Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1363
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In a message dated 8/13/01 3:02:40 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< Just a question for the other parents of
hyper/sensative kids. Is it just me, or do you all
HATE it when other people (family, friends,
acquaintances, strangers) either ask with body
language, indirectly, or directly, "Why do you let
them act like that?" More or less.
Oh, Yes, we train them that way. We instruct them
carefully at home to orchestrate their behavior when
we are out or around other people. We work hard to
get them this surly, nasty and obnoxious on occassion.
sheesh. >>
I mainly get the advice that I need to sit on her more or just make her
do whatever it is. Take toys away or privileges is another answer I am told
to follow.
If one does not have a spirited child one has no idea what it is like.
There is no forcing an issue w/ these kids. Guiding is the key, which can be
very difficult for an intense parent.
I do remind others that her joyous reactions and moods are just as
violent or boisterous or intense however you would describe her.
I don't think my dd is SID from my research but she is definitely high on
the sensitivity level. No tags, no seams, no scratchies, actually no clothes
unless we are going out.lol
I was the same way as a child but have learned to deal as I have grown. I
still freak out some days and cannot find anything to wear b/c it all feels
awful. Actually it gets much worse during PMS. UGH! I bet her PMS days will
be hell. Maybe by then we can develop better handling skills? Hopefully.
NICKI~
[email protected] writes:
<< Just a question for the other parents of
hyper/sensative kids. Is it just me, or do you all
HATE it when other people (family, friends,
acquaintances, strangers) either ask with body
language, indirectly, or directly, "Why do you let
them act like that?" More or less.
Oh, Yes, we train them that way. We instruct them
carefully at home to orchestrate their behavior when
we are out or around other people. We work hard to
get them this surly, nasty and obnoxious on occassion.
sheesh. >>
I mainly get the advice that I need to sit on her more or just make her
do whatever it is. Take toys away or privileges is another answer I am told
to follow.
If one does not have a spirited child one has no idea what it is like.
There is no forcing an issue w/ these kids. Guiding is the key, which can be
very difficult for an intense parent.
I do remind others that her joyous reactions and moods are just as
violent or boisterous or intense however you would describe her.
I don't think my dd is SID from my research but she is definitely high on
the sensitivity level. No tags, no seams, no scratchies, actually no clothes
unless we are going out.lol
I was the same way as a child but have learned to deal as I have grown. I
still freak out some days and cannot find anything to wear b/c it all feels
awful. Actually it gets much worse during PMS. UGH! I bet her PMS days will
be hell. Maybe by then we can develop better handling skills? Hopefully.
NICKI~
Saga
My son looks 4 and talks like he's 4, but he's only 2 1/2 so I get that a
lot... because not only is he acting out of control, but he is also only 2,
so people expect a lot more from him.
I also get a lot of "aren't you too big for diapers?" or "can you write your
name for me?"...
People don't understand what it's like unless they've been through it, my
husband's friends' wives (all with no kids) think they are the most
knowledgable people on earth regarding the way children should be or be
raised... needless to say it has been difficult for us to do things with
them. At least as a family (the husbands are actually great with the kids
and to me, it is the wives that continually tell me what they've read or
heard or saw on Oprah, because obviously what I'm doing isn't working).
Julian had an "episode" the other night at a duplex we were hoping to get
rented to us. This happens at vacant places, but this time it was in the
evening, he was getting hungry, and it was just too much for him to handle.
Julian loves to run through vacant homes. But he gets too worked up and
it's very hard to keep him calm with so much room to run. I was trying to
fill out the application and talk to the guy but Julian just go so worked up
he was hitting the walls and cabinets, I stopped him, and then he wouldn't
stop crying and kicking the floor and screaming.
The landlord said I needed to be more firm with him.
We didn't get the place. But that's OK.
-Kristi
-----Original Message-----
From: RValvo7626@... [mailto:RValvo7626@...]
Sent: Thursday, August 16, 2001 9:35 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1363
In a message dated 8/13/01 3:02:40 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< Just a question for the other parents of
hyper/sensative kids. Is it just me, or do you all
HATE it when other people (family, friends,
acquaintances, strangers) either ask with body
language, indirectly, or directly, "Why do you let
them act like that?" More or less.
Oh, Yes, we train them that way. We instruct them
carefully at home to orchestrate their behavior when
we are out or around other people. We work hard to
get them this surly, nasty and obnoxious on occassion.
sheesh. >>
I mainly get the advice that I need to sit on her more or just make her
do whatever it is. Take toys away or privileges is another answer I am told
to follow.
If one does not have a spirited child one has no idea what it is like.
There is no forcing an issue w/ these kids. Guiding is the key, which can be
very difficult for an intense parent.
I do remind others that her joyous reactions and moods are just as
violent or boisterous or intense however you would describe her.
I don't think my dd is SID from my research but she is definitely high
on
the sensitivity level. No tags, no seams, no scratchies, actually no clothes
unless we are going out.lol
I was the same way as a child but have learned to deal as I have grown.
I
still freak out some days and cannot find anything to wear b/c it all feels
awful. Actually it gets much worse during PMS. UGH! I bet her PMS days will
be hell. Maybe by then we can develop better handling skills? Hopefully.
NICKI~
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lot... because not only is he acting out of control, but he is also only 2,
so people expect a lot more from him.
I also get a lot of "aren't you too big for diapers?" or "can you write your
name for me?"...
People don't understand what it's like unless they've been through it, my
husband's friends' wives (all with no kids) think they are the most
knowledgable people on earth regarding the way children should be or be
raised... needless to say it has been difficult for us to do things with
them. At least as a family (the husbands are actually great with the kids
and to me, it is the wives that continually tell me what they've read or
heard or saw on Oprah, because obviously what I'm doing isn't working).
Julian had an "episode" the other night at a duplex we were hoping to get
rented to us. This happens at vacant places, but this time it was in the
evening, he was getting hungry, and it was just too much for him to handle.
Julian loves to run through vacant homes. But he gets too worked up and
it's very hard to keep him calm with so much room to run. I was trying to
fill out the application and talk to the guy but Julian just go so worked up
he was hitting the walls and cabinets, I stopped him, and then he wouldn't
stop crying and kicking the floor and screaming.
The landlord said I needed to be more firm with him.
We didn't get the place. But that's OK.
-Kristi
-----Original Message-----
From: RValvo7626@... [mailto:RValvo7626@...]
Sent: Thursday, August 16, 2001 9:35 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1363
In a message dated 8/13/01 3:02:40 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< Just a question for the other parents of
hyper/sensative kids. Is it just me, or do you all
HATE it when other people (family, friends,
acquaintances, strangers) either ask with body
language, indirectly, or directly, "Why do you let
them act like that?" More or less.
Oh, Yes, we train them that way. We instruct them
carefully at home to orchestrate their behavior when
we are out or around other people. We work hard to
get them this surly, nasty and obnoxious on occassion.
sheesh. >>
I mainly get the advice that I need to sit on her more or just make her
do whatever it is. Take toys away or privileges is another answer I am told
to follow.
If one does not have a spirited child one has no idea what it is like.
There is no forcing an issue w/ these kids. Guiding is the key, which can be
very difficult for an intense parent.
I do remind others that her joyous reactions and moods are just as
violent or boisterous or intense however you would describe her.
I don't think my dd is SID from my research but she is definitely high
on
the sensitivity level. No tags, no seams, no scratchies, actually no clothes
unless we are going out.lol
I was the same way as a child but have learned to deal as I have grown.
I
still freak out some days and cannot find anything to wear b/c it all feels
awful. Actually it gets much worse during PMS. UGH! I bet her PMS days will
be hell. Maybe by then we can develop better handling skills? Hopefully.
NICKI~
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Definitely a good thing that you didn't get the place!
My kids are both huge -- look at least 2 years older than they are -- and
bright -- so nobody ever treats them like the little kids they are. I have
to remind myself quite often that they are just 6 and 8 -- no matter what
they look like!
And, fyi, they were both in diapers until they were 4! Hard to remember that
long ago, but it's true.
Good luck!
Nance
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My kids are both huge -- look at least 2 years older than they are -- and
bright -- so nobody ever treats them like the little kids they are. I have
to remind myself quite often that they are just 6 and 8 -- no matter what
they look like!
And, fyi, they were both in diapers until they were 4! Hard to remember that
long ago, but it's true.
Good luck!
Nance
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[email protected]
In a message dated 8/16/01 10:09:35 PM US Eastern Standard Time,
mom@... writes:
really lacking on the father part.....that is spanking, scolding and
belittling (sp?). (i'm a single mom) it seems i get a lot more advice from
people without children....unwarranted advice that is.
my heart goes out to you. home hunting is not fun, for adults or children.
good luck.
hope you find a family friendly environment.
brenda
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mom@... writes:
> The landlord said I needed to be more firm with him.i recently had a guy tell me that i'm great at the mother part, i'm just
>
> We didn't get the place. But that's OK.
>
>
really lacking on the father part.....that is spanking, scolding and
belittling (sp?). (i'm a single mom) it seems i get a lot more advice from
people without children....unwarranted advice that is.
my heart goes out to you. home hunting is not fun, for adults or children.
good luck.
hope you find a family friendly environment.
brenda
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