Joel Hawthorne

Check out Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kahn or Kuhn i think.

Becky Wollenslegel wrote:

> From: "Becky Wollenslegel" <beckycraigw12@...>
>
> I think your solutions sound wonderful! I always admired my aunt's family
> (8 kids on a farm) because it seemed like they all pitched in and did what
> needed to be done and enjoyed doing it. That was a child's perspective, of
> course, and they may have gotten along better with company around and it may
> have been more structured than it appeared to my child's eyes.
>
> My sister has 3 kids and she has charts and points and rewards and she has
> to keep upping the points earned and the points neccessary to receive
> things. (Did that make sense?) The usual rewards are Beanie Babies and
> before long they either don't have a Beanie that they really want or they
> just don't want to do the jobs - so they don't. This has escalted to the
> point that they now get 500 pts a day if they keep their rooms "reasonably"
> picked up - meaning if you can't see the mess from the doorway!
>
> Of course you never know how life will turn out BUT - IMHO - your kids will
> grow up to be well adjusted adults who know how to share space and
> responsibilities. Of course one of them will probably be a hermit in a huge
> house, seeking space and quiet and choosing not to recreate his/her crazy
> childhood!
>
> Unschooler or not, you all live there and you all have to pitch in or you
> would never dig your way to the door! Hmm - or they could be digging their
> way to the door to go visit Mom after she has a complete breakdown!
>
> Keep up the good work and let us know when #7 arrives!
>
> Becky in Ohio
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best wishes
Joel

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