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In a message dated 9/1/01 11:36:25 PM US Eastern Standard Time,
RValvo7626@... writes:


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> We had several calls over the course of my childhood from my father
> about
> how he fell asleep driving and had an accident. I figured it out by the
> time
> I was 12 or so and had to drive to bars to pick my father up. Luckily
> living
> w/ my mother in another state and learning to drive b/c we lived on a farm
> I
> was able to do this on my yearly visits. Lovely.
>

very personal question, but would you have rather that he not be a part of
your life at all?

i ask because my ex is in rehab right now. i wonder is a touch and go, empty
promise father better than no father at all?

brenda



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Jessi

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>i ask because my ex is in rehab right now. i wonder is a touch and go, empty
>promise father better than no father at all?
>
>brenda
>

Ok, I had 2 alcoholic parents...my father dried out by the time I was 20
and I still have good memories along with the bad. I miss him dearly now
and yes, we had the broken promises along with many other broken things in
our life.

The hard one was my mother as she became a drunk later in my life and got
very abusive with it and it is still hard for me to forgive her even now, 5
years since she has passed away due to her drinking. She got sick and the
doctors told her that if she drank anymore it would kill her and she did it
anyway.

My son has been raised without a father or a father figure in his life and
truthfully, I like my memories with my dad but would not subject him to the
life I had no matter what. I hated the walking on eggshells and wondering
when the eruption was coming...hated when I tried to talk to him, he was
not always there and many other things.

It is a tough call...but I know that my son is alright, and that is what is
most important to me.

Jessi





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