Diane

I agree. I don't think there has to be consistency between the parents either.
My dh does, though. That's one of the ways we differ. I still think he's
pretty controlling, but he sure isn't by most standards.

I figure I'm not going to convince him all at once, and if I thought we had to
do everything the same it would be 100% his way which isn't going to happen.
;-) Besides that wouldn't allow for much learning on his part. This way, we
can both watch and see what does and doesn't work from two angles.

:-) Diane
(although to be honest, he's 100% behind unschooling, it's just general
discipline I'm talking about.)

groundhoggirl wrote:

> Oh, I don't believe that hogwash that there HAS to be consistency in how
> 2 parents raise their children. I am very unschoolish, but my husband
> is not. Thank goodness he's not nearly as controlling and conservative
> as he used to be. I credit myself. He learns from my modeling just as
> well as my boys do.
>
> OK. I'll just come right out and say it: My boys know what they can
> get away with when they are with me (almost anything!) and they know
> that they can't do all those things when Papa is around. They make the
> adjustments very well and I don't particularly think it is harmful. It
> is just real life.
>
> I truly wish he had the same philosophy I have, but he doesn't. We make
> our compromises and we are happy. The boys are very happy too.
> Children are very smart, and they will adjust to different personalities
> and parenting styles.
>
> I refuse to give up my unschooling practices and my husband knows this.
> I am happy to say he has made more changes than I have. He's come more
> to my side than I have come to his. Actually, I have not moved in his
> direction at all.
>
> He has learned a lot.
>
> Mimi