"Starting to sink in" - sorry, its long.
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In continuation from my 1st Grade - part II posts earlier last week,
I thought I would let you know that my dh is finally starting to let
some of my "unschooling" information sink into his stubborn head.
Over the weekend; He had made a comment to me about how our oldest dd
(6) will be starting ps for 1st grade in Sept and that she will no
longer be in the same daycare as our youngest dd (3). And that our
youngest will be now be sortof on her own as well as the oldest -
different schools, different friends, etc. I told him, "this doesnt
have to be this way". DH then started to let all the uncertainties
out. With all that was said, here is what I concluded:
* He's afraid that I wont be able to stick with this and that its
just a fad that I am not going to be able to keep up with. When he
was saying this, I ultimately knew that he was envisioning a "school
type" setting, with myself and dd's sitting and studing all day long
with writing,reading & math books out all day long. I carefully
explained that "life is learning" we will not be hitting the books
daily and that I planned to help our dd's with whatever they thought
was interesting and that the rest (reading, math, etc) will come
naturally.
* That they wont be able to fit into the "real" world. That the ps is
preparing them for the environment (meaning people) outside and they
should know how to "fit in". < Ok, these were'nt his real words, but
they are very similar in meaning> We,(I), discussed that the real
world sucks, that people we both know in our jobs are fake and try to
be someone their not, that we ourselves don't "fit" in with the most
of it. We do not hang around those we do not like or know who are
fake and that ps brings the "fakeness" out in people. Our dd's would
learn from us and end up being the person that they want to be, not
someone that they "ought" to be. Another reply I had to him on this
was, how was our dd benefiting from ps if she is going to be worried
all the time about "fitting in"? My dh really contradicted himself
alot in this area and in the end saw the unschooling in a new light
(or at least I now think that he sees a light).
* The rest of his unsecurities are more on a personal issue with the
biggest still relating to financials. I will continue in my quest to
be able to come up with someway of working pt from home to at least
contribute some $ and continue to search out the medical/dental
insurance issues we have.
I thank you all for everyones help and advise. I would not have been
able to get this far without it. By the way, does anyone have the
website to Girl Scouts or Brownie Group for Illinois?
I thought I would let you know that my dh is finally starting to let
some of my "unschooling" information sink into his stubborn head.
Over the weekend; He had made a comment to me about how our oldest dd
(6) will be starting ps for 1st grade in Sept and that she will no
longer be in the same daycare as our youngest dd (3). And that our
youngest will be now be sortof on her own as well as the oldest -
different schools, different friends, etc. I told him, "this doesnt
have to be this way". DH then started to let all the uncertainties
out. With all that was said, here is what I concluded:
* He's afraid that I wont be able to stick with this and that its
just a fad that I am not going to be able to keep up with. When he
was saying this, I ultimately knew that he was envisioning a "school
type" setting, with myself and dd's sitting and studing all day long
with writing,reading & math books out all day long. I carefully
explained that "life is learning" we will not be hitting the books
daily and that I planned to help our dd's with whatever they thought
was interesting and that the rest (reading, math, etc) will come
naturally.
* That they wont be able to fit into the "real" world. That the ps is
preparing them for the environment (meaning people) outside and they
should know how to "fit in". < Ok, these were'nt his real words, but
they are very similar in meaning> We,(I), discussed that the real
world sucks, that people we both know in our jobs are fake and try to
be someone their not, that we ourselves don't "fit" in with the most
of it. We do not hang around those we do not like or know who are
fake and that ps brings the "fakeness" out in people. Our dd's would
learn from us and end up being the person that they want to be, not
someone that they "ought" to be. Another reply I had to him on this
was, how was our dd benefiting from ps if she is going to be worried
all the time about "fitting in"? My dh really contradicted himself
alot in this area and in the end saw the unschooling in a new light
(or at least I now think that he sees a light).
* The rest of his unsecurities are more on a personal issue with the
biggest still relating to financials. I will continue in my quest to
be able to come up with someway of working pt from home to at least
contribute some $ and continue to search out the medical/dental
insurance issues we have.
I thank you all for everyones help and advise. I would not have been
able to get this far without it. By the way, does anyone have the
website to Girl Scouts or Brownie Group for Illinois?
kate mcdaniel
I am not sure who I am addressing - I wanted to give you my two cents. Dh
will come around. My daughter went to public pre and K. While in K she
would mention continuously "so and so got in trouble today". It seemed as if
her attention was on those being punished instead of those being taught.
That and some personal decisions were our pull to homeschool.
If you can, get your dh to read some of the books that were suggested -
"just to get his opinion" - they love to give it. I am sure it will open
his eyes and his memory bank to the failings of ps.
As far as the financial stuff goes. When we made the decision to
homeschool, I made the decision to give up my position as a General Manager
- tough/easy decision. Tough because I had worked extremely hard to get
were I was and I was doing very well (pride issue). Easy once the decision
was made and my husband told me " I will support you in any way possible".
I still had to work. We couldn't afford to live on one income because of
the child support that we paid for my husband's two children. Believe it or
not, I stepped from my position as manager and became a shift manager. My
schedule was more flexible. I worked when dh was at home. About 2 years
ago I quit working at the restaraunt and chose to work in a grocery store.
Best decision I ever made. The hours are flexible - they are opened 24
hours. I work at HyVee. I am sure there are some in Illinois. The pay was
less, but they have been so good about working around my schedule. If you
are what they consider a regular time employee they offer insurance, etc.
Their insurance is actually better than the insurance I had when I was
working 60 hours at the restaraunt. What I am trying to say is "where
there's a will, there's a way."
It will probably seem hectic at first - switching from going to work, to
staying at home. You will need to make some personal sacrifices - sleep
schedule, juggling activities between dh and dw. I can tell you, it's worth
it. We do not have the added expense of child care and we do not have the
exposure to every strain of colds/viruses that usually pass through daycare.
Sit down with your dh and look at it $$$ wise. The $300 I was paying for
childcare for 2 children was just about the difference of pay cut between me
going from salary to hourly. Plus my children were with me. We did go
through the owning only one car and driving each other back and forth - some
of those times were our best conversation and planning times. This is just
a suggestion. Good Luck!!!
I do wish to add that the best way to get dh to come around and support you
fully is to get him information. Ask some of the people on this site for
some resources!!
On Mon, 21 May 2001 18:05:14 -0000, [email protected]
wrote:
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will come around. My daughter went to public pre and K. While in K she
would mention continuously "so and so got in trouble today". It seemed as if
her attention was on those being punished instead of those being taught.
That and some personal decisions were our pull to homeschool.
If you can, get your dh to read some of the books that were suggested -
"just to get his opinion" - they love to give it. I am sure it will open
his eyes and his memory bank to the failings of ps.
As far as the financial stuff goes. When we made the decision to
homeschool, I made the decision to give up my position as a General Manager
- tough/easy decision. Tough because I had worked extremely hard to get
were I was and I was doing very well (pride issue). Easy once the decision
was made and my husband told me " I will support you in any way possible".
I still had to work. We couldn't afford to live on one income because of
the child support that we paid for my husband's two children. Believe it or
not, I stepped from my position as manager and became a shift manager. My
schedule was more flexible. I worked when dh was at home. About 2 years
ago I quit working at the restaraunt and chose to work in a grocery store.
Best decision I ever made. The hours are flexible - they are opened 24
hours. I work at HyVee. I am sure there are some in Illinois. The pay was
less, but they have been so good about working around my schedule. If you
are what they consider a regular time employee they offer insurance, etc.
Their insurance is actually better than the insurance I had when I was
working 60 hours at the restaraunt. What I am trying to say is "where
there's a will, there's a way."
It will probably seem hectic at first - switching from going to work, to
staying at home. You will need to make some personal sacrifices - sleep
schedule, juggling activities between dh and dw. I can tell you, it's worth
it. We do not have the added expense of child care and we do not have the
exposure to every strain of colds/viruses that usually pass through daycare.
Sit down with your dh and look at it $$$ wise. The $300 I was paying for
childcare for 2 children was just about the difference of pay cut between me
going from salary to hourly. Plus my children were with me. We did go
through the owning only one car and driving each other back and forth - some
of those times were our best conversation and planning times. This is just
a suggestion. Good Luck!!!
I do wish to add that the best way to get dh to come around and support you
fully is to get him information. Ask some of the people on this site for
some resources!!
On Mon, 21 May 2001 18:05:14 -0000, [email protected]
wrote:
> In continuation from my 1st Grade - part II posts earlier last week,_______________________________________________________
> I thought I would let you know that my dh is finally starting to let
> some of my "unschooling" information sink into his stubborn head.
>
> Over the weekend; He had made a comment to me about how our oldest dd
> (6) will be starting ps for 1st grade in Sept and that she will no
> longer be in the same daycare as our youngest dd (3). And that our
> youngest will be now be sortof on her own as well as the oldest -
> different schools, different friends, etc. I told him, "this doesnt
> have to be this way". DH then started to let all the uncertainties
> out. With all that was said, here is what I concluded:
>
> * He's afraid that I wont be able to stick with this and that its
> just a fad that I am not going to be able to keep up with. When he
> was saying this, I ultimately knew that he was envisioning a "school
> type" setting, with myself and dd's sitting and studing all day long
> with writing,reading & math books out all day long. I carefully
> explained that "life is learning" we will not be hitting the books
> daily and that I planned to help our dd's with whatever they thought
> was interesting and that the rest (reading, math, etc) will come
> naturally.
>
> * That they wont be able to fit into the "real" world. That the ps is
> preparing them for the environment (meaning people) outside and they
> should know how to "fit in". < Ok, these were'nt his real words, but
> they are very similar in meaning> We,(I), discussed that the real
> world sucks, that people we both know in our jobs are fake and try to
> be someone their not, that we ourselves don't "fit" in with the most
> of it. We do not hang around those we do not like or know who are
> fake and that ps brings the "fakeness" out in people. Our dd's would
> learn from us and end up being the person that they want to be, not
> someone that they "ought" to be. Another reply I had to him on this
> was, how was our dd benefiting from ps if she is going to be worried
> all the time about "fitting in"? My dh really contradicted himself
> alot in this area and in the end saw the unschooling in a new light
> (or at least I now think that he sees a light).
>
> * The rest of his unsecurities are more on a personal issue with the
> biggest still relating to financials. I will continue in my quest to
> be able to come up with someway of working pt from home to at least
> contribute some $ and continue to search out the medical/dental
> insurance issues we have.
>
> I thank you all for everyones help and advise. I would not have been
> able to get this far without it. By the way, does anyone have the
> website to Girl Scouts or Brownie Group for Illinois?
>
Send a cool gift with your E-Card
http://www.bluemountain.com/giftcenter/
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In a message dated 5/21/01 12:21:36 PM, tgraves@... writes:
<< By the way, does anyone have the
website to Girl Scouts or Brownie Group for Illinois? >>
OOh! Oooh!
I don't.
But there's a website that connects scouting (badges and such) with
homeschooling checklist-stuff which might make your husband feel better.
It's linked from http://expage.com/RadicalUnschooling
Go to the "homeschooling otherwise" link if it's not on the first page there.
Sandra
<< By the way, does anyone have the
website to Girl Scouts or Brownie Group for Illinois? >>
OOh! Oooh!
I don't.
But there's a website that connects scouting (badges and such) with
homeschooling checklist-stuff which might make your husband feel better.
It's linked from http://expage.com/RadicalUnschooling
Go to the "homeschooling otherwise" link if it's not on the first page there.
Sandra
Sharon Rudd
Dear Sandra......I just visited your web site.
Thanks! Now I know a little bit about where you are
comming from. Such energy and flair!!
http://expage.com/RadicalUnschooling
Sharon.......I am an anchorism
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Thanks! Now I know a little bit about where you are
comming from. Such energy and flair!!
http://expage.com/RadicalUnschooling
Sharon.......I am an anchorism
__________________________________________________
Do You Yahoo!?
Yahoo! Auctions - buy the things you want at great prices
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In a message dated 5/21/01 7:42:44 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
bearspawprint@... writes:
anachronism?
<g>
I hope you found stuff there you could use.
Thanks for the note.
Sandra
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bearspawprint@... writes:
>anchorite?
anachronism?
<g>
I hope you found stuff there you could use.
Thanks for the note.
Sandra
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(oops---thought that last one was private e-mail; I talked too loud! Sorry!)
Sandra
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Sandra
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