Joseph Fuerst

I hope your thinking is correct on this.
Susan

> I guess my think ing is this . . .
> I know lots of assicts and alcoholics. Theya ll seem to fall into
> two categories . . . those who came from poor innercity places where
> drinking and drugs were an escape of sorts and a way to cope the
> otehr type are those who come from mid to upper-class homes where
> they were expected to be exactly what the parents wanted or the
> parents were very authoritarian or who were never shown love, only
> given stuff and money.
> But I can't think of a simgle person who had parents who were
> interrested in them but not in a controlling way who went on to have
> these problems.
> But I can only say that in anecdotal at best and can't be used as a
> complete model of reality. It is truly just what I see around me and
> have experienced in the past.
>
> Bridget

Joseph Fuerst

I've often wondered if this category produces many of the seemingly new
trend on childhood psych diagnoses. When the child becomes difficult to
"handle" they go to the doc and try to medicate the "problem" away...or at
least put the child as the center of the problem....it couldn't be the
parents! (PLEASE NOTE: I mean no offense to anyone with a genuine problem
or diagnosis....and yes, I do think it can be a real issue. I'm just
trying to say that some who fit into Lynda's 'third category' may think of
common childhood behavior as too much of a crimp in their lifestyle)
sheesh, I'm tired and so are the three whiny ones coming to hang on
me....TTFN,
Susan

There is a third category we use to see where I worked. They were usually
from upper middle class and well to do families. It was like the parents
had kids because it was the thing to do and then they ignored them. Kinda
like some folks buy pets and then ignore them. And then when there was a
problem, it was "I just don't understand" and "How can he/she/they do this
to me."

Lynda