peanut allergies and culture
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In a message dated 11/17/01 8:34:10 AM Mountain Standard Time,
fuerst@... writes:
read/ask/decide what to order that's safe?
If I begin to control what my children eat, and totally reverse my advice to
other families who are having regular food-control issues in the absence of
death-threatening allergies, that won't make allergic kids any more or less
safe.
Do we all control because some families don't want to consider loosening up?
That's the way this culture has been (and largely still is). ALL kids have
early bedtimes; then no kids feel unburdened. ALL kids have to go to school,
then parents don't have to defend their decision to send kids to school. ALL
kids have to stay in when it's raining, so those parents who let their kids
go out and splash in gutters and puddles are Bad Parents.
I think treating children as people is good.
I have a close friend who's here at least weekly, sometimes daily for a
while, who housesits. She can't eat pecans or walnuts. When she will be
over we have none in food, and none out. She asks at restaurants. We remind
other people. It's a matter of course and a matter of fact. Another friend
can't have wheat, so we don't give her gifts of bread or cookies and we don't
offer her pizza.
I'm sorry your child can't be in a park where a person has eaten a peanut
butter sandwich. That's harsh. There are whole countries with hardly a
peanut. If this allergy isn't grown out of, maybe moving would make life way
easier.
Sandra
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fuerst@... writes:
> Unfortunately, it's not that simple......who ONLY eats at home? ManyWon't the child be with parents at restaurants until time to be able to
> restaurants use peanut oil, which is often enough to cause a reaction.
> Some even react simply to have the aroma of peanuts in the air.
>
read/ask/decide what to order that's safe?
If I begin to control what my children eat, and totally reverse my advice to
other families who are having regular food-control issues in the absence of
death-threatening allergies, that won't make allergic kids any more or less
safe.
Do we all control because some families don't want to consider loosening up?
That's the way this culture has been (and largely still is). ALL kids have
early bedtimes; then no kids feel unburdened. ALL kids have to go to school,
then parents don't have to defend their decision to send kids to school. ALL
kids have to stay in when it's raining, so those parents who let their kids
go out and splash in gutters and puddles are Bad Parents.
I think treating children as people is good.
I have a close friend who's here at least weekly, sometimes daily for a
while, who housesits. She can't eat pecans or walnuts. When she will be
over we have none in food, and none out. She asks at restaurants. We remind
other people. It's a matter of course and a matter of fact. Another friend
can't have wheat, so we don't give her gifts of bread or cookies and we don't
offer her pizza.
I'm sorry your child can't be in a park where a person has eaten a peanut
butter sandwich. That's harsh. There are whole countries with hardly a
peanut. If this allergy isn't grown out of, maybe moving would make life way
easier.
Sandra
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[email protected]
In a message dated 11/17/01 8:34:10 AM Mountain Standard Time,
fuerst@... writes:
read/ask/decide what to order that's safe?
If I begin to control what my children eat, and totally reverse my advice to
other families who are having regular food-control issues in the absence of
death-threatening allergies, that won't make allergic kids any more or less
safe.
Do we all control because some families don't want to consider loosening up?
That's the way this culture has been (and largely still is). ALL kids have
early bedtimes; then no kids feel unburdened. ALL kids have to go to school,
then parents don't have to defend their decision to send kids to school. ALL
kids have to stay in when it's raining, so those parents who let their kids
go out and splash in gutters and puddles are Bad Parents.
I think treating children as people is good.
I have a close friend who's here at least weekly, sometimes daily for a
while, who housesits. She can't eat pecans or walnuts. When she will be
over we have none in food, and none out. She asks at restaurants. We remind
other people. It's a matter of course and a matter of fact. Another friend
can't have wheat, so we don't give her gifts of bread or cookies and we don't
offer her pizza.
I'm sorry your child can't be in a park where a person has eaten a peanut
butter sandwich. That's harsh. There are whole countries with hardly a
peanut. If this allergy isn't grown out of, maybe moving would make life way
easier.
Sandra
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
fuerst@... writes:
> Unfortunately, it's not that simple......who ONLY eats at home? ManyWon't the child be with parents at restaurants until time to be able to
> restaurants use peanut oil, which is often enough to cause a reaction.
> Some even react simply to have the aroma of peanuts in the air.
>
read/ask/decide what to order that's safe?
If I begin to control what my children eat, and totally reverse my advice to
other families who are having regular food-control issues in the absence of
death-threatening allergies, that won't make allergic kids any more or less
safe.
Do we all control because some families don't want to consider loosening up?
That's the way this culture has been (and largely still is). ALL kids have
early bedtimes; then no kids feel unburdened. ALL kids have to go to school,
then parents don't have to defend their decision to send kids to school. ALL
kids have to stay in when it's raining, so those parents who let their kids
go out and splash in gutters and puddles are Bad Parents.
I think treating children as people is good.
I have a close friend who's here at least weekly, sometimes daily for a
while, who housesits. She can't eat pecans or walnuts. When she will be
over we have none in food, and none out. She asks at restaurants. We remind
other people. It's a matter of course and a matter of fact. Another friend
can't have wheat, so we don't give her gifts of bread or cookies and we don't
offer her pizza.
I'm sorry your child can't be in a park where a person has eaten a peanut
butter sandwich. That's harsh. There are whole countries with hardly a
peanut. If this allergy isn't grown out of, maybe moving would make life way
easier.
Sandra
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[email protected]
In a message dated 11/17/01 8:34:10 AM Mountain Standard Time,
fuerst@... writes:
read/ask/decide what to order that's safe?
If I begin to control what my children eat, and totally reverse my advice to
other families who are having regular food-control issues in the absence of
death-threatening allergies, that won't make allergic kids any more or less
safe.
Do we all control because some families don't want to consider loosening up?
That's the way this culture has been (and largely still is). ALL kids have
early bedtimes; then no kids feel unburdened. ALL kids have to go to school,
then parents don't have to defend their decision to send kids to school. ALL
kids have to stay in when it's raining, so those parents who let their kids
go out and splash in gutters and puddles are Bad Parents.
I think treating children as people is good.
I have a close friend who's here at least weekly, sometimes daily for a
while, who housesits. She can't eat pecans or walnuts. When she will be
over we have none in food, and none out. She asks at restaurants. We remind
other people. It's a matter of course and a matter of fact. Another friend
can't have wheat, so we don't give her gifts of bread or cookies and we don't
offer her pizza.
I'm sorry your child can't be in a park where a person has eaten a peanut
butter sandwich. That's harsh. There are whole countries with hardly a
peanut. If this allergy isn't grown out of, maybe moving would make life way
easier.
Sandra
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
fuerst@... writes:
> Unfortunately, it's not that simple......who ONLY eats at home? ManyWon't the child be with parents at restaurants until time to be able to
> restaurants use peanut oil, which is often enough to cause a reaction.
> Some even react simply to have the aroma of peanuts in the air.
>
read/ask/decide what to order that's safe?
If I begin to control what my children eat, and totally reverse my advice to
other families who are having regular food-control issues in the absence of
death-threatening allergies, that won't make allergic kids any more or less
safe.
Do we all control because some families don't want to consider loosening up?
That's the way this culture has been (and largely still is). ALL kids have
early bedtimes; then no kids feel unburdened. ALL kids have to go to school,
then parents don't have to defend their decision to send kids to school. ALL
kids have to stay in when it's raining, so those parents who let their kids
go out and splash in gutters and puddles are Bad Parents.
I think treating children as people is good.
I have a close friend who's here at least weekly, sometimes daily for a
while, who housesits. She can't eat pecans or walnuts. When she will be
over we have none in food, and none out. She asks at restaurants. We remind
other people. It's a matter of course and a matter of fact. Another friend
can't have wheat, so we don't give her gifts of bread or cookies and we don't
offer her pizza.
I'm sorry your child can't be in a park where a person has eaten a peanut
butter sandwich. That's harsh. There are whole countries with hardly a
peanut. If this allergy isn't grown out of, maybe moving would make life way
easier.
Sandra
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