Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1590
Julie Stauffer
<<why is it so hard for some people to accept that their writing style is
abrasive and try to change the tone of their writing>>
Personally, I have always found it easier to change my perceptions of
people, to simply accept them as they are and not take it personally, than
to try to force others to change.
My best friend all through school had few friends other than me. People
described her as caustic....I continue to love her dearly because I always
know exactly what she thinks about things.
Julie
abrasive and try to change the tone of their writing>>
Personally, I have always found it easier to change my perceptions of
people, to simply accept them as they are and not take it personally, than
to try to force others to change.
My best friend all through school had few friends other than me. People
described her as caustic....I continue to love her dearly because I always
know exactly what she thinks about things.
Julie
Julie Stauffer
<<it happens on this list on a regular basis>>
I have yet to see it. What I DO see is people posting imprecisely (is that
a word?) and when others respond to what they posted, rather than what they
meant, they feel defensive. Rather than posting "Oh, I see where you might
have misunderstood me. This is what I meant....." They squawk and holler
about how people are just mean to them.
This isn't particular to this list. I have seen it on virtually all lists
that I have had dealings with. And I often see it in real life.
Julie
I have yet to see it. What I DO see is people posting imprecisely (is that
a word?) and when others respond to what they posted, rather than what they
meant, they feel defensive. Rather than posting "Oh, I see where you might
have misunderstood me. This is what I meant....." They squawk and holler
about how people are just mean to them.
This isn't particular to this list. I have seen it on virtually all lists
that I have had dealings with. And I often see it in real life.
Julie
Lynda
I think you need to go back and read the whole string of posts that started
when Bridget joined the list. While she might not have been clear enough
for SOME people, others had no problem understanding what she was saying.
AND, when she followed your advise and tried to more clearly describe what
she was talking about she WAS definately attacked.
Also, because you don't see it doesn't mean it isn't happening. And it
still isn't paranoia simply because you see it as such and don't see things
that are happening on the list in the way that some others may see them.
Lynda
when Bridget joined the list. While she might not have been clear enough
for SOME people, others had no problem understanding what she was saying.
AND, when she followed your advise and tried to more clearly describe what
she was talking about she WAS definately attacked.
Also, because you don't see it doesn't mean it isn't happening. And it
still isn't paranoia simply because you see it as such and don't see things
that are happening on the list in the way that some others may see them.
Lynda
----- Original Message -----
From: Julie Stauffer <jnjstau@...>
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Saturday, November 17, 2001 10:52 AM
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1590
> <<it happens on this list on a regular basis>>
>
> I have yet to see it. What I DO see is people posting imprecisely (is
that
> a word?) and when others respond to what they posted, rather than what
they
> meant, they feel defensive. Rather than posting "Oh, I see where you
might
> have misunderstood me. This is what I meant....." They squawk and holler
> about how people are just mean to them.
>
> This isn't particular to this list. I have seen it on virtually all lists
> that I have had dealings with. And I often see it in real life.
>
> Julie
>
>
>
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