Irrational Fear
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Hi Annette and All:
My 6 year old Zak is scared of Smoke Detectors and has been since before he
knew what one was. We even had to take the one in his room out because he
wouldn't go to sleep. Often he wakes up and comes and sleeps in our bed
because he's having a nightmare about the smoke detector. When we go to
people's houses or he's been to different pre-schools he goes and checks
where all the smoke detectors are.
You would think he'd been exposed to one going off or being in a fire but
no.... So we love him and nuture him and allow him to be fearful of something
that we can't quite fathom, hoping that he'll grow out of it.
Zak is now showing his baby brother (Max, 2 in a couple of weeks) where all
the smoke detectors are in the house and Max looks at them as well... I just
hope he's not going to be scared of them.
Then, because of what I do for a living, I wonder if Zak is having a
premonition of a fire that's going to affect us....I guess we'll have to wait
and see... I check all my electrical stuff before we go to bed, just in case
he knows something that I don't.
Dawn
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are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
"The only time my education was interrupted was when I was in school."-George
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My 6 year old Zak is scared of Smoke Detectors and has been since before he
knew what one was. We even had to take the one in his room out because he
wouldn't go to sleep. Often he wakes up and comes and sleeps in our bed
because he's having a nightmare about the smoke detector. When we go to
people's houses or he's been to different pre-schools he goes and checks
where all the smoke detectors are.
You would think he'd been exposed to one going off or being in a fire but
no.... So we love him and nuture him and allow him to be fearful of something
that we can't quite fathom, hoping that he'll grow out of it.
Zak is now showing his baby brother (Max, 2 in a couple of weeks) where all
the smoke detectors are in the house and Max looks at them as well... I just
hope he's not going to be scared of them.
Then, because of what I do for a living, I wonder if Zak is having a
premonition of a fire that's going to affect us....I guess we'll have to wait
and see... I check all my electrical stuff before we go to bed, just in case
he knows something that I don't.
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
"The only time my education was interrupted was when I was in school."-George
Bernard Shaw
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Also Dawn. . . have you read any of Sylvia Browne's books? She talks about
cell memory from past lives and this could be something to explore. I am
reading some of her stuff now and find it fascinating!
lovemary
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cell memory from past lives and this could be something to explore. I am
reading some of her stuff now and find it fascinating!
lovemary
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Dawn,
Maybe Zak thinks the smoke detectors can CAUSE a fire. Maybe he doesn't
really understand that they only help to warn you if a fire starts some
other way. I used to think the trees made the wind ( ok, so maybe I
wasn't so bright ! ) because I'd see and hear the trees rustle first,
then feel the wind. It's easy to get things turned around sometimes.
Some people refer to them as fire alarms or fire detectors, that's pretty
scary.
Deb L
Maybe Zak thinks the smoke detectors can CAUSE a fire. Maybe he doesn't
really understand that they only help to warn you if a fire starts some
other way. I used to think the trees made the wind ( ok, so maybe I
wasn't so bright ! ) because I'd see and hear the trees rustle first,
then feel the wind. It's easy to get things turned around sometimes.
Some people refer to them as fire alarms or fire detectors, that's pretty
scary.
Deb L
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<< Maybe Zak thinks the smoke detectors can CAUSE a fire. >>
Good thought! Sprinkler systems sprinkle water, and they LOOK like
sprinklers, usually. Smoke detectors sometimes have a little red light on
them, and that looks like fire.
Sandra
Good thought! Sprinkler systems sprinkle water, and they LOOK like
sprinklers, usually. Smoke detectors sometimes have a little red light on
them, and that looks like fire.
Sandra
Lynda
Youngest kidlet had a completely to the point of hysterical fear of vacuum
cleaners for years! We never could figure out why, nor could she tell us.
No. 3 son has a fear of heights, now and it took us years to figure that one
out. When he was just a little guy he used to climb up the stone bbq and
then walk along the top 2x4 on our 6 foot fence. Climbed trees and we have
really TALL trees out here! Absolutely fearless. Then one day we couldn't
get him to climb to the second floor of the house.
Well, it turns out he half fell through some stairs at his uncle's house.
They had stairs to the second floor that are open, just steps on railings.
but it took forever, years to be exact, to get the reason out of him.
Lynda
cleaners for years! We never could figure out why, nor could she tell us.
No. 3 son has a fear of heights, now and it took us years to figure that one
out. When he was just a little guy he used to climb up the stone bbq and
then walk along the top 2x4 on our 6 foot fence. Climbed trees and we have
really TALL trees out here! Absolutely fearless. Then one day we couldn't
get him to climb to the second floor of the house.
Well, it turns out he half fell through some stairs at his uncle's house.
They had stairs to the second floor that are open, just steps on railings.
but it took forever, years to be exact, to get the reason out of him.
Lynda
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I was also concerned about why one of my sons seemed overly fearful
of some things. His pediatrician told me that children's 'irrational
fears' are very real to them and we should always acknowledge them
and try to help a child to talk about their fears when they can. He
also suggested that because my son was very intelligent he had a
knowledge base that exceeded his emotional maturity. i.e. He had
the normal fears of a young child his chronological age, but a much
older child's view of the world and therefore more things to worry
about.
I remember one incident when my son was three. I was called to come
to his preschool. He was crying and very upset. He was normally a
happy, even-mannered little guy. The staff couldn't get him to
explain and they were greatly concerned that something had happened
to him. When I got there and had calmed him down he told me that he
was afraid he was going to die. He said they had had pizza for lunch
and it was kind of greasy. He explained to us that he was afraid he
was "going to die of high cholesterol intake. You know, the build-up
of fatty tissue in your arteries." (This kid spoke in full sentences
at age ten months. He would often use big words and then add a
definition. I think he wanted to make sure "I" knew these words <g>)
The preschool teacher and director sat there with their mouths open
while I explained that this was not generally a problem for kids his
age and that his overall good diet was not going to be compromised by
one piece of greasy pizza. He had apparently been listening in on a
TV program on health issues I had been watching the night before and
was "re-thinking" (his term) about this program just before nap time.
That evening we had a long talk about what he could do whenever he
was "re-thinking" about something and it got scary.
Over time we've had lots of conversations about "re-thinking" about
things.
Jan in Marysville
of some things. His pediatrician told me that children's 'irrational
fears' are very real to them and we should always acknowledge them
and try to help a child to talk about their fears when they can. He
also suggested that because my son was very intelligent he had a
knowledge base that exceeded his emotional maturity. i.e. He had
the normal fears of a young child his chronological age, but a much
older child's view of the world and therefore more things to worry
about.
I remember one incident when my son was three. I was called to come
to his preschool. He was crying and very upset. He was normally a
happy, even-mannered little guy. The staff couldn't get him to
explain and they were greatly concerned that something had happened
to him. When I got there and had calmed him down he told me that he
was afraid he was going to die. He said they had had pizza for lunch
and it was kind of greasy. He explained to us that he was afraid he
was "going to die of high cholesterol intake. You know, the build-up
of fatty tissue in your arteries." (This kid spoke in full sentences
at age ten months. He would often use big words and then add a
definition. I think he wanted to make sure "I" knew these words <g>)
The preschool teacher and director sat there with their mouths open
while I explained that this was not generally a problem for kids his
age and that his overall good diet was not going to be compromised by
one piece of greasy pizza. He had apparently been listening in on a
TV program on health issues I had been watching the night before and
was "re-thinking" (his term) about this program just before nap time.
That evening we had a long talk about what he could do whenever he
was "re-thinking" about something and it got scary.
Over time we've had lots of conversations about "re-thinking" about
things.
Jan in Marysville
--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., SandraDodd@a... wrote:
>
> << Maybe Zak thinks the smoke detectors can CAUSE a fire. >>
>
> Good thought! Sprinkler systems sprinkle water, and they LOOK like
> sprinklers, usually. Smoke detectors sometimes have a little red
light on
> them, and that looks like fire.
>
> Sandra
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Could it be the high piercing noise?
Just checked out ours today, wow wee......what a noise.
Maybe let him press the button to make the noise?
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Just checked out ours today, wow wee......what a noise.
Maybe let him press the button to make the noise?
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