Re: [Unschooling-dotcom] Digest Number 1210
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In a message dated 5/6/01 10:46:26 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< kate mcdaniel wrote:
" Please give me one example of a child that was
"spanked" as means of correcting that
has been emotionally damaged. "
Sometimes what is more damaged by spanking a child is
the trust between parent and child not so much the
child themselves although that is obviously up for
debate here too.
Imagine yourself as a child loving and trusting, even
adoring this "big person" in your life who so far has
nurtured you and kept you safe in every way. Now
imagine that same person inflicting physical pain on
you for not knowing any better,for making a mistake,
for testing the world around you.
It seems very sad to me...
Yes you still love and adore that big person but do
you ever really trust that they won't hurt you? I
somehow doubt that.
We can say we don't remember the sadness and
humiliation of the spankings we recieved as children
all we want but the relationship between ourselves and
our parents changed from that first strike on. Trust
me it did.
Colleen in VT.
NICKI~
[email protected] writes:
<< kate mcdaniel wrote:
" Please give me one example of a child that was
"spanked" as means of correcting that
has been emotionally damaged. "
Sometimes what is more damaged by spanking a child is
the trust between parent and child not so much the
child themselves although that is obviously up for
debate here too.
Imagine yourself as a child loving and trusting, even
adoring this "big person" in your life who so far has
nurtured you and kept you safe in every way. Now
imagine that same person inflicting physical pain on
you for not knowing any better,for making a mistake,
for testing the world around you.
It seems very sad to me...
Yes you still love and adore that big person but do
you ever really trust that they won't hurt you? I
somehow doubt that.
We can say we don't remember the sadness and
humiliation of the spankings we recieved as children
all we want but the relationship between ourselves and
our parents changed from that first strike on. Trust
me it did.
Colleen in VT.
>>So well put.
NICKI~
[email protected]
In a message dated 5/6/01 10:46:26 PM Mountain Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< Actually, in quite a few states if a teacher or principal hits a student
it is
not termed assault at all. Even if injuries result and even if parents have
requested that their child not be physically disciplined.
Vicki >>
NO ONE touches my child inappropriately. You'd better believe I would take
this to the top and not another child would be struck by a teacher or
principle again.
NICKI~
[email protected] writes:
<< Actually, in quite a few states if a teacher or principal hits a student
it is
not termed assault at all. Even if injuries result and even if parents have
requested that their child not be physically disciplined.
Vicki >>
NO ONE touches my child inappropriately. You'd better believe I would take
this to the top and not another child would be struck by a teacher or
principle again.
NICKI~