Home Business and Unschooling
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So here's the dilemna then... I have a home business that I've been
having a babysitter come for 2 mornings a week to play with Max and
take him to the Park while I work. Keeping Zak home is going to make
me have to re-arrange everything again. Does anyone else have a home
business and unschool their kids and if so how do you do it? How do
you balance them both or can you not do both at once?
It feels depressing to give up the idea of having my business as it's
my connection with the adult world and making some money at the same
time.
What to do, what to do....
Dawn
having a babysitter come for 2 mornings a week to play with Max and
take him to the Park while I work. Keeping Zak home is going to make
me have to re-arrange everything again. Does anyone else have a home
business and unschool their kids and if so how do you do it? How do
you balance them both or can you not do both at once?
It feels depressing to give up the idea of having my business as it's
my connection with the adult world and making some money at the same
time.
What to do, what to do....
Dawn
Tracy Oldfield
So here's the dilemna then... I have a home business
that I've been
having a babysitter come for 2 mornings a week to play
with Max and
take him to the Park while I work. Keeping Zak home is
going to make
me have to re-arrange everything again. Does anyone
else have a home
business and unschool their kids and if so how do you
do it? How do
you balance them both or can you not do both at once?
It feels depressing to give up the idea of having my
business as it's
my connection with the adult world and making some
money at the same
time.
What to do, what to do....
Dawn
Can the babysitter deal with them both? You've got
that arrangement already...
Tracy
that I've been
having a babysitter come for 2 mornings a week to play
with Max and
take him to the Park while I work. Keeping Zak home is
going to make
me have to re-arrange everything again. Does anyone
else have a home
business and unschool their kids and if so how do you
do it? How do
you balance them both or can you not do both at once?
It feels depressing to give up the idea of having my
business as it's
my connection with the adult world and making some
money at the same
time.
What to do, what to do....
Dawn
Can the babysitter deal with them both? You've got
that arrangement already...
Tracy
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Tracy:
Thank you so much for that simple solution... The problem is me and I know
it... I feel guilty about doing that, although I would be available to them
all the other times and in the evening when hubby is also home... I just got
off the phone with my husband and said "this is all about me and how I deal
with this issue"... It's not about the kids because they seem great. As I'm
replying to this e-mail Zak ( nearly 6) is making puzzle words and Max
(nearly 2) is helping him (well walking away with the pieces and showing me
and then coming back to Zak).
So working on the guilt I feel for wanting to work and keeping my kids home
is where I'm at... I bet you didn't think it was that deeply psychological
did you Tracy (LOL)?
Dawn
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Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
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Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
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Thank you so much for that simple solution... The problem is me and I know
it... I feel guilty about doing that, although I would be available to them
all the other times and in the evening when hubby is also home... I just got
off the phone with my husband and said "this is all about me and how I deal
with this issue"... It's not about the kids because they seem great. As I'm
replying to this e-mail Zak ( nearly 6) is making puzzle words and Max
(nearly 2) is helping him (well walking away with the pieces and showing me
and then coming back to Zak).
So working on the guilt I feel for wanting to work and keeping my kids home
is where I'm at... I bet you didn't think it was that deeply psychological
did you Tracy (LOL)?
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
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Tracy Oldfield
Tracy:
Thank you so much for that simple solution... The
problem is me and I know
it... I feel guilty about doing that, although I would
be available to them
all the other times and in the evening when hubby is
also home... I just got
off the phone with my husband and said "this is all
about me and how I deal
with this issue"... It's not about the kids because
they seem great. As I'm
replying to this e-mail Zak ( nearly 6) is making
puzzle words and Max
(nearly 2) is helping him (well walking away with the
pieces and showing me
and then coming back to Zak).
So working on the guilt I feel for wanting to work and
keeping my kids home
is where I'm at... I bet you didn't think it was that
deeply psychological
did you Tracy (LOL)?
Dawn
Yeah, but still there's nothing wrong with a simple
solution! LOL I think most of us need to find ways to
keep ourselves connected to the world outside our
little nuclear families, I know I resent having stuff
to do with dh's business taken out of my reach, even
when it's done as a 'help' to minimise pressure on
me... :-(
Remember, though, that if you're all at home, at least,
you ARE accessible should they need you in an emergency
or if you choose to put down your work for that time.
Flexibility is one of the big big pluses of home-ed for
me.
Is it really guilt, too, or frustration that to remain
'adult' you have to put your children to one side for a
while? Personally, I don't 'do' guilt, it doesn't help
me much to wallow...
HTH
Tracy
Thank you so much for that simple solution... The
problem is me and I know
it... I feel guilty about doing that, although I would
be available to them
all the other times and in the evening when hubby is
also home... I just got
off the phone with my husband and said "this is all
about me and how I deal
with this issue"... It's not about the kids because
they seem great. As I'm
replying to this e-mail Zak ( nearly 6) is making
puzzle words and Max
(nearly 2) is helping him (well walking away with the
pieces and showing me
and then coming back to Zak).
So working on the guilt I feel for wanting to work and
keeping my kids home
is where I'm at... I bet you didn't think it was that
deeply psychological
did you Tracy (LOL)?
Dawn
Yeah, but still there's nothing wrong with a simple
solution! LOL I think most of us need to find ways to
keep ourselves connected to the world outside our
little nuclear families, I know I resent having stuff
to do with dh's business taken out of my reach, even
when it's done as a 'help' to minimise pressure on
me... :-(
Remember, though, that if you're all at home, at least,
you ARE accessible should they need you in an emergency
or if you choose to put down your work for that time.
Flexibility is one of the big big pluses of home-ed for
me.
Is it really guilt, too, or frustration that to remain
'adult' you have to put your children to one side for a
while? Personally, I don't 'do' guilt, it doesn't help
me much to wallow...
HTH
Tracy
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In a message dated 7/13/01 11:50:24 PM US Mountain Standard Time,
tracy.oldfield@... writes:
to take care of self, but know I need to in order to have that balance.
Sometimes it even helps for me to remember that many many people (I can only
speak for what I know if in America now) are quite happy to dump their babies
and toddlers in daycare for 10 hours a day to satisfy their adultness.
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
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tracy.oldfield@... writes:
> Is it really guilt, too, or frustration that to remainYou nailed it again Tracy....I just don't like the idea of putting them aside
> 'adult' you have to put your children to one side for a
> while?
to take care of self, but know I need to in order to have that balance.
Sometimes it even helps for me to remember that many many people (I can only
speak for what I know if in America now) are quite happy to dump their babies
and toddlers in daycare for 10 hours a day to satisfy their adultness.
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
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Tracy Oldfield
You nailed it again Tracy....I just don't like the idea
of putting them aside
to take care of self, but know I need to in order to
have that balance.
Sometimes it even helps for me to remember that many
many people (I can only
speak for what I know if in America now) are quite
happy to dump their babies
and toddlers in daycare for 10 hours a day to satisfy
their adultness.
Dawn
Hey, I was on a roll there wasn't I? LOL Wish I could
be so intuitive or whatever with my kids!!
What I find frustrating isn't so much that I need to
satisfy my 'adultness' by stepping away from the
children, more that the rest of the world seems to
expect me to need to... kwim or am I CAM??
Tracy
of putting them aside
to take care of self, but know I need to in order to
have that balance.
Sometimes it even helps for me to remember that many
many people (I can only
speak for what I know if in America now) are quite
happy to dump their babies
and toddlers in daycare for 10 hours a day to satisfy
their adultness.
Dawn
Hey, I was on a roll there wasn't I? LOL Wish I could
be so intuitive or whatever with my kids!!
What I find frustrating isn't so much that I need to
satisfy my 'adultness' by stepping away from the
children, more that the rest of the world seems to
expect me to need to... kwim or am I CAM??
Tracy
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In a message dated 7/13/01 2:09:12 PM Pacific Daylight Time,
tracy.oldfield@... writes:
<< Does anyone
else have a home
business and unschool their kids and if so how do you
do it? How do
you balance them both or can you not do both at once?
have always been home and unschooled. We have been in business for
many years. I have had help on and off, from mother's helpers to
secretarial help. I much prefer someone helping me in the office. The
beauty of unschooling is the flexibility. How much time do you need to
spend on your business? My children entertain themselves
when I am working. They are 7, 6 and 4. They spend a lot of time
playing, creating, thinking, doing, eating and somethings arguing
together, whether I am working or not. I have a set day I work in
the office with my assistant, but I am not tied to that day. I also work
sporadically during the week on things, but if it can hold until the following
Monday I usually let it. I don't feel as if my children are neglected at
all. They are getting a very real life lesson, one which my husband
and I encourage on home/family/life/business basically a home-
centered lifestyle. They are very much a part of what we do and attend
all business meetings with me/us--banker, realtor, accountant. They
are by no means perfectly quiet children, often interrupting to beg me
for another piece of candy from the accountants desk. But thats ok <g>.
Not only are my children learning, but so are the adults around them!
Kathy
tracy.oldfield@... writes:
<< Does anyone
else have a home
business and unschool their kids and if so how do you
do it? How do
you balance them both or can you not do both at once?
>>My husband and I run a construction company from our home. My children
have always been home and unschooled. We have been in business for
many years. I have had help on and off, from mother's helpers to
secretarial help. I much prefer someone helping me in the office. The
beauty of unschooling is the flexibility. How much time do you need to
spend on your business? My children entertain themselves
when I am working. They are 7, 6 and 4. They spend a lot of time
playing, creating, thinking, doing, eating and somethings arguing
together, whether I am working or not. I have a set day I work in
the office with my assistant, but I am not tied to that day. I also work
sporadically during the week on things, but if it can hold until the following
Monday I usually let it. I don't feel as if my children are neglected at
all. They are getting a very real life lesson, one which my husband
and I encourage on home/family/life/business basically a home-
centered lifestyle. They are very much a part of what we do and attend
all business meetings with me/us--banker, realtor, accountant. They
are by no means perfectly quiet children, often interrupting to beg me
for another piece of candy from the accountants desk. But thats ok <g>.
Not only are my children learning, but so are the adults around them!
Kathy
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What great feedback and ideas many of you have given me. I think I just need
to re-arrange some parts of my business. For example when I speak to clients
for 45 minutes in a coaching session I cannot be interuppted and those are
the times I'm going to need to either do those appointments when dh is home
or schedule them when I have some help. I think this also makes me have to
be even more organized than I already am..... I'll need to get more creative
and I think that will work. Alternatively I could quit what I'm doing right
now and get on with another part of my business that I can do at anytime
which is finish writing a book I'm working on. So maybe my kids need to be
homeschooled so that I can take a look at where I want to put my energies...
Very deep thoughts....
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
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to re-arrange some parts of my business. For example when I speak to clients
for 45 minutes in a coaching session I cannot be interuppted and those are
the times I'm going to need to either do those appointments when dh is home
or schedule them when I have some help. I think this also makes me have to
be even more organized than I already am..... I'll need to get more creative
and I think that will work. Alternatively I could quit what I'm doing right
now and get on with another part of my business that I can do at anytime
which is finish writing a book I'm working on. So maybe my kids need to be
homeschooled so that I can take a look at where I want to put my energies...
Very deep thoughts....
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
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Janet F Hamlin
I run a veterinary clinic in my home. I work part time, around the kids
schedules. They either entertain themselves upstairs (clinic in basement)
or they "help" out. The clients don't mind; my almost 7 yo dd does some
basic things like restocking. The almost 3 yo ds usually just watches.
Does it get chaotic? Sometimes. Do I wish I had time to focus completely
on the task at hand? Sure. And I do when dh is home. Do I go nuts at
times? Yes. But would I do anything differently? Absolutely NOT.
I'd prefer to work alone and concentrate. I'm an introvert by nature and
like peace and quiet. But, I am choosing to stay home with my kids and
homeschool them, so this goes along with the territory at times. I have
chosen to get help in the clinic rather than get a babysitter or nanny.
If you already have a sitter and she is working out I see no reason not to
keep her for both kids (unless she only wants to care for one).
Hope this helps some.
Janet, mom to Caroline, 6 1/2, and Thomas, 2 1/2.
schedules. They either entertain themselves upstairs (clinic in basement)
or they "help" out. The clients don't mind; my almost 7 yo dd does some
basic things like restocking. The almost 3 yo ds usually just watches.
Does it get chaotic? Sometimes. Do I wish I had time to focus completely
on the task at hand? Sure. And I do when dh is home. Do I go nuts at
times? Yes. But would I do anything differently? Absolutely NOT.
I'd prefer to work alone and concentrate. I'm an introvert by nature and
like peace and quiet. But, I am choosing to stay home with my kids and
homeschool them, so this goes along with the territory at times. I have
chosen to get help in the clinic rather than get a babysitter or nanny.
If you already have a sitter and she is working out I see no reason not to
keep her for both kids (unless she only wants to care for one).
Hope this helps some.
Janet, mom to Caroline, 6 1/2, and Thomas, 2 1/2.
Rachel Wolfe Ravenhart
NumoAstro@... wrote:
time with them - they watch your kids during your appts, and you give
them equal time later. Also, if you know any teens who homeschool, you
could flat out hire 'em as babysitter for those times.
Rachel
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> For example when I speak to clientsDawn, if you know any other hs-er's in your area, you can probably swap
> for 45 minutes in a coaching session I cannot be interuppted and those
> are
> the times I'm going to need to either do those appointments when dh is
> home
> or schedule them when I have some help.
time with them - they watch your kids during your appts, and you give
them equal time later. Also, if you know any teens who homeschool, you
could flat out hire 'em as babysitter for those times.
Rachel
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In a message dated 7/17/01 12:56:54 PM US Mountain Standard Time,
ravenhart@... writes:
I wasn't available for them 100% then I was somehow letting them down
completely. Oh it was so much easier to give birth to them......
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
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ravenhart@... writes:
> Also, if you know any teens who homeschool, youWhat a great idea Rachel... I think it was still that guilty feeling that if
> could flat out hire 'em as babysitter for those times.
>
>
I wasn't available for them 100% then I was somehow letting them down
completely. Oh it was so much easier to give birth to them......
Dawn
^^^^^^^^^^^^
Dawn Falbe
Personal Development Coach
Relocational Astrologer
(520) 579-2646
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The Path of Least Resistance is Inside of You
www.astrologerdawn.com
Enlightening women on how to live their Soul Purpose
"The people who get on in this world
are people who get up and look for the
circumstances they want, and,
if they can't find them, make them." - George Bernard Shaw
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Rachel Wolfe Ravenhart
NumoAstro@... wrote:
felt so BAD. Of course, now that he's decided to homeschool "forever",
I'm not as guilty. But every day he went off to school I felt I had
failed him.
Rachel
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> I think it was still that guilty feeling that ifOH, I know that feeling! When my son decided to go to kindergarden, I
> I wasn't available for them 100% then I was somehow letting them down
> completely. Oh it was so much easier to give birth to them......
>
> Dawn
felt so BAD. Of course, now that he's decided to homeschool "forever",
I'm not as guilty. But every day he went off to school I felt I had
failed him.
Rachel
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