Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1717
[email protected]
In a message dated 12/30/01 9:03:30 PM Mountain Standard Time,
[email protected] writes:
name like that. It was a very small town.
NICKI~
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[email protected] writes:
> Leslie Moyer / OklahomaSupulpa(sp?),I swear he used to have one in Bartlesville or somewhere w/ a
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> My biological father is in Tulsa. He has an office in Tulsa and one in
name like that. It was a very small town.
NICKI~
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Joseph Fuerst
<snip>then the boundaries should be agreed upon by the one that it affects
and there should not be any fences for teenagers?
I don't think you will *always* agree on boundaries, younger poeple
have a morelimited view of things, the 2 and 3 yr old won't get a lot of
say. As for teenagers, I can only imagine the agree to disagree
situations! LOL I think, that if boundaries are set and are used more
like guidelines (as I think lovemary said), then you still, as parent,
have more power to set them. Howevr, using information and listening to
your children repsectfully would underlie your boundary setting. An example
from another list cropped up recently......about a teen that liked to wander
outdoors alone at night. It is reasonable to inform the child about
restricting or eliminating that due to safety concerns.
How is this - my 12 yo dd would eat sweets all day if she could. I was the
one in charge of how many sweets she ate and she said she felt like I never
let her eat any. I could not believe this because it seemed to me that she
still ate way to many so I asked her how many desserts a day she thought
would be reasonable.
I understand your concerns in this area, my oldest (now 10yo)....well,
all my youngsters seem to have a sweet tooth. I mostly try to work on this
by example. And I think it's important to share information about how
sugar/any refined carbohydrate is digested.....what it does in your body,
especially how it can cause a spike followed by a sharp drop in blood sugar
(which in turn gives afalse sensation of hunger). Beyond trying to help
them be aware of the effects of suger on thier body and explaining....I'd
let them be in food choices. And offer lots of choices.
This is a real struggle for me, too. I sometimes want to insist on
eating breakfast, but find if I keep my mouth shut and have a nice
nutritious breakfast prepared, that goes much further than anything I
*say*.
Susan
and there should not be any fences for teenagers?
I don't think you will *always* agree on boundaries, younger poeple
have a morelimited view of things, the 2 and 3 yr old won't get a lot of
say. As for teenagers, I can only imagine the agree to disagree
situations! LOL I think, that if boundaries are set and are used more
like guidelines (as I think lovemary said), then you still, as parent,
have more power to set them. Howevr, using information and listening to
your children repsectfully would underlie your boundary setting. An example
from another list cropped up recently......about a teen that liked to wander
outdoors alone at night. It is reasonable to inform the child about
restricting or eliminating that due to safety concerns.
How is this - my 12 yo dd would eat sweets all day if she could. I was the
one in charge of how many sweets she ate and she said she felt like I never
let her eat any. I could not believe this because it seemed to me that she
still ate way to many so I asked her how many desserts a day she thought
would be reasonable.
I understand your concerns in this area, my oldest (now 10yo)....well,
all my youngsters seem to have a sweet tooth. I mostly try to work on this
by example. And I think it's important to share information about how
sugar/any refined carbohydrate is digested.....what it does in your body,
especially how it can cause a spike followed by a sharp drop in blood sugar
(which in turn gives afalse sensation of hunger). Beyond trying to help
them be aware of the effects of suger on thier body and explaining....I'd
let them be in food choices. And offer lots of choices.
This is a real struggle for me, too. I sometimes want to insist on
eating breakfast, but find if I keep my mouth shut and have a nice
nutritious breakfast prepared, that goes much further than anything I
*say*.
Susan