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On Tue, 23 Oct 2001 11:42:23 EDT RValvo7626@... writes:
> In a message dated 10/23/01 6:12:22 AM Mountain Daylight Time,
> I wrote:
> << I agree with whoever wrote about going on with our lives. >>

> I do too but are you traveling w/ an intense highly spirited 5 year
old
> alone? My trip to Phila. takes 12 hours. It is hell,the last time I
> swore i would never do it alone again. Now it will be at least 15
hours.

Fifteen hours on a plane? Yikes. I'm assuming, then, that it's an
international flight, and those are really even safer...

I travel alone with my 8 yr old, who is actually much easier to travel
with nowadays... she's been on lots of long plane trips, though, she's a
pretty seasoned flyer.

> Also if something did happen I have
> an incredibly sensitive child who would never get on a plane again.

I have an incredibly sensitive child, and it's been a real learning
experience for me. Five was a hard year for her, as was six... but one
thing I realized was that my expectations often had a lot to do with her
responses. When I believed that after some shock she would never do X
again, it seemed to hold true, but when I could start to believe that
after some sort of trauma she would be quite upset and would need time
and space and support, but that she was also a tough little cookie and
would get through it and do what needed to be done... that's what
happened.

Yesterday she got bit in the face by my parents' previously traumatized
dog, for no reason that we can figure - he's done this before, although
not for a long time, he fear-bites and we haven't figured out the
trigger. It was pretty scary, for a good 20 minutes she just sat there in
shock with my arms around her, then finally she relaxed enough to lean
back onto me, and it took over an hour before she really came around. But
two hours after it happened, she called the dog over and patted his head
and forgave him - she does love this dog, and he does love him.

And yeah, most people might think they should get rid of this dog, but
it's not gonna happen...

> Also in
> my grocery store I doubt I will see another being subdued. Small
> town living.
>

:-) The town we actually live in permanently is too small to even have a
grocery store, but stuff happens everywhere..

Daron
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