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In a message dated 4/17/1 11:17:38 PM, [email protected]
writes:

<<when there is no one to argue with you, it changes everything i think.
you're sounding like you expect a trial to determine whether or not you
are a fit parent. i think that only comes into play if someone else is
standing there wanting custody of your children.
>>

Thanks so far to Lisa, Juli and Carolyn. I think you are right above,
Carolyn. During this time, I was also disabled from a motorcycle accident I
was in with him and I've worried about that, and you know what it is really-
I have had no support from family at all (upon finding out how badly I was
hurt and that her father had left us- my brother told my then two year old
that she needed to go home with him- it really cut me to the core. If he
were the last human on earth, she would NEVER go with him or anyone else in
my family of origin), and the more hurt and in pain I was, the more they
tried to scare me with all kinds of things. My family is crazy. Very
self-centered people. I think because they have given me such a hard time in
the past (now, I am much better and everything is coming together- so I don't
care much or allow them to hurt me any longer- I will also be leaving them
behind soon), I have had this fear that a higher "authority" will try to hurt
me or judge me in some way and I'll have to explain myself. It does make
sense inside my heart and mind that they won't even ask me anything. I
really know it will come together very easily, in the way that Ariel and I
need.

Boy, what a load off my shoulders this is! :-) I guess I just need(ed) some
reassurance. I've had a tough time with people (usually those supposedly
'close' to me) judging me and my life. When it is the best and most pleasant
life for us I know. I'm starting to believe that people are actually jealous
of the way we choose to live our lives, and in this jealousy, they try to
hurt us.

Thank you! Vic

Nancy from MI

--- In Unschooling-dotcom@y..., noni411@a... wrote:

> My family is crazy. Very self-centered people. I think because
they
>have given me such a hard time in the past (now, I am much better
and
>everything is coming together- so I don't care much or allow them to
>hurt me any longer- I will also be leaving them behind soon)...

**Vic, I have endured the same thing from my own siblings and
parents. I am different from them and they can't handle it, so they
have chosen to say all kinds of awful, hurtful things to me. They are
nuts.

> .... of the way we choose to live our lives, and in this jealousy,
>they try to hurt us.

**Yes, for me, after some therapy, I realized it was jealousy, too.
It sucks, doesn't it? People (mostly family, for me) get jealous just
because I'm living my life MY way. Most people don't have the guts to
live their lives in their own way, so I can understand the jealousy
they harbor at people that do. I don't say the jealousy is right, I
just understand where they are coming from. Do you have supportive
friends? I believe we have two families in this life: the one we were
born into and the one we form with friends that love us for who we
are and what we try to do. I have lots of friends that think I am a
wonderful person and they can't understand WHERE my family comes off
thinking that way about me!

Feel free to e-mail me off list if you need to talk more.

~Nancy