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In a message dated 4/2/01 8:30:12 PM, collettemattingly@... writes:

<< Bobbie, I think it is better to think too much than not at all. There are
too many people that walk around with their heads up their you-know-whats so
we have to do the thinking for them. I do think a lot but I don't worry...I
take action. >>

Sometimes if there's no action to take, thinking a lot can be turned to
compassion. Think soothing thought-blankets over the other people who are
irritating you. If another driver turns without a signal or some irritating
thing, give them the possibility that they've had a horrible day and if you
were their friend you could follow them home and give them a hug (instead of
thinking they're stupid and didn't take driver's ed or they hate you and
wanted you to rear-end them).

If you think zippy 110-mph all the time, consciously aim it toward a happy
memory, maybe get some postcards and address them to far away friends, and
when you're about to think yourself into a frenzy that needs calming tea or
diarrhea (I'm not planning to learn to spell that, I just throw some letters
on it and sometimes it's right and often it's wrong) medicine, sit and write
something sweet to one of your friends and THAT will add to your store of
happy memories.

It's a kind of behavioral reconditioning, but it's cheap (free) and easy
(when you remember) and will truly make a difference in your calmness and
happiness.

Sandra

Bobbie

Thankyou, Sandra. These are things I used to do, but
have really been out of it lately, who knows why.
Belated adjustment to Dad's death, or awkward
adjustment to new house, life, relationship...who
knows. I really don't think in as morbid of a way as I
sounded in that post, but like I said, when I worry
without reason and I know I'm doing it, then I feel
like I am being a very morbid person...in comparison
to the very peaceful, compassionate person I was
awhile ago. ( I actually got teased by my family for
being that way to an extreme, so they felt guilty any
time they complained about anyone or thing. <g>)I know
all these things that have been suggested to me, all
the breathing excercizes and yoga and relaxation
techniques, etc. work for me, but I am just trying to
put them into practice lately, and having a hard time
doing it in the hectic-ness of daily life. Thanks to
everyone for suggesting and caring and actually
reading that long tangent of mine. I was not as
troubled as I seemed, but I tend to get carried away
when writing about...anything. :)
Thanks, again. Caring posts are so nice to hear.
-Bobbie
--- SandraDodd@... wrote:
>
> In a message dated 4/2/01 8:30:12 PM,
> collettemattingly@... writes:
>
> << Bobbie, I think it is better to think too much
> than not at all. There are
> too many people that walk around with their heads up
> their you-know-whats so
> we have to do the thinking for them. I do think a
> lot but I don't worry...I
> take action. >>
>
> Sometimes if there's no action to take, thinking a
> lot can be turned to
> compassion. Think soothing thought-blankets over
> the other people who are
> irritating you. If another driver turns without a
> signal or some irritating
> thing, give them the possibility that they've had a
> horrible day and if you
> were their friend you could follow them home and
> give them a hug (instead of
> thinking they're stupid and didn't take driver's ed
> or they hate you and
> wanted you to rear-end them).
>
> If you think zippy 110-mph all the time, consciously
> aim it toward a happy
> memory, maybe get some postcards and address them to
> far away friends, and
> when you're about to think yourself into a frenzy
> that needs calming tea or
> diarrhea (I'm not planning to learn to spell that, I
> just throw some letters
> on it and sometimes it's right and often it's wrong)
> medicine, sit and write
> something sweet to one of your friends and THAT will
> add to your store of
> happy memories.
>
> It's a kind of behavioral reconditioning, but it's
> cheap (free) and easy
> (when you remember) and will truly make a difference
> in your calmness and
> happiness.
>
> Sandra
>


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