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In a message dated 11/25/2001 10:22:18 PM Eastern Standard Time,
sheran@... writes:


> So the question I'll throw out is--Why do some kids act this way?
> Sheila
>

Because that behaviour has been modeled to them. Children do what they see
being done. Lots of parents won't want to admit this because then they have
to look at their own behaviour and that is not easy to do and adults
oftentimes want to not take responsibility and they cannot see how what they
do and say shows up in their children.

lovemary


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Also, what I wanted to add about that but forgot to put, is that young people
(and other people as well) are a mirror. . . if you don't like what you see
in the reflection, change your own behavior.

lovemary


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Bridget E Coffman

That is not the universal answer. I have three kids. They are vastly
different from each other in temprament and action. I know other
families with that kind of wildly vast spread in personality too. So
unless the parents are all suffering from Multiple Personality Disorder,
you can't say that all children simply do as the see. I'm not saying
that parental example is never the case, only that I think you shouldn't
say it is ALWAYS the case.

Bridget



On Mon, 26 Nov 2001 07:22:35 EST lite2yu@... writes:

>
> Because that behaviour has been modeled to them. Children do what
> they see
> being done. Lots of parents won't want to admit this because then
> they have
> to look at their own behaviour and that is not easy to do and adults
>
> oftentimes want to not take responsibility and they cannot see how
> what they
> do and say shows up in their children.
>
> lovemary
>

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In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it
goes on.
- Robert Frost

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In a message dated 11/26/2001 8:43:02 AM Eastern Standard Time,
rumpleteasermom@... writes:


> . I'm not saying
> that parental example is never the case, only that I think you shouldn't
> say it is ALWAYS the case.
>

I think it is ALWAYS a part of what is going on. . .period. It may not be
the only thing but I do believe it is always a factor in things. It's my
belief, and of course, anyone is free to disagree, but please don't tell me I
"shouldn't say" something.

And even the good things too! Let's not forget those. One thing we have
started doing is every night, we all say one thing we appreciate about each
other (including ourselves) that happened during the day. My husband and I
started doing it, then the kids wanted to join in. It has been a great lesson
in gratitude and appreciation.

lovemary


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Tia Leschke

At 08:44 AM 26/11/01 -0500, you wrote:
>That is not the universal answer. I have three kids. They are vastly
>different from each other in temprament and action. I know other
>families with that kind of wildly vast spread in personality too. So
>unless the parents are all suffering from Multiple Personality Disorder,
>you can't say that all children simply do as the see. I'm not saying
>that parental example is never the case, only that I think you shouldn't
>say it is ALWAYS the case.

I think you have a point here. On the other hand, maybe our different kids
simply mirror *different* aspects of us.
Tia

Tia Leschke leschke@...
On Vancouver Island
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