meghan anderson

<<<<>Jennifer writes:
>To make matters even more frustrating, now my
husband, who once
supported
>me fully, is beginning to have doubts. He was fine
when we were
'playing
>school at home' but is now doubting me himself
because he doesn't
think
>they are up to par with all the other kids.


This is a different issue and a tough one to boot. I
don't have the
answer. When the support isn't there outside the
family, its one thing.
But when the support isn't there inside the family,
its another.

If anyone has insight on this one, I'd sure like some
perspectives.


Regards,
Kolleen >>>>>

I have this problem to a lesser degree. My ex (who
lives in the UK - so is not underfoot :-)) was totally
paranoid about the whole homeschooling thing (He's
even in denial of the term unschooling!). This year I
*enrolled* dd in a ps charter homeschool program for
financial reasons. I know that she will not be
enrolled next year because as she gets older it will
be too hard to unschool (she's enrolled in first grade
now and it's no prob). Ex was overjoyed at her being
in the ps system ("so we'll know what she's supposed
to be doing" - GAG! I've tried to explain my
philosophies and recommended books (so he'll know I'm
not the ONLY one who thinks like this), but he has yet
- in 3 years -to read a single book on the subject.
Both his parents were (now retired) in the private
education sector in the UK - very stiff upper lip
stuff. At the moment it's not too much of an issue
because dd loves to read and they seem to be measuring
how well she's doing on her reading skills (thank god
they haven't a clue about her math 'abilities'). What
I'm worried about is as she gets older and there's
more pressure put on her from that side of the family
(she goes to the UK 2x a year for a month at a time)
is how she's going to hold up under it. She has
confidence and self esteem issues as it is and I worry
about how being in that enviroment will affect her. If
anyone has any insight or advice regarding my
situation I would love to hear it. TIA

Meghan

P.S. She loves her dad and likes to go and see him,
it's just he parents SO differently than I do that
sometimes dd has a hard time of it. She's used to her
opinions being listened to and being respected as a
fully functioning human being and she doesn't get that there.

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meghan anderson

<<<<>Jennifer writes:
>To make matters even more frustrating, now my
husband, who once
supported
>me fully, is beginning to have doubts. He was fine
when we were
'playing
>school at home' but is now doubting me himself
because he doesn't
think
>they are up to par with all the other kids.


This is a different issue and a tough one to boot. I
don't have the
answer. When the support isn't there outside the
family, its one thing.
But when the support isn't there inside the family,
its another.

If anyone has insight on this one, I'd sure like some
perspectives.


Regards,
Kolleen >>>>>

I have this problem to a lesser degree. My ex (who
lives in the UK - so is not underfoot :-)) was totally
paranoid about the whole homeschooling thing (He's
even in denial of the term unschooling!). This year I
*enrolled* dd in a ps charter homeschool program for
financial reasons. I know that she will not be
enrolled next year because as she gets older it will
be too hard to unschool (she's enrolled in first grade
now and it's no prob). Ex was overjoyed at her being
in the ps system ("so we'll know what she's supposed
to be doing" - GAG! I've tried to explain my
philosophies and recommended books (so he'll know I'm
not the ONLY one who thinks like this), but he has yet
- in 3 years -to read a single book on the subject.
Both his parents were (now retired) in the private
education sector in the UK - very stiff upper lip
stuff. At the moment it's not too much of an issue
because dd loves to read and they seem to be measuring
how well she's doing on her reading skills (thank god
they haven't a clue about her math 'abilities'). What
I'm worried about is as she gets older and there's
more pressure put on her from that side of the family
(she goes to the UK 2x a year for a month at a time)
is how she's going to hold up under it. She has
confidence and self esteem issues as it is and I worry
about how being in that enviroment will affect her. If
anyone has any insight or advice regarding my
situation I would love to hear it. TIA

Meghan

P.S. She loves her dad and likes to go and see him,
it's just he parents SO differently than I do that
sometimes dd has a hard time of it. She's used to her
opinions being listened to and being respected as a
fully functioning human being and she doesn't get that there.

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