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In a message dated 9/4/01 2:11:18 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< My husband and I are at odds (not uncommon) about wether the kids are
respectful or disrespectful. I think my husband confuses obedience with
respect. Just because the kids don't immediately obey, my husband gets upset
because they don't respect me. I feel they do respect me, just don't always
obey. So, how does one show respect? Is disobedience always a sign of
disrespect? I mean the kids do obey, just not right away. I think we have a
great amount of respect for one another, but don't want to be fooling
myself. I love the various opinions and advice from all of you and thank you
for your help in advance. :)

~Sheri >>


Does your dh like to read? :o) Kids Are Worth It by Barbara Coloroso

Do we really want our children to "obey" us? Or do we want a working
relationship w/ respect. I try to think before I ask,tel,demand,whatever of
my dd.....would I speak this way if she were a friend or a stranger?

I (being short a fuse today) snapped at dd to quit hitting the roof
interior w/ her stick. If it were a friend of mine doing the same thing how
would I have acted? I would have said "hey Ginger could you please stop using
the stick in my car?" Something like that. If we treat our children w/
respect they in turn(eventually) will treat us w/ respect.

NICKI~