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Of course, Nance, I should also mention that I feel men/dads should work! So
I guess I'm just old-fashioned! I hope not to upset anyone because we are all
in this boat together.
Blessings, Lori

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In a message dated 8/25/99 2:06:27 PM !!!First Boot!!!, RRAINENJ@...
writes:

<< Of course, Nance, I should also mention that I feel men/dads should work!
So
I guess I'm just old-fashioned! I hope not to upset anyone because we are
all
in this boat together.
Blessings, Lori >>


Well, naturally with a statement like that you will upset some people. But
that's what's great about America! And old-fashioned may work great for
you. I hope it does. This decade in this house, it is working for us. I'm
at home; hubby works. But 10-20 years ago -- our lives were different. At
different times in the future I may do different things. Other people have
other choices to make. All are valid for that person. Assuming they are
trying to do their best, learning and changing as needed, saying there is
only one way to structure a family is as bad as saying there is only one way
to hs. To me.

I just think this is an ongoing thread that crops up from time to time that
divides women. We are often the ones dealing with the kid-related issues and
to say that there is only one right way is unnecessary and counterproductive,
to me.

Good luck to you and yours.

Nance

Joseph A. & Susan D. Fuerst

Amen Nance!
I have struggled with this divisiveness SO much personally.....having been a
working mom then a part time working-part time home mom currently stay at
home but struggling with the economics mom....
I have seen the divisiveness and it saddens me deeply because I hope we can
all support each other "where each one is".
Some people don't examine their choices or even believe they have
choices.....it's hard to know how to be supportive and yet challenge people
appropriately to have them consider all their choices.
I know for me, I've only had 18 moths to explore myself in the SAHM
role. I know my friends notice my sparkle of joy, but it's been a real
challenge in many ways.
Well, gotta run and meet those challenges!
Susan
Keep me in your prayers!

>I just think this is an ongoing thread that crops up from time to time that
>divides women. We are often the ones dealing with the kid-related issues
and
>to say that there is only one right way is unnecessary and
counterproductive,
>to me.
>
>Good luck to you and yours.
>
>Nance
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In a message dated 8/26/99 2:06:31 AM !!!First Boot!!!, fuerst@...
writes:

<< Some people don't examine their choices or even believe they have
choices.....it's hard to know how to be supportive and yet challenge people
appropriately to have them consider all their choices. >>


I do not feel it is my job to challenge anyone. Maybe my kids. But not
other adults. Supportive -- yes. Anything else -- unless I am asked for
info -- well, let me put it this way -- I wouldn't like it if someone else
told me how to live.

See, and you thought we were agreeing. :):):)

Take care.

Nance

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In a message dated 8/25/99 11:17:04 AM EST, mrstar@... writes:

<< I am sure plenty of people won't agree with me but I do
believe that God had the roles of men and women perfectly laid out and only
our own selfishness has changed those roles. >>
Sorry I have been offline for a few days. I would just like to say that
e-mails are an imperfect form of communication as sometimes the meaning of
ones words can come across differently than what was intended. I believe this
has happened with my original comment. I was not meaning to sound judging or
hateful and later when I had thought about it more, I felt I could have
worded it better. My personal feelings are not something I expect everyone to
share. I apologize for any hard feelings.
Blessings, Lori in TX