your libido
doesn't disappear when she does:~)
>
> Leslie
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Candy
> To: [email protected]
> Sent: Tuesday, January 08, 2002 8:58 PM
> Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: [a moment's peace
>
>
> I am so glad I found this group!!! My husband and I agonize over this
very thing. Our daughter is 4 and an only child. If she can't sleep with
us, she cries, and after listening to sobbing for a while, it seems to
really put a damper on the mood. :o) We have tried doing a schedule of one
night in our bed, and one night in her's, but I have to admit that I am so
used to her sleeping with us, that if she does not wind up in our bed, I
can't sleep, I keep checking on her because it is so unusual!! I know it is
important not completely neglect your marriage, but I think my daughter's
need to sleep with us has actually gotten worse the last 6 months instead of
better. I always thought as she got older, her need for independence would
increase, and she would enjoy her room. We have even tried completely
remodeling her room to make it what she likes. We got her involved in
choosing the theme, colors, furniture, ect. we got her a bed that looks like
a house, even went out and found a pink TV to match everything! She does
love her room, but not enough to sleep in it.We are somewhat at a loss of
what to do next! She really does not take naps very often any more, and it
just breaks my heart to tell her she can't sleep with us. Any suggestions on
what has worked? I just joined the group yesterday, so I may have missed
earlier discussions.
> Candy Oliver
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Lorraine Goods
> To: [email protected]
> Sent: Tuesday, January 08, 2002 5:13 PM
> Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Re: [a moment's peace
>
>
> On Tue, 8 Jan 2002 KingsDaughterThe@... wrote:
>
> > I could really relate when you say you just can't relax. I don't
know how
> > much feedback you'll get on this one :), but lately my normal
routine after
> > 'the door is closed', no matter what time of day or night, is taking
a
> > suspicious quick peek - under the bed and in the closet! Talk about
> > 'paranoia'! lol The little critters are EVERYWHERE!!! Though, I
can't say
> > this has hindered us too, too much... we did manage to have SIX!
Haha!
>
> Very cool. I guess bc I have just one child I would feel guilty
shutting
> my door to him at night. He wouldn't have any one else to bounce off
of
> and would feel, I'm afraid, left out, y'know? Not having siblings to
hang
> out w/when mom and dad are otherwise occupied and not letting him in
the
> bedroom. He has his own bed and room but we have an "open bed" policy
and
> he often ends up in ours sometime during the course of the night. He's
> five.
>
> > Ps- Also I enjoyed what you wrote on the TV thread about your
college friends
> > - that was a pretty balanced remark... :)
>
> Thanks.
>
> Best,
> Lynn
>
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