Nanci Kuykendall

>my boys love to hammer, nail, etc. .......but I have
GREAT >difficulty in getting them to clean up for the
day >when they are done.
>Annette, in Indiana

I agree with whoever said that they should not have
the priveledge of using the items in question if they
do not care for them, and particularly if they are not
theirs. Another idea would be to get them their own
set and let them abuse it. If they ruin or lose them,
do not replace them. If they complain, remind them
that THEY decided not to care for their things.

My four year old is often incredibly ostinate. When
he has dumped his toys all over the floor and refuses
to pick them up, we remove every toy he will not pick
up to time out for a while (1 day, 2, or more). We
tell him that if he cannot care for them, he does not
need to have them. He used to have the kids' book
collection in his room, but whenever he got mad, he
would sweep clear the shelves into a big pile and
refuse to pick them up later. I warned him that he
would lose the books, and they have been happily
residing in his brother's room for some time now. My
four year old just recently got back the priveledge of
having books to take to bed with him. We have been
making sure that all bedtime books are cleared away to
the other room before tucking him in for the night.

Nanci K.


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