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In a message dated 9/20/99 9:18:59 AM, hooperck@... writes:

<< My dh is happy to go to bed if I'll wake him up (Ahem) when I come to bed.
I
usually would just like to decompress when I get in bed. But, life in a
family is
compromise, so sometimes I wake him up, sometimes I decompress...... >>

LOL! we use the same system! it is good when we (spouses) can appreciate
each others needs (Ahem)-- and be adult enough to recognize whose are greater
at any paritcular time! :)
compromise is sure vital!!

<<I keep trying to remind myself the 4 yr. old won't be in my bed forever,
and that
soon no one will want to be in my bed with us.>>

i, too, try to reflect often on how nice it is to be sooo loved and needed!!
when i find myself in need of a greater appreciation of all this loooove and
attention, i just try to imagine myself greatly missing it one day down the
road!! it gets me more greatful, less wistful....

erin

From: "A.Y." <hooperck@...>

Yeah, this is a tough one. I just want to be LEFT ALONE at the end of the day.
My dh is happy to go to bed if I'll wake him up (Ahem) when I come to bed. I
usually would just like to decompress when I get in bed. But, life in a family is
compromise, so sometimes I wake him up, sometimes I decompress......
I keep trying to remind myself the 4 yr. old won't be in my bed forever, and that
soon no one will want to be in my bed with us. So, I'm trying to see the good
side of it. Sometimes I don't succeed to well, but I try.
Guess this is just one of the family issues that we all deal with.
Ann

Olivia wrote:

> From: Olivia <liv2learn@...>
>
> Oh boy, is this a big issue in our house right now! My 6yo doesn't go to
> bed until after 10:00 almost every night. Then, by the time I get to use
> the computer (DH is on until 11), and log in our days highlights and read
> mail, it is midnight. Then I need time to myself to just wind down from the
> day. Of course, this is the time that my husband wants my attention. Has
> anyone found a solution to this type of situation? Late night is when my
> son wants to read and play games with us, so I hate to miss this important
> part of our unschooling. But my husband is not happy either. Is this a
> common problem for home/unschoolers, when mom's time comes last at the end
> of the day?
>
> Olivia
>
> At 12:27 AM 09/20/1999 -0400, you wrote:
> >From: MORELFAM@...
> >
> >as i was reading your schedule with the laaaate nights i wondered about the
> >spousal agreeableness, then later you mentioned it! i guess it is on my mind
> >because i often stay up late (like now) just to get some solitude after a
> >long day with the four children. but hubby wishes i would snuggle in with
> >him.... all these needs to deal with (including my own!)
> >erin
> >
>
> > Check it out!
> http://www.unschooling.com


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