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Aaack, I've heard of imaginary friends, but now my dd has an imaginary
teacher, Deborah, who holds classes in her room with my daughter and a number
of her, (also imaginary), clones. Deborah seems quite rigid and dictatorial.
Everybody MUST sit and color. So and so doesn't want to sit and color, but
the whole class will get a prize if they do. The class needs exactly 4
pieces of paper. No, I can't give them 6. Deborah gets very annoyed if her
directions aren't followed precisely. So far I am being fairly tolerant of
Deborah and her ways, merely making the occasional aside that she seems to
need to loosen up and let people do different things sometimes and not be so
controlling. I dunno. Am I doomed?

Karen, (with Helen, 6, Agent of Chaos, and Gordon, 3, Agent of Destruction)

Joel Hawthorne

If she needs that format to practice what might be self-discipline as she sees
it, so be it. So long as she is not imposing that standard on everyone else in
the house is there really a problem?

I know that classrooms real or imagined seem to bring out the fascist/nazi in any
number of people. Maybe its all those tidy rows? Then again maybe it is just
having someone be "The Authority" on what is being taught. Dunno either.

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> From: Cunian@...
>
> Aaack, I've heard of imaginary friends, but now my dd has an imaginary
> teacher, Deborah, who holds classes in her room with my daughter and a number
> of her, (also imaginary), clones. Deborah seems quite rigid and dictatorial.
> Everybody MUST sit and color. So and so doesn't want to sit and color, but
> the whole class will get a prize if they do. The class needs exactly 4
> pieces of paper. No, I can't give them 6. Deborah gets very annoyed if her
> directions aren't followed precisely. So far I am being fairly tolerant of
> Deborah and her ways, merely making the occasional aside that she seems to
> need to loosen up and let people do different things sometimes and not be so
> controlling. I dunno. Am I doomed?
>
> Karen, (with Helen, 6, Agent of Chaos, and Gordon, 3, Agent of Destruction)
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rick and deborah farrington

she must of read my past messages of how i was too contolling when my kids were
younge and didnt get the whole story and wanted to be like me, maybe you are not
controlling enough and she wants you to be more like me. lol:-) Deborah, in
idaho
that is a funny story glad you shared!

Cunian@... wrote:

> From: Cunian@...
>
> Aaack, I've heard of imaginary friends, but now my dd has an imaginary
> teacher, Deborah, who holds classes in her room with my daughter and a number
> of her, (also imaginary), clones. Deborah seems quite rigid and dictatorial.
> Everybody MUST sit and color. So and so doesn't want to sit and color, but
> the whole class will get a prize if they do. The class needs exactly 4
> pieces of paper. No, I can't give them 6. Deborah gets very annoyed if her
> directions aren't followed precisely. So far I am being fairly tolerant of
> Deborah and her ways, merely making the occasional aside that she seems to
> need to loosen up and let people do different things sometimes and not be so
> controlling. I dunno. Am I doomed?
>
> Karen, (with Helen, 6, Agent of Chaos, and Gordon, 3, Agent of Destruction)
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<< So long as she is not imposing that standard on everyone else in
the house is there really a problem?
>>

Not really. Now I find they have uniforms and prescribed crayon colors
for each person. Mostly just bemused here, in truth. It's a silly life.

Karen, (with Helen, 6, Agent of Order?, and Gordon, 3, Agent of Destruction)

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In a message dated 9/2/99 8:34:36 PM !!!First Boot!!!, Cunian@... writes:

<< < So long as she is not imposing that standard on everyone else in
the house is there really a problem?
>>

Not really. Now I find they have uniforms and prescribed crayon colors
for each person. Mostly just bemused here, in truth. It's a silly life.
>>


It sounds like a great way to get all that "isn't school cool" stuff worked
out -- while using a great imagination.

Nance

Campbell & Wyman

Well, my two daughters loved to play school and still do. Funny
thing...often they have a real witchy teacher too (her name is Mrs.
Picksweet). They also have an old desk that they found at the recycle dump
and old exercise books, a blackboard...even, a bell to call the student
back to the desk. It is too funny.

One time I was wondering why (out loud , of course) ...and they told me
that in a lot of books that they have read the teachers and the school
situation is harsh. And my dad (a retired univ. prof.) has told them some
corporal punishment stories from his school years. Also, they reminded me
that their friends tell them all the stories about their experiences in
school. Obviously the stories are not too happy.

Make believe and play is important...right! MAybe this make -believe play
is just so far away from their own lives that it is really the ultimate
fantasy play???

Brooke




At 03:33 PM 9/2/99 EDT, you wrote:
>From: Cunian@...
>
> Aaack, I've heard of imaginary friends, but now my dd has an imaginary
>teacher, Deborah, who holds classes in her room with my daughter and a
number
>of her, (also imaginary), clones. Deborah seems quite rigid and
dictatorial.
> Everybody MUST sit and color. So and so doesn't want to sit and color, but
>the whole class will get a prize if they do. The class needs exactly 4
>pieces of paper. No, I can't give them 6. Deborah gets very annoyed if her
>directions aren't followed precisely. So far I am being fairly tolerant of
>Deborah and her ways, merely making the occasional aside that she seems to
>need to loosen up and let people do different things sometimes and not be so
>controlling. I dunno. Am I doomed?
>
>Karen, (with Helen, 6, Agent of Chaos, and Gordon, 3, Agent of Destruction)
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karen of helen and gordon:

what a delightful game! had to lol at your daughters fun. isnt it
facinating the images of school she already has?? you probably have an idea
of where she has gathered her images... stories, other kids, tv shows, etc.
it is pretty natural for her to act out school even tho she hasnt experienced
it i think. my kids did the same thing, tho they havent for a while now that
they are older (9 & 7.) lucky she is at home and can be the one up in front,
doing the telling!!

erin of laura and lynde and landon and liam